DD's bio dad has never been around in her life. Ever.
When I was dating him, I heard rumors about him having children, but he never talked about them or saw them so I thought they were just rumors.
When we broke up and I found out I was pregnant I got curious about the other kids. I found out he had a (then) 6 year old boy in the same town as me. I even found the mother's name.
I heard another rumor about a baby in Tennessee, where he lived for a year. I dug a lot and found he was on the birth certificate of a little boy who was (then) 3 years old.
I heard more rumors about a child in Kentucky, where he also lived at one point, but I never dug into that. I don't doubt it, though.

So for certain DD has 2 older brothers. Lately I've been thinking a lot about them and I would like to meet them, but I don't know if I should or how I would even go about it.

I think DD deserves to know at least she has brothers out there and maybe know who they are.
The only think I would be worried about is the mothers taking offense to it. It might be a sore subject because BD didn't care for their children either.

What should I do? Should I look into trying to find these people or should I leave well enough alone? I'm torn.

I would try, the worst they'll say is no. I know even though my bio dad was a deadbeat I still loved meeting my siblings (I had like 6 lol) its good for us to be there for each other since we were all feeling the same.

Go for it! My cousion is 16 and just recently was contacted by 2 women who turned out to be her biological sisters. They are working on building a relationship now but all wish that they had found eachother sooner.

I think you should do it

How would I even start finding these people, though? I'm not a very good detective, lol.

I honestly would leave it alone ,but that's just me.

I would!

I've never met my dad. But, when I was 12 my older sister contacted me trying to make a connection. Now I have a relationship with her, two other sisters, and an older brother (I'm the youngest), and I LOVE having them in my life.

And if they say they'd rather not be in contact, well there's no harm done.

Quoting Minion:" DD's bio dad has never been around in her life. Ever. When I was dating him, I heard rumors about him ... [snip!] ... either. What should I do? Should I look into trying to find these people or should I leave well enough alone? I'm torn."

I have no experience in this area, but based on how young your daughter looks in your profile, i would think you should wait until she is a little older. Who knows what the other moms and kids know or think about their bio dad. It may be too confusing and possibly a negative experience for all.
I'd wait until she was older BUT I'd probably contact the other moms and let them know of your existence so that you can keep in touch.

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I agree.

Quoting TheNuge:" I have no experience in this area, but based on how young your daughter looks in your profile, i would ... [snip!] ... until she was older BUT I'd probably contact the other moms and let them know of your existence so that you can keep in touch."

Yeah, DD is only 3.

I'd leave it alone. I found out at 18 years old I had 3 other half siblings....Messed up my whole world. And honestly I hate all 3 of them . They're all douche bags and resent me and my sister for growing up with a mom and a dad. =/

I would not wait, I met my sister at 15 and it sucked. We hated each other and still barely get along. Then I met my brother at 16 and yeah.. we also have no relationship. I think we all might have if we knew each other growing up.

Go for it. Like the others said the worst that can happen is they say no.
My mom found my sister and we are now fairly close   It didn't effect our mothers at all. And I now actually know my family from his side too.

I'd leave it alone for now. Your daughter and both children are still young, they're not going to understand the situation and it could potentially cause issues with the mothers.

When I was 5-6 my half brother's mother left the state with him, I was old enough to remember him, but he didn't remember me, he was 1-2 . I lived in Maryland and he lived in Florida, and I couldn't understand why I couldn't see my brother. My father paid child support, but never saw him since my brother's mother and him ended on bad terms. My father didn't even speak to him once after the split. I always wanted to know more about him, but no one was willing to dig or give me the chance. It wasn't until I was 18 almost 19 that I decided to look up him and his older brother on MySpace. I found him, sent him a message that contained information that only someone close to him would know, and waited for a reply. It took him a while to reply, but when he did he was so confused. His mother kept our father a secret, my father's name wasn't to be spoken by his older brother or anyone else, and he didn't even know he had an older sister. I felt like total smurf for letting that out, I acted out on impulse. Although I felt bad, I do find comfort in that he was older. He was able to ask his mother questions, me, and his brother to fill in the blanks. He was old enough to some what understand the situation. This is just my personal experience, but like I said I think you should wait. Maybe reach out in a few years when the kids can understand, meet the mothers first, feel them out, see if they're worth having in your child's life.