Quoting lillys'mommy:" i know, my whole family tells me the same thing. i just keep on thinking that its my fault that my daughter ... [snip!] ... her like he does. but your right, shes MY daughter and if he doesnt want anything to do with her then its his loss...right?"
You can't even think of it as "his loss" because to him and his heartless psyscho self, he never had anything in the first place. I made the mistake of trying and trying thinking one day he'll come around, but he never will. Neither of my children's pathetic excuse for males did. And I had A LOT of people on BG tell me what I am telling you. YOU are MUCH BETTER OFF not trying at all. However I wish they would have said, you and your daughter are not losing or missing out either.... you are not missing out on having another parent, you are GAINING the ability to make your lifes better by NOT having him around. You are GAINING NOT LOSING. Rememeber that... And it is NOT your fault... you can't move on your make the right choices for yourself until you admit to yourself you did NOTHING wrong.. NOTHING, even if you wish you could have done something different, he STILL would be like this today, because it is WHO HE IS. It has NOTHING to do with you or her. Period.