Whats considered normal..?

Before I got pregnant me and SO had pretty regular sex. (or, more accurately I wasn't depressed all the time and was actually turned on when he wanted sex.) sometimes we were doing it 3 ot 4 times a day, and thats kinda how we got into this situation, haha. But ever since all my emotions and all have come full force I have wanted NOTHING to do with anything sexual. dont wanna talk about it, think about it, be touched, or do it. and SO has taken it pretty hard. he wants sex every day, and if not that, to orgasm. he says it makes him feel better and not stressed. and since I dont want to do anything, he gets PISSED at me. Not even trying to understand my POV. We've gotten into some nasty fights about it. It feels like he doesnt even care that it hurts me when we do have sex. I do think his preeoccupation with sex and everything is a mental thing. But i dont know and its killing our relationship.. X\

HMM. . . I dont know . . ? I mean I am 37 weeks , and I get mad when my SO denies me . . so it might be normal for him to get upset if you deny him everyday

Tharapy? talk about it? I mean, every day is not really normal, but there is no reason to be angry or whiny about it if you cant have it all the time. What fun is sex if the other person does not want it?

When I got pregnant, we had sex once while pregnant, I was about 8 weeks along and haven't had any since. I don't feel sexy or attractive and he knows all this. He doesn't push me to have sex. But he can't wait to get some again.

Quoting DaniLaLaLa:" Before I got pregnant me and SO had pretty regular sex. (or, more accurately I wasn't depressed all the ... [snip!] ... I do think his preeoccupation with sex and everything is a mental thing. But i dont know and its killing our relationship.. X\"

I've been in the same kind of situation.. Ever since I got pregnant I don't want ANYTHING to do with sex.. I do my best to try and get in the mind set to help hubby out but it's really hard to do. He knows it hurts and he's pretty understanding but still tries his best to get sex all the time. I think your hormones are just crazy. I know it's hard, but try to give him a handjob or something every once in a while. good luck xo

People tend to have ebb and flows in their habits, but expecting sex everyday when you are pregnant does not seem considerate.


I am in the opposite situation, i want it, and he is too stressed and tired, but I do my best to keep my selfishness at bay. It's what loving couples do. Give each other what they need based on the situation and needs for the time and place.

Quoting Rea:" Tharapy? talk about it? I mean, every day is not really normal, but there is no reason to be angry or ... [snip!] ... no reason to be angry or whiny about it if you cant have it all the time. What fun is sex if the other person does not want it?"

We talk about it alot. he doesn't believe me about wanting it too much. Theres even been a few time I did want to have sex but its like it doesnt matter.

I have the opposite problem but i can understand from being denied that it's ok to try and compromise. This is my first pregnancy and my hormones make me want sex more then I already had. and my SO it just to uncomfortable. I get pretty mad at him but it's not either of our faults, but he makes the effort to compromise and do little things for me and I suggest doing the same you can give him a blow job or even a hand job or if you don't want to be touched just look pretty/ dress up and make him do the work. It's something sweet and not hard or gross for you it's only a suggestion. but it's a problem solver for the fighting lol

I'm stuck in this situation all on my own.. :\\