re: I lied to my kids.

Quoting LαNenα:" She lives with him and my kids wanted to see him. I have no other way of getting a hold of him. He doesn't ... [snip!] ... phone. The only phone they have is her's which was shut off. I was trying to help my kids out. I don't regret at least trying."

So drive to his house if you know where he is, it is still not her responsibility.

Quoting LαNenα:" This is how I have always gotten a hold of him. She just recently got mad at me because they blame me ... [snip!] ... to suffer for this. e has my number I was simply trying to get the message to him to call his kids the only way I knew how."

Welll....if he has your number, and hasnt contacted you at all....yeah.

Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 30:" And the OP didnt have to respond but she did so shame on both of them."

Exactly!

Quoting Jessy Ann:" so you're confident that he is over there living with her? how long has it been since he left you and the kids?"

They have lived in the same place for a little over a year but they have lived together since before I even met him. He is the maintenance where they stay and the only way she can stay there is if he works there. I don't see him going back to Mexico he said he would never go there. I'd believe him going to Washington before then. And we have been on and off for 5 years the last time I talked to him personally was like Sept 20th or so.

Um wow. That's the convo you had with his daughter?  

I would leave children out of affairs like that. She was rude, but you went a little overboard

Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 30:" And the OP didnt have to respond but she did so shame on both of them."

No but seeing she cares if her kids have a father in their life, she did.

Quoting Buffy♥:" Age has nothing to do with being a brat. It's not her responsibility but she could have said she didn't want to get involved and left it at that. But she just egged it on. That's bratty IMO"

I agree.,,

Quoting We made a BabyBumpBelly:" So drive to his house if you know where he is, it is still not her responsibility."

I have accepted that! For God's sake! my point is I have tried every way possible to get a hold of him. she was my last resort. We also live 4 hours apart and I am a single mom with no child support so to waste the money and just HOPE he is there is not something I can afford at the moment. I realize I sound stupid as smurf right now but I really just needed to vent! have delt with this smurf for 5 years and honestly can't take it anymore! I just needed to vent to people who i thought would understand!

I really apologize. I just can't do this alone anymore I'm breaking apart right now and i just needed people to listen to me.

Quoting LαNenα:" I really apologize. I just can't do this alone anymore I'm breaking apart right now and i just needed people to listen to me."

Don't apologize, I would have done the same thing if I were desperate

Quoting LαNenα:" I really apologize. I just can't do this alone anymore I'm breaking apart right now and i just needed people to listen to me."

  awwwww, you're making me sad. I'm sorry for what i said.

Quoting LαNenα:" I really apologize. I just can't do this alone anymore I'm breaking apart right now and i just needed people to listen to me."

You don't have to apologize to anyone. I was just suggesting if he lived closer to go there. Do you know where/when he works? Is it possible to call the office that he does maintenance for?

Quoting LαNenα:" I really apologize. I just can't do this alone anymore I'm breaking apart right now and i just needed people to listen to me."

I think at this point you should give up. You can't force him to see or speak to his children and you've done everything in your power to try to contact him. My question is what happened on sept. 20th when you spoke to him? I'm sure you told him his children wanted to speak to him...

Quoting We made a BabyBumpBelly:" You don't have to apologize to anyone. I was just suggesting if he lived closer to go there. Do you know where/when he works? Is it possible to call the office that he does maintenance for?"

I don't even know. I don't know what to do. I want to give up but my kid's are devastated. I don't want this to be something they have to go through and I try to act like it doesn't bother me but I only want my kids to be happy.

Quoting Jessy Ann:" I think at this point you should give up. You can't force him to see or speak to his children and you've ... [snip!] ... My question is what happened on sept. 20th when you spoke to him? I'm sure you told him his children wanted to speak to him..."

I have given up that's why I finally just told my kid's this. & he was supposed to move here well he finally went home because they kept harassing him to go back (his family there) and when he went back we were supposedly together well I had these girls start messaging me that he didn't even like me and all kinds of smurf so I tried to call him to see what was going on and they sent me a message like 2 seconds after I tried calling him that he was ignoring me and to never call him anymore. Well, an argument started after that (on facebook of all things =/) and it was finally made public that I had slept with his friend (before we officially started dating which happens to be his step daughter's husband I didn't know this at the time I didn't even know he had a stepdaughter) So, while they are attacking me I obviously defended myself. and I agree that I stooped to a childish level but whatever. Well, he text me like 2 days later and was like "I knew you were a whore don't ever talk to me ever again and I want a DNA test" Which is fine whatever. I know it's his kid, I know I smurfed up but i can't take that back. Well, it turns out the whole sleeping with that guy thing isn't even the issue it's apparently my fault they lost the other kids and smurf like that.


Ugh, that makes no sense. I will try to find the convo I just need a min to edit names.