Baby Shower Impossible? ergg

You know, I have great friends in general, however the rsvps I've been getting from some of them is starting to tick me off! I make to everyone of their birthday parties, their children's birthday parties, "anything they are selling" parties (romance parties, jewelry parties, avon...) But what do you know when My mother in law throws me a baby shower and we spend all this time, money and effort on it, half my friends have the smurffiest excuses. One of them, said "Oh I was planning on surprising my Mom with a birthday party that day" and the next day posted that she was going to spend that day finding good deals on a city wide garage sale. OOPS!!
Don't know what the point of this post is... just really frustrated and hurt...  

I didn't have any friends come to my baby shower it was just my mom and all MILs friends.

You know I didn't have a whole lot of my friends come to my baby shower either. But I had all my family and ppl I work with still had an awesome time!! Just gives you an idea of who's worth your time or not. Just enjoy yourself with the people who come to celebrate   yea I understand some people are legit but some of them like that are kind of obvious hurts for sure!!! My cousin did that too me for mine, yes it hurt. And her excuse was also bs.

i had that prob with my dds baby shower. so when i found out that someone was planning one for me this time i told them i wasnt coming lol. the first one most ppl didnt even bring the baby anything ither.

I'm sorry   a lot of my friends are useless for plans. Only one came to my shower, a few said yes but never showed, and a few said they'd send a gift but never did. A few others couldn't come for legit reasons but visited with gifts at the hospital. I was more upset about not seeing people though, I didn't care about the gifts. It sucks when you support people and they can't do it in return.

Quoting Mommeh2bee:" You know I didn't have a whole lot of my friends come to my baby shower either. But I had all my family ... [snip!] ... like that are kind of obvious hurts for sure!!! My cousin did that too me for mine, yes it hurt. And her excuse was also bs."

Talking with my DH about it at the moment and he basically said the same thing, "you find out who your friends are". I mean, I understand the legit ones, like one of my cousin's is having surgery the day before. THAT is understandable. Not because they just don't feel it's important. Makes me feel like I wasted a lot of time investing in my relationships with some of them.

Quoting julybabe:" i had that prob with my dds baby shower. so when i found out that someone was planning one for me this ... [snip!] ... planning one for me this time i told them i wasnt coming lol. the first one most ppl didnt even bring the baby anything ither."

lol I felt like that after 4 friends told me they weren't coming. That's a shame though.

Quoting 💙Jenny&Boopy:" I'm sorry   a lot of my friends are useless for plans. Only one came to my shower, a few said yes but ... [snip!] ... about not seeing people though, I didn't care about the gifts. It sucks when you support people and they can't do it in return."

Thank You! That's how I feel about it. It's just nice having the support and being surrounded by friends and family when you're celebrating something so important to you.

Quoting julybabe:" i had that prob with my dds baby shower. so when i found out that someone was planning one for me this ... [snip!] ... planning one for me this time i told them i wasnt coming lol. the first one most ppl didnt even bring the baby anything ither."

Who cares if someone didn't bring you a gift. They still came to show support and celebrate your child. Greedy much?   A baby shower isn't a requirement, nor are gifts.

i had 4 showers total between my two girls (3 for the first.. family was fighting and being childish) and out of all of them, *MAYBE* 5 of the 15-20 friends I had invited showed up. I worked with a couple at the time and they even requested the day off to come and then just never showed or anything. THat's prolly why I only have about 5 friends i talk to on a weekly basis haha.

I know its disappointing (and bullsmurf) but just remember this shower the next time they invite you somewhere or the next time you plan a party.

<blockquote><b>Quoting 2ndontheway:</b>" Thank You! That's how I feel about it. It's just nice having the support and being surrounded by friends and family when you're celebrating something so important to you."</blockquote>


Yeah, it's nice when people are there for you. Surprisingly the only friend who came to mine I haven't seen in like 3-4 years. It showed she still cares about our friendship. Don't worry, even with a small amount of people you can still have fun! I had 9 at mine but we made the best of it.

Quoting Momma +2 Girls:" i had 4 showers total between my two girls (3 for the first.. family was fighting and being childish) ... [snip!] ... (and bullsmurf) but just remember this shower the next time they invite you somewhere or the next time you plan a party."

Definitely! I think I've made a mental note and list already. lol

Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" Who cares if someone didn't bring you a gift. They still came to show support and celebrate your child. Greedy much?   A baby shower isn't a requirement, nor are gifts."

no im not greedy i was just stating a fact lol. when i told ppl i was buying things for my daughter everyone told me not to cause i was having a baby shower so i didnt. baby showers are kind of over rated anyways i didnt want one.

2 people showed up to mine, and they along with 2 out of the 3 hosts were 2 hours late and the 2 hosts left before the two guests. I was a little embarrassed :/ the first 2 hours were spent sitting with my mom saying I wonder if they forgot etc etc etc the party was poorly planned, so it wasn't my friends/family's fault, but it still hurts either way.

Quoting Cameron and cayleighs mom:" 2 people showed up to mine, and they along with 2 out of the 3 hosts were 2 hours late and the 2 hosts ... [snip!] ... if they forgot etc etc etc the party was poorly planned, so it wasn't my friends/family's fault, but it still hurts either way."

Ugh, that's horrible. Sorry to hear that. I think I would've cried.