Do you ever take.

A Mommy-only vacation? Just one day where you're all alone, surrounded by quiet?

I smurfing want one so bad!

I just want one day to myself, with no cooking, cleaning, ass wiping, driving, yelling, crying, whining, laundry, and all the other stuff that comes with being a mom and person maid.

My day from 6am to 11pm.
6am- Walk up, get the babies dressed and changed, make SOs lunch, drive his ass a half hour to work.

7:30am- Get home, make breakfast.
After breakfast is bath time, then they get dress and play while I clean the entire smurfing house from top to bottom because I wont here the end of it if its dirty for just one day. Then I do laundry, make lunch, feed the children, and try and sneak outside for a god damn cig. After lunch its time to fight mommy for every little thing DS & DD can think of, whining and fighting over toys. The house is again a mess so its back to cleaning while trying to get DS to help pick up toys, which ensues a huge fight where cars are taken away until he learns to pick up his own messes.
2:30pm - Get the car loaded with the kids and I go pick up SOs ass from work.
3:30pm- Home, make dinner, change DD and try and potty DS. Feed the children, try and eat myself. Organize my smurf for class.
4:30-9pm- School.
By the time I get home at night the house is a mess again, nothing is done that I asked SO to do, he sits on smurf Diablo 3 from the time he gets home from work until bed. The only time he gets up is to piss or grab a beer. Of course the kids need changed because he always seems to save the smurffy diapers for me. At about 10 pm I finally get the kids to bed and SO then asks for head or sex, which I turn down 99% of the time because I feel like his smurfing mother and the thought of touching him sometimes makes my skin crawl. I feel like a single smurfing mom with the extra income. Im sorry for the vent but I need a break, Im about to snap. I hate yelling and I find myself becoming irritated over the smallest stuff. I havent had a break since my son was born...its been 3 years! I want a day without SO or the kids....dont I deserve that? Im so tired and worn down.

If you read this entire thing...thank you. I think without BG I would have snapped already.

Sounds like you could use a day to yourself! Hope you can manage to fit one in, soon!

Ummm...Does going to Target all by myself every now and then count? Cause it feels like a vacation  

Quoting dbailey:" Ummm...Does going to Target all by myself every now and then count? Cause it feels like a vacation  "

I wish I could even go shopping alone. lol.

I've never really had a WHOLE day to myself...

But DH takes over with the kids a lot so I can get out of the house & breathe. Sometimes on Sundays I go over to my Mom's to enjoy wine, food & chit chat with her & my older sister.

Saturday I'm traveling an hour & a half away to spend the day & most likely the night with my best girl friend  


... I hope your DH steps up & starts pitching in more. DH & I had a really rough time when our 2nd child was born with him not helping & it almost cost us our marriage. You definitely deserve you time, time to unwind!

I try to take a long weekend at least once a year. If I didn't, I would go insane. Get out of the house and do something for yourself!  

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and take a day and pamper yourself... say you have homework at the library or a study group... and get away... even if it is just for a few hrs.

Ugh, sounds like a nightmare! Sounds like your main problems are from your SO... definitely time for a little 'chat'. lol. At least make sure he puts the kids to bed. 10:00 is way too late.

My mommy-only day was a few months ago on my birthday. He left with her in the morning and returned about 1:00 in time for her to take a nap. So... 1/2 a day.  

I feel you completely on this though I feel bad for feeling this way. My schedule is this!

Wake up multiple times in the middle of the night with lo.
3:20 a.m. wake up dh for work.
6:30 wake up let dog out, wake up lo get both of us dresses.
7:00 a.m. drop lo off at grandmas
8:00 a.m. Be at work.
4:30 leave work pick lo up .
Go to the store
Cook dinner, feed lo, clean up, and bathe him.
8:30-9:30 p.m. Get lo to bed.
10:00 finally lay down, heating pad and cant move once ive laid down due to being on my feet and my lower back joints swelling from back injury.
Repeat Monday-Through Friday!

I totally asked my mom for my birthday could she keep lo overnight because I want just one night of peace and quiet and rest. I work 40 hours a week and balance everything else and rarely get 5 hours of sleep. I feel like mentally/ physically I am going to break down if I dont get a full nights rest soon. I feel weak! I guess it doesnt help that Im pregnant.

I don't really get a full day to my self.
But onces a month, i plan lunch or mall, or movies with my sisters, and my husband watch the kiddoz for a good 4-5 hours, That's all i can get!

Quoting -BLT-:" Ugh, sounds like a nightmare! Sounds like your main problems are from your SO... definitely time for ... [snip!] ... ago on my birthday. He left with her in the morning and returned about 1:00 in time for her to take a nap. So... 1/2 a day.   "

This is where I feel like the single parent, he doesnt/wont do anything for them. We've had that "chat" numerous times and he feels like he is doing his fair share of the work. He wont help with potty training or play with the kids...then he wonders why they run to me when I get home and love to cuddle me but wont touch him. Then he gets mad and yells at them. IF I could financially support myself and my kids without him, I would have broke it off a long time ago. He is more of a burden then help most of the time, he doesnt have a license and Im almost positive it will be a long time before he gets one. I told him once I get a job, which will be sometime soon because my student loans are running low, if he doesnt start pulling more weight around here then Im done. Im falling out of love with him for this and resentment has been building for a while. He thinks I have it sooooo easy, but if hes home with them for a hour hes calling me bitching that I need to hurry up and get home because they're driving him nuts.

Quoting *MommyLove*:" I feel you completely on this though I feel bad for feeling this way. My schedule is this! Wake up ... [snip!] ... I am going to break down if I dont get a full nights rest soon. I feel weak! I guess it doesnt help that Im pregnant."

Ive gotten past the feeling bad part. But you're not weak, I feel you, I dont know how some moms keep their sanity...

Quoting Binky ♡:" Ive gotten past the feeling bad part. But you're not weak, I feel you, I dont know how some moms keep their sanity..."

Oh and the annoyance of dh acting like a child. He'll play video games for like 3 hours straight which would be fine if he could learn to share. My 2 year old comes to me ever 5-10 minutes and whines and says mommy play game please.... I ask dh to share because currently with him not sharing tha game i feel like hes setting a bad example already for him. That sound stupid?

Quoting *MommyLove*:" Oh and the annoyance of dh acting like a child. He'll play video games for like 3 hours straight which ... [snip!] ... share because currently with him not sharing tha game i feel like hes setting a bad example already for him. That sound stupid?"

NO its not stupid. My SO does the same thing. I think it will also effect my kids in the long term but for other reasons, like...when they're older they'll think thats how daddys are suppose to act, just sit around on video games while mommy does everything. I do not want my son acting that way when hes older, ill feel like a failure if he treats his wife the way my SO treats me and the same goes for my DD. IT also just pisses me off that he pays more attention to his games then his kids...it makes me so sad for them.

Quoting Binky ♡:" NO its not stupid. My SO does the same thing. I think it will also effect my kids in the long term but ... [snip!] ... for my DD. IT also just pisses me off that he pays more attention to his games then his kids...it makes me so sad for them."

What I tell my dh is that since he pays more attention to the tv/ video games he'd better find a way for it to smurf him   Haha..... My dh works but he feels when hes not working his job is done. We both work 8 hours a day.... I bring home more money then he does, so why am I responsible for the rest of the duties. I can't lie Most of the time he'll put lo down and thats all he is responsible for. But I still have to stay awake while he does it because he ends up falling asleep before lo. Im like how do you rock your child at night only to rock yourself to sleep everynight baha