I seriously want to KILL my husband....

my husband has to work a looong day today...
last night i went into the bedroom to you know (perform some "wifely duties")
then we went to bed, well
jeremiah had surgury last week, getting the follow up appointment today...
well it hasnt been bothering him at all until last night at 3.A.M.
wake up to him screaming at the top of his lungs... went into his room and he had unwrapped the bandages on his foot and was diggng his nails into the stitches...
looked at the stiches and none were brst so i wrapped it back up and laid him in the bed with my husband and i.....

well he kept trying to grab at the bandages so i asked my husband to make sure he didnt pull them off while i made LO a bottle to keep his hands busy....

my husband gets and attitude and says "I guess i dont have a choice in the matter... just stop asking me to do stuff just say it once and go"
we had an issue before w got married with him always claiming that i was making him my BITCH wheneer i asked him to do things a man typically would do....
"well i said im asking because if i tell you to do it you say im making you my bitch"
his response is that he pretty much is anyway
.... i slept in the living room this morning because of how late i was up with the baby.....
well this morning i wake up to him fussing at me because I didnt wake him up for work, and that is was my fault he overslept....and that we couldnt hae sex late on nights he worked anymore, and that i had to let him sleep....

I'm sorry maybe im wrong , but he has nights where he stays on the video game until 4 in the morning and then i hae to wake him up from the couch jst to get him in bed (on work nights). but i dont say anything about his late night habit....

so you get an attitude about haing to deal with your son crying at night but its okay when its your choice to stay up for something stupid...

EXCUSE ME, i am not the only one who decided to have a baby, i didnt ask YOU to marry me...
so why are your husbandly or fatherly duties suck a smurfing burden to you.....

het gets on my nerves... when i ask for his help its that i should be able to do it on my own because im a mother thats what mothers do... but smurf, then what do fathers do......
GOODNESS I just want to punch him....

omg I WANT TO HUG YOU SOOO BAD!!!!! Some guys are just that way--kinda sounds like my fiance to be honest so I definitely feel ya on this one.... they're stubborn as hell attitude and they can talk to US like that but we cant talk to THEM like that! Pisses me off to no end!!! Where did all the men go from way back in the day where we heard of men happily doing things without us having to ask anything!!! If he's any more like my fiance soon he will start actin sweet to you and apologize for acting that way because he was just "tired and frustrated" and didn't mean the things he said......

Ugh! In my family taking care of children is a 50/50 responsibility. My DH would never tell me it's my job to care for the kids. It take 2 to make them and it takes 2 to care for them. I'd kick him in the ass and gladly make him my bitch.

Given that this all happened last night to early morning, he could be cranky. My DH is a completely different person when he is sleep deprived or woken up in the middle of the night.

My dh is the same way! I ASK him to change a diaper fill a sippy etc, and he replies you aren't going to tell me what to smurfing do. I reply Well if you would have listened to me you would have known that I ASKED you. Then I go on explaining typically when a person starts a sentence with Will You/ Can you that is a question not a demand!

dont know ladies im getting super frustrated, thinking of giing him th cold shoulder.

even thinking of letting the house work go just so when he comes home i can hae a smart assed reply waiting for him

Quoting PANDORAX1:" dont know ladies im getting super frustrated, thinking of giing him th cold shoulder. even thinking ... [snip!] ... shoulder. even thinking of letting the house work go just so when he comes home i can hae a smart assed reply waiting for him"

I would be pissed too. I've noticed though that passive aggressiveness doesn't really work for me. It will give him a reason to bitch even more and then piss you off more because you know you're right. I find just coming out and saying what pissed me off works much better.

Quoting KnockedUp1:" I would be pissed too. I've noticed though that passive aggressiveness doesn't really work for me. It ... [snip!] ... then piss you off more because you know you're right. I find just coming out and saying what pissed me off works much better."

true, i guess i just need to tell him then, because if i dont, i will probably keep it in until i blow up at him

Quoting PANDORAX1:" true, i guess i just need to tell him then, because if i dont, i will probably keep it in until i blow up at him"

Same here. I used to hold it in and then freak out. And in his mind he would be like "wow you're such a bitch".

Is it possible he was just grumpy and tired? No excuse really, but if you think "look, everyone has grumpy times" then maybe it's easier to brush it off.

Passive aggressiveness never works though. That stuffs stupid IMO. If you want him to do something, or you want to talk about it, then tell him and have a conversation. Don't just "give him the cold shoulder" or wait with some smart assed response. That just drags out an argument and makes you just as wrong as him.