I feel like it's coming down to this...

SO has been asking me to move in with him for a while now. I keep saying no, because I'm not sure if he's ready to go from live-alone bachelor to living full time with me and my LO.
He says he is, I just have had worries that it would ruin our relationship.

But things at home for me are getting unbearable. I was working 30 hrs a week. My mom watches my son for me. She is a SAHM, but all of the kids are in school now. My youngest sister is 11. I go into work at 3 and work til 9. She wakes up, drops my sister off at school, goes back to bed at 10 and sleeps til 230 when I leave. I do not make enough money to cover the cost of daycare and all my other bills, but she constantly bitches while I'm at work sending me texts telling me how "bad" LO is, how she can't stand watching him, etc. Now, he is a handful, but most kids are a little rowdy when they don't go outside and sit inside watching TV. I take him outside while I'm home, but while I'm at work I know he is sitting in the house getting in trouble for every little thing. I told her I was going to get subsidized daycare, and I got bitched at. I am such a bad mom, I am a smurffy mother, all of those daycares are horrible, etc etc.

So they keep telling me they will watch him, but then they bitch. It's this endless cycle. I come home from work, and more than half the time he is sitting in time out, or crying because my younger sister (11) has hit him or pinched him. He usually has welts from being pinched or smaller handprints from being smacked which I know belong to my sister. If I say anything about it, I am commanded to move out. I am ungrateful. He is a brat. He was being annoying.... those kinds of responses. I get along great with my dad. He does a lot for this family and he has always taken care of me and been there for me. He busts his ass. But I can't stand my mom and the way she acts. I pay for all of my own food, anything I need for me or my son I pay for. I have my phone bill, car insurance, health insurance, and some credit card bills I pay for as well as my student loans. I give my dad money every month as rent money. But according to my mom it is my fault she and my dad are in debt. They were on vacation, I stayed at home with LO because I had work. I came home and the power had been shut off with a notice in the door that my mom owed the power company 1300 dollars. I called her and told her and she freaked out. Saying I am running up the power bill. I need to give them more money, etc.

I just can't stand living with them anymore. Every night I come home and I see my son unhappy in the situation. I want him to be happy. I don't want him in trouble or pinched or smacked for being "annoying." I don't want to be told constantly that I am ungrateful when I AM grateful.

And I know it's not the best reason to move in with someone... But I am going to talk to SO tonight and see what he thinks. I feel like it's my best option right now...

****Oh, and please do not quote.
End vent.

You should move IMO your baby doesn't need to be treated like that/in that kind of environment.

You know whats best for you and your LO. If you think moving in with SO is best, then go for it! Best of luck to you.

I would move in with your SO.

how well does your SO get along with your son?...if he is good with your son and WANTS you to move in then I say give it a try..obviously he wants to move forward in your relationship.

Oh my sounds like you son is being abused.I would never allow anyone hit/leave marks on my sons body,i would have been long gone by now!You need to leave IMO.

I say go for it if you have a good relationship with your so and him withyour son. Sure it will be hard adjusting but if he feels ready then I don't think it will hurt.

Seriously, I feel like I just read my own story. Me aned my so moved in together with my lo (not his) june 1. My mom was the same exactg way exact she's retired and works as a real estate agent and my stepdad works. My mom and I get alomg a lot better now and our relationship is a lot different now that I moved out. I still have to pay my mom to watch my son when I work bc she's ridiculous but shell always complaining to. Get out of that situation and if you love so than move in with him. My so babysits my son when I was working on his days off so we didn't have to pay my mom as much and he really is more of a dad than my sons sperm donor. I think you'll know whether or not its working in the first few months. My so was always great with my lo but he didn't actually step up and act like a parent until we moved in together.

I forgot to mention this in the OP but SO lives 4 hours away. He comes down to see me because I can't afford to make the trips there. It would be a huge adjustment for me to move that far away and I know it would be a huge adjustment for my LO too... but I feel like that might be the best thing to do...

Quoting A&J. ♥:" I forgot to mention this in the OP but SO lives 4 hours away. He comes down to see me because I can't ... [snip!] ... that far away and I know it would be a huge adjustment for my LO too... but I feel like that might be the best thing to do..."

i think it would be worth it in the long run.

<blockquote><b>Quoting A&J. ♥:</b>" I forgot to mention this in the OP but SO lives 4 hours away. He comes down to see me because I can't ... [snip!] ... that far away and I know it would be a huge adjustment for my LO too... but I feel like that might be the best thing to do..."</blockquote>


I still say go for it. The environment your in now is not good for your lo.

I think moving in with your SO is best. Change is good  
The way your LO is being treated is ridiculous, and the fact that your sister is 11 and is hitting a small child and such...that would smurfing put me over the edge.

Quoting InkDMomma:" ."

It DOES. Seriously it makes me want to smack her in return. She is never in trouble for anything. She has an iPad that she sits on all night long and if he is too "loud" or "annoying" while she's face timing with her friends and doing some other bullsmurf, she smacks him or pinches him. and if he does something in return, he is in trouble. Its crazy. I am at my wit's end.

Quoting A&J. ♥:" It DOES. Seriously it makes me want to smack her in return. She is never in trouble for anything. She ... [snip!] ... she smacks him or pinches him. and if he does something in return, he is in trouble. Its crazy. I am at my wit's end. "

that would not happen....I live with my mom and my sister knows if she lays a hand on my son her life is in jeopardy.

Quoting Mrs.O!:" that would not happen....I live with my mom and my sister knows if she lays a hand on my son her life is in jeopardy."

That's how I feel. I have like murderous thoughts towards her when she does this lol. Well not really murderous, but very very angry. I have seen her smack him, pinch him, push him so hard that he falls and hits his face on the floor (we have hard woods)

Also I came home from work one night and he had to scratch marks on his neck that were obviously bleeding at some point, because they were healing over but still irritated.
Apparently while I was gone, he put one of her scarves around his neck and she got angry and pulled it off of him, scratching his neck in the process. Did she get in trouble? Nope. She just got told "not to do that"