What should I do??

My mom and MIL said they would go in together for my baby shower (they offered) but neither has talked to the other at all! My mom is wanting to just do a drop-in and my MIL wants to do the traditional! I really wanted the traditional type but I don't know how to bring it up to my mom! I mean I know she means well but she is just acting like she doesn't want to be bothered by it! PLUS my baby shower is supposed to be October 20th but I don't even think she has invited anyone yet! At first I told them don't worry about it because I didn't want to be tacky and have another baby shower (I had one with my DD but didn't have one with my DS) but they kept insisting, so I caved. Anyways My MIL has been calling me asking me what my mom still needs and stuff like that but I have no idea what to tell her as my mom and her haven't talked and I haven't been able to get in touch with my mom! (She is always working,) I don't want to make my mom feel bad or pressured but I feel like after all of the hassle of getting me to agree to have a baby shower she should at least have the decency to actually do it! KWIM? SO my question is....What should I do?

I'd ask wtf is going on with it. Time is ticking and if they want guests to show up they need to give time to do so.

It is not tacky to ask what is going on with something like this.

That's what I was thinking ! I mean I don't want to hassle them but they hassled me in the first place about it!

Quoting mommyashley!:" That's what I was thinking ! I mean I don't want to hassle them but they hassled me in the first place about it!"

Especially since THEY wanted to do this to begin with.

Maybe contact some friends that you want to come and see if they are even available to come, then move forward with it. Pointless to have it now if no one can come because they dicked off this far and havent invited anyone. I have always been told to invite people at least a month in advance with something like this.

Just call her and ask what all she has ready because the deadline to have it all pulled together is next Friday....Reassure her if she is too busy you will handle it and then go to you MIL and work things out...too easy..she is your mom..last thing she wants is to be the blame for a messed up baby shower.

same here! I just text her asking WTF was going on! I mean isn't she supposed to send out the invitations?? My sister threw my first baby shower and she did the invites and everything, she just asked me who I wanted to come! lol Wish my sissy wasn't sick this go around! maybe with the text she will let me know something!

Quoting VERONICA. MOM OF 6:" Just call her and ask what all she has ready because the deadline to have it all pulled together is next ... [snip!] ... you MIL and work things out...too easy..she is your mom..last thing she wants is to be the blame for a messed up baby shower."

Well they asked me about going in together but they haven't even talked ! They didn't want the other to foot the whole thing by themselves and I thought it was a great idea! But neither is really making an attempt to contact the other so I guess they expect me to be the go between!

Quoting mommyashley!:" Well they asked me about going in together but they haven't even talked ! They didn't want the other ... [snip!] ... was a great idea! But neither is really making an attempt to contact the other so I guess they expect me to be the go between!"

Tell your mom since she is sooo busy your MIL will take care of the shower and whatever the final cost is they can split it in the end or your mom can write the MIL a check.

Quoting VERONICA. MOM OF 6:" Tell your mom since she is sooo busy your MIL will take care of the shower and whatever the final cost is they can split it in the end or your mom can write the MIL a check."

That is a really good idea! I mean I know my mom wants to do it but she works 50-60 hrs/wk and Plus she is trying to help my brother that I don't know how she figured she could do this too!

Quoting VERONICA. MOM OF 6:" Tell your mom since she is sooo busy your MIL will take care of the shower and whatever the final cost is they can split it in the end or your mom can write the MIL a check."

That's a great idea! That's what my mom is doing, my MIL isn't great at planning, (we found that out when they threw SO and I our wedding shower, my mom ended up taking over the whole thing, which I was happy about) she doesn't ask my opinion on things and just goes out and does them, so my mom (who always asks my opinion because she wants me to be happy) is planning everything and then telling my MIL how much she owes her at the end of the shower.

Any chance they would each throw you one? Then, if certain people can't come cause of work or other plans they have another date?

Quoting Krystal McCracken:" Any chance they would each throw you one? Then, if certain people can't come cause of work or other plans they have another date?"

Not really they wanted to do it together so that neither would have to pay for the whole thing by themselves. It is still going to be kinda small but that is what i told them I wanted! lol I don't want them to go broke trying to throw a party when the money could be spent on the baby. We have already invited about 40 people but I'm pretty positive only about half will end up showing.

Aww well I hope it turns out good, when is it? If you invited me I'd make sure your lil baby girl got somethin' good! If you can't I completly understand since we've not seen each other in a while and the shower is already planned.

Krystal!! You should know me better than that! Of course you are invited! It is Oct. 20th at 2:00 at Holiday Inn (Exit 7). I sent out invites on my facebook thought I had you on there but I just looked and you weren't on my friends list?!?!

Well, ya do now! I'll try my best 2 make it, I work every Saturday, and have too many requests off this month, but when I leave I may have time to come by. Hope I can, it'd be great to see you again! Oh, and I had to switch my facebook, I forgot to logout at my moms and my sister got my password, I'm pretty sure you were on my old one cant remember though.