Relief

My fiance/father of my son took his own life last year. Due to financial reasons, my son and I almost immediately moved 45 minutes away. He recently started day care and preschool, and I am obviously no longer able to be a stay-at-home-mom. It's a lot of adjustment, and he's done very well with everything.

However, lately he's been having a hard time with his grief. He asks for his dad all of the time, has told me that it's his fault Daddy went to Heaven, doesn't understand the permanence of death (despite me trying to help him) and thinks that Daddy is coming back, or is just avoiding him, etc.

It's an awful feeling. My son is confused and sad. There isn't a whole lot I can do, because as hard as I try, I'm just not a professional. I have been trying to find him a therapist for a while, but everyone I've talked to is either not accepting new clients, or won't take his insurance (Medicaid).

My son's pediatrician gave me a number of a lady who was new to the area. She's been practicing for years and has a great deal of experience, but he has never worked with her. But knowing that I was searching, he gave me her number. Her and I have been playing a hardcore game of phone-tag for a week now. She finally just left her personal cell-phone number on my voicemail. Well, today I FINALLY talked to her. I explained the situation, the things my son is going through, the chaos, my worries, etc. She was so sincere and wanted to help so much.

Then at the end, I mentioned that he is on Medicaid, and she informed me that she is not on their list of providers, and therefore cannot accept his insurance.

Instant smell of defeat.

But, she said that she was so concerned about my son and his level of confusion and grief. So she promised that she would immediately commit to going through all of the hoops and paperwork to be able to accept Medicaid, and that until then, she's willing to work out a sliding scale deal with me to figure out how much I can afford.

I am just so relieved and happy!

Wow, what a nice lady. It's awesome to see truly good people who want to help others. Hopefully it all works out for you and you get that help for him.

And I'm so sorry for your loss. My brother committed suicide last year, too. I know it isn't nearly the same thing, but my son has been having a rough time with it lately, as well. If you ever need to talk or anything, PM me.   Good luck!

This made my heart melt. I'm glad to hear that she is trying to help you guys.

Im so sorry for your loss.And she seems like a really nice lady,I hope everything works out.Especially for your son.

If you call the number on the back of your medicare card they should be able to send you a list of providers in your area. I hope everything works out and you find someone soon

My dad committed suicide and me, my two brothers, mom, and even at the time 2 year old baby sister all got professional Counceling and it was all paid in full for 2 years under the Wittness Protection Program. They all went for 2 years completely paid for.... It was normally about $115 a session. I was able to get another year an a half after that. And during thoes 3 years my mom saved up lots and lots so he could afford to keep sending us if we wanted to go. My dad died 4 years ago and my mom pays now so I only go about once every 3 weeks, but when it was paid for there was a time I was going twice a week. It was very helpful. I don't know how you get into something like that.... But maybe look into it. We were back and forth to court before he died because he was being taken from us and 3 months after committed suicide so I'm not sure how similar our stories are and what the guidelines require for something like that. But even my 2 year old sister got color therapy... Lol or whatever you do with a 2 year old to help them understand and grieve.
Sorry about your situation. I hope everything works out  

Also after he died social services helped us and bought us all new beds and dressers and clothes for school. We were able to live with my mom the whole time, but she didn't get custody if us till a few years later.

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I was going to mention the victims fund too...

I have a packet about how to talk to children about death & coping with grief issues. I'm not sure if it has a website on it or not but if you want me to mail it to you I can. I also have a packet on the victims
Fund & how it works

Just pm me

Wow it's nice to know that there are people who truly want to help others and not just for their personal gain or money  

Glad you finally found someone, and I hope it will help him out!