Quoting round3:" I have a 3 year old, a 10 month old who I am home with all day and I'm pregnant. I'm very anemic (my ... [snip!] ... that we "never" do... How do I help him understand it has absolutely nothing to do with him? I am just way to smurfing drained!"
I went through something similar with my Husband, and honestly we fought all the damn time over it. Just keep talking, and trying to make him understand. It takes alot of patience on your part. Which is crap lol, but true. Also I told My husband not to take my word on it, I told him to research how many pregnant women, or women who just had a baby were having the same issues as me (No sex drive, extreme pain during sex) and that helped him alot. After about a year of this probelm, I learned that just because it hurts me, and I dont want it, that doesnt mean I can completely ignore his needs (he gets sex once a week at most) and he learned if I say no, he doesnt get to be a douche bag, or an ass about it. We never fight about it anymore. Good luck hun, hope this helps.