re: Deadbeat

Quoting lillys'mommy:" yeah i know =[ i havnt even bothered with him since then. i gave him one more chance when it came to ... [snip!] ... here...i mean i have all this in emails he had sent to me, so i could possibly use that as proof if it comes down to it, right?"

It won't try to be. So don't even wonder about it. And the e-mails won't matter. The courts believe that the father becomes a father and has the right to change any damn time they please... but he won't. So just stop bothering and stressing about it. STOP thinking that it is HIS child, and KNOW that she is only yours.

Quoting Is that still my name?:" It won't try to be. So don't even wonder about it. And the e-mails won't matter. The courts believe ... [snip!] ... he won't. So just stop bothering and stressing about it. STOP thinking that it is HIS child, and KNOW that she is only yours."

i know, my whole family tells me the same thing. i just keep on thinking that its my fault that my daughter wont have her daddy. i keep thinking that if i didnt leave him then he wouldnt resent her like he does. but your right, shes MY daughter and if he doesnt want anything to do with her then its his loss...right?

Quoting lillys'mommy:" i know, my whole family tells me the same thing. i just keep on thinking that its my fault that my daughter ... [snip!] ... her like he does. but your right, shes MY daughter and if he doesnt want anything to do with her then its his loss...right?"

You can't even think of it as "his loss" because to him and his heartless psyscho self, he never had anything in the first place. I made the mistake of trying and trying thinking one day he'll come around, but he never will. Neither of my children's pathetic excuse for males did. And I had A LOT of people on BG tell me what I am telling you. YOU are MUCH BETTER OFF not trying at all. However I wish they would have said, you and your daughter are not losing or missing out either.... you are not missing out on having another parent, you are GAINING the ability to make your lifes better by NOT having him around. You are GAINING NOT LOSING. Rememeber that... And it is NOT your fault... you can't move on your make the right choices for yourself until you admit to yourself you did NOTHING wrong.. NOTHING, even if you wish you could have done something different, he STILL would be like this today, because it is WHO HE IS. It has NOTHING to do with you or her. Period.

Quoting Is that still my name?:" You can't even think of it as "his loss" because to him and his heartless psyscho self, he never had ... [snip!] ... something different, he STILL would be like this today, because it is WHO HE IS. It has NOTHING to do with you or her. Period."

you are absolutely right... hes a worthless piece of crap and always will be...

Quoting lillys'mommy:" you are absolutely right... hes a worthless piece of crap and always will be..."

Just remind yourself of that everytime you start wondering again. lol

Quoting Is that still my name?:" Yes. I feel the exact same you described. The reason I fought so hard FAAARRRR beyond stupidity, was ... [snip!] ... who would be more of a father to her than he could ever be. And that keeps me strong for her... it's always been about her."

And THAT is the right attitude, mama.
Keep on keepin on.

Quoting K. P. Walsh:" And THAT is the right attitude, mama. Keep on keepin on."

Word up! lol