Love how the votes have stayed almost exactly 50/50
I think women don't like the idea of men thinking about other women in intimate situations but from the research I have done it does seem very very common.

Quoting baking my bun:" Love how the votes have stayed almost exactly 50/50 I think women don't like the idea of men thinking ... [snip!] ... idea of men thinking about other women in intimate situations but from the research I have done it does seem very very common."

Although I believe it's normal and I'm sure my husband has/does, I wouldn't want him to tell me that he was thinking of so-and-so during the act of sex. That would just be awkward for me, lol.

Quoting 624582:" Although I believe it's normal and I'm sure my husband has/does, I wouldn't want him to tell me that he was thinking of so-and-so during the act of sex. That would just be awkward for me, lol."

Oh, of course! As I said my SO owned up to it when I was about 4 months pregnanct (arrrgghhh) but I can understand why he did it as at the start of this pregnancy I really wasn't in to sex I wanted lights off and he wanted to get off - he knew he was doing something bad and I could tell something was up and then it all came out ( no pun intended) it was awful and 3 months on it still kind of stings but I believe he doesn't do it anymore. He even stopped watching porn and now that he knows he is having a baby girl he has a whole new found respect for women.

Quoting baking my bun:" Oh, of course! As I said my SO owned up to it when I was about 4 months pregnanct (arrrgghhh) but I ... [snip!] ... He even stopped watching porn and now that he knows he is having a baby girl he has a whole new found respect for women."

Aww.   I feel like that would be the worst time to hear that, during pregnancy. Your body is going through so many changes and your hormones are all over the place, but it's good that you're being understanding about his thoughts rather than believing you're not desirable. As you've researched, it's normal/common. It's nice to hear that he has made efforts as well.  

I'm tied up on it so I just voted no because I don't visualize anyone else besides my husband. Even if I'm really not in the mood and he needs to get off I will give him relief in some way. Although I too think he does visualize other women due to his an my past conversations.

Quoting Squid Kid:" coomon? yes. I can't get off without imagining some kind of scenario, even if it's just a headless, personality lacking penis fantasy."

^ Same here.

I can't be offended by my DH's fantasies when I myself have them when we are having sex. It's no reflection on him.

As for the question OP, I believe it's extremely common, whether they admit to it or not. It might not be a particular woman but boobs/butt/vagina (whatever floats their boat)

Quoting Idlehands:" ^ Same here. I can't be offended by my DH's fantasies when I myself have them when we are having ... [snip!] ... common, whether they admit to it or not. It might not be a particular woman but boobs/butt/vagina (whatever floats their boat) "

I totally agree with you - I do wish that we were more educated on the functions of female and male attraction as I think it would save a lot of people heartbreak. I do think both sexes fantasize about other people/body parts/scenarios whilst being intimate with their partner - but as you said it has no reflection on the one you love.
Being such an understanding person this helped when my partner told me he was thinking of others whilst having sex with me BUT my god if I knew then what I know now about the fact that more or less all men do it but in a completely non malicious manner - I wouldn't have had to go through quite as much turmoil in my own head.
My partner and I are working on a more spiritual sexual connection now rather than visual - It's proving rather fun!  

Quoting Jolina's Mommy♥:" I don't think it's common. I mean, why would he if he loves you?"

Love and sex are not mutually exclusive. You can love someone and fantasize about someone else.

Quoting khigh:" Love and sex are not mutually exclusive. You can love someone and fantasize about someone else."

I agree - you can also train yourself not to do this. But it's personal choice.

Quoting baking my bun:" I agree - you can also train yourself not to do this. But it's personal choice."

I believe it is a subconscious response to external stimuli. You cannot change your subconscious thoughts no matter how hard you try.

Quoting khigh:" I believe it is a subconscious response to external stimuli. You cannot change your subconscious thoughts no matter how hard you try. "

Although I understand that you can not control the subconscious I'm expressing my opinion on the control of more encouraged thoughts that a lot of men and women have. The act of playing out certain scenarios in your mind for prolonged amounts of time and the ability to bring forth images for your pleasure - which a lot of people do. I think this can stop - well, I know they can as I am evidence of this. Sometimes I can't stop the thought of my mother popping into my head or what I want to make for dinner but I can stop my known fantasies and focus more on my partner.

Idk... My husband told me he thinks about having sex with me when he masturbates.

I'm sure EVERYONE does at some point, but it doesn't mean it's every time or regularly.

SO says not for him, he is too busy thinking about what he's doing mixed in with "yay sex!" (his actual words) to be able to think about another woman too lol

K so us I think its common my husband admitted it to me last night that he pictures other women at times

Disturbingly enough I believe I'm a gay man trapped in a womans body and one of the best ways for me to get off is to think about SO with a man who looks vaguely like me