re: both guys want me to get an abortion? Should I?

aortion seems ideal it just makes me sad. And it makes me feel just like a bad persson. I have no support emotionally I'm rigt now in a homeless shelter and have een clean 4 weeks. But I guess I just wish if they were more supportive I'd feel maybe like I didn't have to like perhaps there was another option....

Quoting teenpreggowithtwins:" aortion seems ideal it just makes me sad. And it makes me feel just like a bad persson. I have no support ... [snip!] ... I guess I just wish if they were more supportive I'd feel maybe like I didn't have to like perhaps there was another option...."

Do you have family you can turn to?

Quoting teenpreggowithtwins:" aortion seems ideal it just makes me sad. And it makes me feel just like a bad persson. I have no support ... [snip!] ... I guess I just wish if they were more supportive I'd feel maybe like I didn't have to like perhaps there was another option...."

Look at it this way, There are a lot of single women who have to make the decision for THEMSELVES. You can't let anyone make the decision for you, it's your body, your choice, so really like we are all saying it's up to you hun...

Quoting teenpreggowithtwins:" aortion seems ideal it just makes me sad. And it makes me feel just like a bad persson. I have no support ... [snip!] ... I guess I just wish if they were more supportive I'd feel maybe like I didn't have to like perhaps there was another option...."

You're not a bad person should you choose abortion. Get clean, get your life together, then you can have kids, yaknow?

But you do have more options-- just so you know.

<blockquote><b>Quoting teenpreggowithtwins:</b>" aortion seems ideal it just makes me sad. And it makes me feel just like a bad persson. I have no support ... [snip!] ... I guess I just wish if they were more supportive I'd feel maybe like I didn't have to like perhaps there was another option...."</blockquote>




abortion does seem like a fair option, you would not be a bad person for choosing that route. Why bring a child into an unstable situation? You are not in the least selfish for thinking about the babies' quality of life.

Quoting teenpreggowithtwins:" aortion seems ideal it just makes me sad. And it makes me feel just like a bad persson. I have no support ... [snip!] ... I guess I just wish if they were more supportive I'd feel maybe like I didn't have to like perhaps there was another option...."

Everyone makes mistakes, it does not make you a bad person to make some bad choices.

Best of luck to you

only you can choose what is right for you...doesn't matter what anyone else feels. I know, from experience, that if you abort for any reason other than your own you will always doubt the choice...but if you decide for yourself that it is best then you can be at peace with your choice.

Quoting Maria DeLeon:" only you can choose what is rigt for you...doesn't matter what anyone else feels. I know, from experience, ... [snip!] ... own you will always doubt the coice...but if you decide for yourself that it is best then you can be at peace with your choice."

 

Quoting .Colleen.:" Everyone makes mistakes, it does not make you a bad person to make some bad choices. Best of luck to you"

 

There have been plenty of women in your situation...they aren't "bad" people. You are taking the steps to change your life, and that shows a lot about your character. Addiction is hard to get out of, but you really need to take this time for YOU imo. If you decide to keep them, you'll need to change even more to keep them healthy. If you don't, then absolutely no one would blame you, doll.

Quoting The Doctor:" You're not a bad person should you choose abortion. Get clean, get your life together, then you can have kids, yaknow? But you do have more options-- just so you know."

 


Adoption is not easy. If you feel that you cannot do the abortion start looking into adoption right away. You are going to have to say clean and eat healthy and get prenatal check ups and all of that during this pregnancy. Can you handle that?

I'm not all that well-read on pregnancy, but I didn't know you could tell it was twins at 8 weeks. I guess that makes sense though, now that I think about it. Pretty sure I had an ultrasound at 8 weeks and we saw him just fine, though he looked more like a bean than a human.

Anyway. If the reason you're contemplating termination is because the two guys want you to make that decision, don't do it. I can't imagine what the (potential) eventual regret would feel like after being pressured into choosing something so permanent when you're in a vulnerable state (I do not mean to suggest that abortion = regret.)

Just think about it in regards to you. Whether or not you're ready to really kick the habit (it's wonderful that you want to try), figure out a living situation, be able to start bringing in a steady income (if you aren't already), and start providing for two little ones, probably without the help of your ex/his friend.

Quoting Snotface♫[usmc]:" Honestly, adoption isn't as easy as a lot of people believe."

I am not saying I'd do it because of ease.

my family's given up on me pretty much. They did agree to pay for it though...

I know I can have more kids at another time it's just sad I'll never get to meet these. But it is overwhelming to consider going throug pregnancy now. I'm doing it ecause I don't have confidence in how I can do it alone and how I can keep ky life together. Ut I feel like a loser for it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Mama G*:</b>" I am not saying I'd do it because of ease."</blockquote>




This is a protected forum. She didn't say anything about adoption, so neither should you.

Quoting Katey Saewert:"

Read the forum rules you dickhead.