Quoting Mrs cree:" Check resources in your area the may have someone that can come in to your dads home assist him with ... [snip!] ... his independence and not be moved we have several in our infact the association I work for offers supported independent living"
Quoting Smartass *TNTC*:" I worked in several assisted livings and I would suggest home care. He might not even need a live in ... [snip!] ... it's too much you can lower, if you find that it's not enough you can add more. I think that would be a good place to start."
Quoting Cattails:" We looked into Home Instead, but he needs a doctor's recommendation, which I'm hoping for at the appointment. ... [snip!] ... be there, and he could be sleeping. He doesn't want help at all though, he only took the necklace because I was in tears. "
Quoting Smartass *TNTC*:" Is he on Medicaid/Medicare? If he is resistant to aid then I would definitely not put him in assisted living."I know he has Medicare A B and D, I think the A is hospital, B is office visits and D is medicine? I'm not sure what else is covered, as far as if there could be an allowance for home care?
Quoting Cattails:" Thank you. Since you've worked in it, can I ask if there's any suggestion where he gets the supervision ... [snip!] ... that comforts him? He only agrees with the maid because he can't reach to dust and doing laundry is difficult for him. "
Quoting Smartass *TNTC*:" I know with my aunt she had her doctor recomment home health aide and medicade did cover like 10 hours ... [snip!] ... paying you may even find someone who is an STNA who can go help your dad, but is open to the idea of being more "maid" like."
Quoting Cattails:" Thank you so much. The maid we have is a great woman, but she's more frail than I am and can't actually ... [snip!] ... afraid of feeling intrusive in my life. I wish he understood the rest of my life can stand still, he's my primary concern. "My dad will be 80 in May. Luckily my mom is younger than him so she helps, and he really gets around quite well for an 80 year old. But he has a REALLY hard time letting my DH do yard work for them and stuff that he just CAN'T do anymore. It's a pride thing with men. It makes him feel like he cannot provide for his family, and that we think less of him, simply because he can't climb a tree to cut a limb down. Men are so much harder to take care of medically, than women are.
Quoting Smartass *TNTC*:" My dad will be 80 in May. Luckily my mom is younger than him so she helps, and he really gets around ... [snip!] ... him, simply because he can't climb a tree to cut a limb down. Men are so much harder to take care of medically, than women are."