re: Ouch!

Quoting PooterButt'sMommy:" this is what i just thought about. i guess i should commend him for the honesty, but it still hurt."

There is a difference in being honest, and being mean. What he said what mean, and hurtfull, and that is not ok.

Quoting BoysAreMessy:" I lost 90 pounds before this pregnancy and never once while I had those 90 pounds did my husband say ... [snip!] ... losing was when he opened up about how unattractive I was, and it still hurt then, but goodness it sure kept me motivated."

idk, lately i feel like its a lost cause and want to just give up.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rawkel.:</b>" Why... ?   I don't understand why he would not want another child unless you were a certain weight.. that doesn't even make sense to me."</blockquote>

He says and I quote, "if you're getting number 4, I'm getting something out of it too". But then he says stuff like When we have another baby.... So it's not just me that wants another.

Quoting Soon 2B Mom of 2:" There is a difference in being honest, and being mean. What he said what mean, and hurtfull, and that is not ok."

I agree! Don't let him take to you like that!

Quoting PooterButt'sMommy:" so my issues with my weight keep coming up and DH just keeps telling me to do something about it- go ... [snip!] ... this really hurt, esp since i've struggled with my weight since i hit puberty... idk if i should just let it go or what.."

I'm sorry if it hurts. It does suck, but it's also a truth. If you are a LOT heavier, he may still love you a lot but not find you attractive. You can't really be upset with him for that. He shouldn't be pushing you about it, but being honest is important.

Also, just an FYI, the more you work out the better you feel very often. A great way to get out of a funk is to do something new, like taking your kid for a walk around the neighborhood and stuff.

I'm just saying, when I started losing weight, my Husband told me how good I looked since I started losing, and how he could really see the difference, and he encouraged and supported me, and that was my motivation. Not telling me it isnt enough, and making me feel like smurf. You need to talk to him seriously. Its not ok for him to make you feel like that at all. As for you losing weight, you can do it. It is a lifestyle change and it is hard, but yo can do it!!! Also see a doc, because if you have been struggling for that long, it could be a medical problem.

Quoting BoysAreMessy:" We are really hard on our spouses, we want them to be honest with us about this stuff and when they are we get hurt. It's a lose-lose."

i kind of agree with this.

The only thing you can do IS to exercise and eat healthy. Trust me I know it is hard though. I just started working about like a week ago and I hate hate hate doing it but afterwards I have so much energy and I'm so proud of myself. I have a work out video and do it while DD is sleeping. Maybe you could try doing something like that. But it was very wrong/hurt what he said. Did you tell him it hurt you (sorry if you answered this didn't read all the responses to this post)

Quoting she nan igans:" I'm sorry if it hurts. It does suck, but it's also a truth. If you are a LOT heavier, he may still love ... [snip!] ... A great way to get out of a funk is to do something new, like taking your kid for a walk around the neighborhood and stuff."

that's what i had heard, that got me started walking above all else. that and it give me and DD time alone.

Quoting PooterButt'sMommy:" that's what i had heard, that got me started walking above all else. that and it give me and DD time alone."

It's totally true. When I started working out I felt like I had more energy. It's a nice endorphin rush! Also, it gives you some confidence which is great. It gave me a sense of pride.