What Should I do.....

My sweet Chloe Sophia is 8 months old today.

Where did the time go? I mean really. lol Another 2 months and I am supposed to be going back to work   after being off since Dec 21st of last year. I feel like I dont want to go back EVER. lol

And it does not help that the daycare has no spots open till the middle of January   so I may have to quit my job anyways because well I will never put her in a home daycare and I will never hire someone to watch her in my house, I just wont do it.

My oldest went to the daycare for 8 yrs and my middle for 4 yrs lol I trust them 100% with my kids, it just sucks like a lot they have no spots. Been on the waiting lists since she was a month old.

I am thinking I should just quit, but if I do then I have to apply for assistance and well I dont want assistance. But it would only be till she gets into daycare and I find a job elsewhere which wont be that hard here to find one.

IDK....

What do you think I should do. Quit my job go on assistance till she gets into daycare and I get a new job (mine wont hold it past my paid parental leave) I would be looking for work from now till the daycare lets her in, kwim?
Like find something that will wait to let me start in Jan, or work maybe 2-3 night shifts when Ihave someone to watch her for a few hours to hold a position then go full time when daycare opens a spot for her.

I could do that at my job as well, but I really dont want to go back to that job at all. My manager told me I should have aborted my dd because they thought she had down syndrome when I was pregnant (she does not have DS) but she makes me feel on edge when I am around her (the manager ) Dont know what I should do. lol
I really dont want assistance at all, but it would only be a few months just to figure this out. What do you think?

Advice please. Maybe a post and run, kids had sports last night so the house is a disaster atm, and I have visitors coming over at 9:30am lol so yeah.  

Why not quit, get a home-sitter for those couple weeks, and get a new job?

I know you say you don't want that but if it is only for 2-3 weeks, what's the harm?

if it is between that and going on assistance, I'd choose the home daycare for a couple weeks

I know you said no home sitter but we have one and she's awesome! Food is cooked, house is clean and kids LOVE her. You have to find the right fit but it's really not too hard. Plus you can put in nanny cams.

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" Why not quit, get a home-sitter for those couple weeks, and get a new job? I know you say you don't ... [snip!] ... for 2-3 weeks, what's the harm? if it is between that and going on assistance, I'd choose the home daycare for a couple weeks"

See I cant really do a home sitter since its not really my home. I am at home till I get enough for my house (looking at buying a house with in the next 1-2 yrs) So its not up to me...kwimÉ

And I dont trust sending dd to someone elses house., I am not comfortable with it. Which is why I am sad about the daycare. I love them and in 8 yrs I have never had an issue with any of the workers, they are truely amazing., Plus her Grandma works at the daycare and since I dont drive she can bring her and drop her off. I am just up in arms here on what I should do for the time being.

A friend of mine offered to watch her but I honestly dont trust her, I wouldnt even trust her to watch my goldfish...lol its sad but its true.

There is a job fair today for the dollar tree and I would have loved to have gone, but I cant bring lo to apply for a job, they open in Jan the 10th I believe it would have been perfect, I could have told them I could start on the 24th of Jan......But apart of me wants to stay home till she starts school in 4 yrs, but its not practicle sine I am single and only 1 income.

I kinda wish I never took my leave at all in some ways cause she would have had a spot sooner since my middle stopped going just this past summer cause she started school this year I took her out.

Quoting Coupon Lady:" See I cant really do a home sitter since its not really my home. I am at home till I get enough for ... [snip!] ... a spot sooner since my middle stopped going just this past summer cause she started school this year I took her out. "

What about working opposite hors with your gramma? She can watch the kid when she is done with work and you go to work when she is home? Just as a temp thing

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" What about working opposite hors with your gramma? She can watch the kid when she is done with work and you go to work when she is home? Just as a temp thing"

It wont work like that at all. My current job that I will go back to is from 8am to 4pm. And she works 7am to 5pm the daycare closes at 5pm.


And I dont want to do nights, cause the other kids are gone from 8am to 3:30pm so I wont see them at all...kwimÉ
And my parents leave for work at 7am and they dont get home till 5:30pm so they are out too. lol

So I need to keep days, so I dont have to pay for 3 kids to be watched lol I wont be able to afford that at all.

Quoting Coupon Lady:" It wont work like that at all. My current job that I will go back to is from 8am to 4pm. And she works ... [snip!] ... out too. lol So I need to keep days, so I dont have to pay for 3 kids to be watched lol I wont be able to afford that at all."

Assistance it is, I guess

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" Assistance it is, I guess"

Thats the issue...lol I dont really want to quit and have assistance. I thought by this time everything would be figured out already, and its not. Its frustrating lol

I have been looking around at other daycares till the spot has opened up, but that means taking a bus to town (45min-1hr) to get there and that to get back home, plus I cant leave till the kids get on the bust at 8am. So I would be like 3 hrs late for work, and I already asked and they wont let me swicth to a later start in the am. lol

I am going to continue looking into other options before I decide I am going to make my choice my the end of the month, but I hope I figure something out before then, I really dont want to be jobless and on assistance. lol

Do you have no family or friends that you trust that could watch them? Or another day care?

Quoting Mel152009:" Do you have no family or friends that you trust that could watch them? Or another day care? "

Nope. All family works in the daytime mon-fri. And I can only work daytime hours no weekends at all, and I need daytime only, cause my other kids are in school and I am not sitting at home all day for them to come home and I go to work kwimÉ

I have one friend who offered to watch her, but I wouldnt even trust her to watch my goldfish.

I posted in another apove post, that in order to go to another daycare I have to take a 45min-1hr bus ride into town and then the same amount of time to get home and be 3 hours late for work, then when done work go home get the other kids get on the bust do it all over again and wont get home till about 7pm....not something I will do at all.

looks like you pretty much answered your own question... seems that quiting would be your only option

I asked myself the same question. i didnt want to put my daughter in a daycare or have her growing up with a stranger. I started selling Scentsy in March and I havent been to work since... i am able to stay at home with my daughter while making great money!   its something i think all stay-at-home moms should think about!