Ouch!

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Quoting PooterButt'sMommy:" so my issues with my weight keep coming up and DH just keeps telling me to do something about it- go ... [snip!] ... this really hurt, esp since i've struggled with my weight since i hit puberty... idk if i should just let it go or what.."

Damn why is he putting you down like that. He should be making you feel sexy no matter how you look! I would smack the ever loving smurf out of SO if he EVER said anything like that to me!

We are really hard on our spouses, we want them to be honest with us about this stuff and when they are we get hurt. It's a lose-lose.

Yeeeaahh... That was a total dick move. Sorry hun, men can be so damn insensitive. Your trying, and he doesnt have the right ever to make you feel bad about yourself. Have you had yor thyroid checked?

I sure the hell wouldn't! Dh would never tell me I was fat. And he sure the hell wouldn't have room to talk if he did. But both our bodies are going to change and we are totally prepared for that.

That was assholish of him but I'd take it as motivation to get myself back into shape

I would beat the smurf out of SO if he EVER said that smurf to me. Mofo, you shouldn't be with me because of how i LOOK, you should love me for ME.

Bastard >.<

What an smurf.

I don't have any advice. I'm still in shock that someone would talk to their significant other like that..

My DH says I'm se y blah, blah, smurfing blah. We have been asking about another baby or not... He's not agreeing to another pregnancy until I get down to pre kids weight and I have one year to lose it and we can start TTC or not. Ifi haven't made substantial progress or reached the goal, he's getting snipped. But he won't out right call me fat. :/

My DH has said smurf like that. I tell him that it's the pot calling the kettle black because he had gained weight too. I dress nicely for my size so I feel ok about myself most of the time.

Quoting BoysAreMessy:" We are really hard on our spouses, we want them to be honest with us about this stuff and when they are we get hurt. It's a lose-lose."

this is what i just thought about. i guess i should commend him for the honesty, but it still hurt.

Quoting boobook:" My DH says I'm se y blah, blah, smurfing blah. We have been asking about another baby or not... He's not ... [snip!] ... or not. Ifi haven't made substantial progress or reached the goal, he's getting snipped. But he won't out right call me fat. :/"

Why... ?  
I don't understand why he would not want another child unless you were a certain weight.. that doesn't even make sense to me.

Quoting Rawkel.:" Why... ?   I don't understand why he would not want another child unless you were a certain weight.. that doesn't even make sense to me."

It seems like he doesn't really CARE if they have another one or not ... :/

Quoting Soon 2B Mom of 2:" Yeeeaahh... That was a total dick move. Sorry hun, men can be so damn insensitive. Your trying, and he doesnt have the right ever to make you feel bad about yourself. Have you had yor thyroid checked?"

no i haven't. i told him i walked 3 days in the last wk and he said it wasn't enough. i need to try harder. he's also always bringing up the lingerie when we walk past in walmart. "i can't wait till i can get you in one of those". but he's not willing to work with me.

Quoting PooterButt'sMommy:" this is what i just thought about. i guess i should commend him for the honesty, but it still hurt."

I lost 90 pounds before this pregnancy and never once while I had those 90 pounds did my husband say a word. AFTER I started losing was when he opened up about how unattractive I was, and it still hurt then, but goodness it sure kept me motivated.