re: Bullying Body Types D&D

Quoting she nan igans:" Oh I totally agree OP. I get on peoples cases about this ALL THE TIME when they post pictues of skinny ... [snip!] ... the dogs, meat is for the man." They are ALL demeaning and horrible. We shouldn't judge people based on their size either way."

   

My SO likes "curvy" women.... My brother likes "sticks". I hate the term "stick" when it comes to describing a woman's body... "curvy" sounds nice, but "stick"? Or "flat"?

I think that there is a lot of hatred going on for thin women, to be honest.

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:"     My SO likes "curvy" women.... My brother likes "sticks". I hate the term "stick" when it comes ... [snip!] ... "curvy" sounds nice, but "stick"? Or "flat"? I think that there is a lot of hatred going on for thin women, to be honest. "

As much as I 100% understand women being uncomfortable when people call them overweight--

It smurfing sucks being accused by every person you meet of being anorexic and having a "problem" because you have a different body type.

Ugh.

Either way-- the judgement needs to damn stop.

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:"     My SO likes "curvy" women.... My brother likes "sticks". I hate the term "stick" when it comes ... [snip!] ... "curvy" sounds nice, but "stick"? Or "flat"? I think that there is a lot of hatred going on for thin women, to be honest. "

I think there's a lot of hatred on both sides. Yes, people feel like it's okay to criticize skinny women (which is NOT okay), but at least when confronted they sort of seem to go "well, yeah, you're right." When people are told "you shouldn't say that about Fat people" they usually come back with "but obesity is so unhealthy and horrible!" There seems to be a general consensus that you can say whatever you want about either side (skinny women because they are still the ideal a lot, and fat women because they're considered bad) which is horrible.

But I see it on both sides for sure, and I always correct it when I see it. I had a good friend who was naturally very very thin. She hated it. She tried to gain weight a lot of times and never managed to, and it hurt her SO MUCH when people talked crap. They'd say she had an eating disorder, whisper about her, make jokes all the time about her needing to eat more. It's insulting and people need to knock if off. Just like women can be naturally thin, they can be naturally heavy too. Neither one tells you their health or worth, so we need to just drop the entire weight battle.

Quoting The Doctor:" As much as I 100% understand women being uncomfortable when people call them overweight-- It smurfing ... [snip!] ... anorexic and having a "problem" because you have a different body type. Ugh. Either way-- the judgement needs to damn stop."

Exactly!! It sucks both ways. I saw how much it hurt my friend to go through that, and lord knows it's hurts me for people to talk about I must "shovel food into my face all the time" because I'm overweight. It's horrible. We need to knock it off on both sides because it ISN'T a war. We need to stop trying to treat it like a war.

Healthy is beautiful.

Quoting she nan igans:" Exactly!! It sucks both ways. I saw how much it hurt my friend to go through that, and lord knows it's ... [snip!] ... It's horrible. We need to knock it off on both sides because it ISN'T a war. We need to stop trying to treat it like a war."

Abso-freaking-lutely.

Couldn't agree more.

Women are beautiful, no matter the size, and just because you are over- or under- weight does not mean you are unhealthy.

Quoting Back to Noob Status:" Healthy is beautiful."

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Quoting she nan igans:" I think there's a lot of hatred on both sides. Yes, people feel like it's okay to criticize skinny women ... [snip!] ... they can be naturally heavy too. Neither one tells you their health or worth, so we need to just drop the entire weight battle."

I'm overweight but working on it. I have food addiction and at 15 weighed 300 pounds! haha I hated being huge and my sister stuffed her bra and the butt of her panties.

People called her anorexic and that she needed to eat to her face.... they spoke about me mostly behind my back. People accept hating skinny women more because they have "less problems than a fat person".

Quoting she nan igans:" Exactly!! It sucks both ways. I saw how much it hurt my friend to go through that, and lord knows it's ... [snip!] ... It's horrible. We need to knock it off on both sides because it ISN'T a war. We need to stop trying to treat it like a war."

 

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I'm overweight but working on it. I have food addiction and at 15 weighed 300 pounds! haha I hated being ... [snip!] ... about me mostly behind my back. People accept hating skinny women more because they have "less problems than a fat person". "

I for sure think there is a difference because there is this sort of feeling that skinny women shouldn't be offended by anything someone says. I'll admit that before talking to that good friend of mine I really didn't realize either that it really hurt. I always sort of thought, well, they're like the IDEAL body type, how could a comment bother them!? So I agree, they can run into more "unknowning" comments.

I think fat people deal with more really mean people. I was so afraid to start jogging outside because I had friends who tried to jog and people yelled insults out of the car windows at them. They even threw a drink at them one time. These were fat insults, like "cow, fat bitch" things like that.

I also am losing weight. I was obese, I'm not (just barely) into the overweight catagory, but I kick my ass to lose weight and it's slow as smurf coming off. And I may never reach my "goal weight" as determined by BMI, and it sucks that even if I work my hardest, eat right, people still assume I am shoveling McDonalds in my mouth every moment, or guess abuot my health when I've had nearly every bloody test done and even at this weight there was nothing out of place (slightly anemic, but we all are, lol).


I think we tend to notice more of what we've experienced. So I notice fat bashing because it hurts me more. I *DO* hate skinny bashing though, and I tell people to knock that the smurf off whenever I see it because it pisses me off. It's no better!

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I'm overweight but working on it. I have food addiction and at 15 weighed 300 pounds! haha I hated being ... [snip!] ... about me mostly behind my back. People accept hating skinny women more because they have "less problems than a fat person". "

And since I brought up weight loss and talked about myself, haha, here's my progress! *insert shameless self promotion*

before:

During (just barely out of obese, so in the HIGH end of overweight)

Quoting she nan igans:" I for sure think there is a difference because there is this sort of feeling that skinny women shouldn't ... [snip!] ... skinny bashing though, and I tell people to knock that the smurf off whenever I see it because it pisses me off. It's no better!"

I think fat people deal with more really mean people. I was so afraid to start jogging outside because I had friends who tried to jog and people yelled insults out of the car windows at them. They even threw a drink at them one time. These were fat insults, like "cow, fat bitch" things like that.




OMG! I've been morbidly obese and never had anything like that happen to me. Ever. Wow... That's horrible.

The meanest thing anyone ever said to me was "I won't be your boyfriend because your fat!"

Quoting she nan igans:" And since I brought up weight loss and talked about myself, haha, here's my progress! *insert shameless self promotion* before: During (just barely out of obese, so in the HIGH end of overweight) "

Dude... you look beautiful. I would never, in a zillion, zillion years think you were "overweight".

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I think fat people deal with more really mean people. I was so afraid to start jogging outside because ... [snip!] ... me. Ever. Wow... That's horrible. The meanest thing anyone ever said to me was "I won't be your boyfriend because your fat!" "

Ugh.

I mean, I've seen friends have awful smurf to them said because of their weight.

But I have also seen many people put themselves down so that they could beat other people to the punch-- which always made me so uncomfortable.

Quoting she nan igans:" And since I brought up weight loss and talked about myself, haha, here's my progress! *insert shameless self promotion* before: During (just barely out of obese, so in the HIGH end of overweight) "

Amazing!   You're doing great!