Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I'm overweight but working on it. I have food addiction and at 15 weighed 300 pounds! haha I hated being ... [snip!] ... about me mostly behind my back. People accept hating skinny women more because they have "less problems than a fat person". "
I for sure think there is a difference because there is this sort of feeling that skinny women shouldn't be offended by anything someone says. I'll admit that before talking to that good friend of mine I really didn't realize either that it really hurt. I always sort of thought, well, they're like the IDEAL body type, how could a comment bother them!? So I agree, they can run into more "unknowning" comments.
I think fat people deal with more really mean people. I was so afraid to start jogging outside because I had friends who tried to jog and people yelled insults out of the car windows at them. They even threw a drink at them one time. These were fat insults, like "cow, fat bitch" things like that.
I also am losing weight. I was obese, I'm not (just barely) into the overweight catagory, but I kick my ass to lose weight and it's slow as smurf coming off. And I may never reach my "goal weight" as determined by BMI, and it sucks that even if I work my hardest, eat right, people still assume I am shoveling McDonalds in my mouth every moment, or guess abuot my health when I've had nearly every bloody test done and even at this weight there was nothing out of place (slightly anemic, but we all are, lol).
I think we tend to notice more of what we've experienced. So I notice fat bashing because it hurts me more. I *DO* hate skinny bashing though, and I tell people to knock that the smurf off whenever I see it because it pisses me off. It's no better!