re: goodbye

if he's not confined to a bed I don't see why you can't lay with him on the floor in a living room or something and play with him that way. they make nightlights that project onto the ceiling, but I'm sure with a cheap flashlight, tape, and cardboard or soemthing you could make your own version. If he's special needs you have to just be flexible. Anything for him to look at might be interesting to him. If he can feel you could try sensory projects, flowers across his face, down his arms, drops of water same thing, etc. Make a shaker from a can and let him listen to it. There's plenty of stuff you could try, depends on how much effort you're willing to put into it. Maybe making simple faces at him funny and silly with noises would get his attention.

Quoting EasyComeEasyGo:" Where in Md are you? It's 80 degrees here today. At this point, I feel like you're making excuses. You ... [snip!] ... put him in the stroller, walk him around your block..do something instead of complaining about how much you don't like him"

 

Quoting DifferentDay:" if he's not confined to a bed I don't see why you can't lay with him on the floor in a living room or ... [snip!] ... effort you're willing to put into it. Maybe making simple faces at him funny and silly with noises would get his attention."

okay. I will try, he's just inconsolable right now. he just won't play at the moment and i dont know what else to do. and its only in the mid 60's near my house

Read to him? Sit beside him on the floor and do puzzles with him? He sounds like a child begging for stimulation and change.

There is so much you can do, you just have to be creative. The internet is a major resource. You can watch videos together. There are kids websites. He doesn't have dexterity but he might enjoy watching you play kids games. Stuff like that.

Quoting Autumn Whisper:" Read to him? Sit beside him on the floor and do puzzles with him? He sounds like a child begging for ... [snip!] ... together. There are kids websites. He doesn't have dexterity but he might enjoy watching you play kids games. Stuff like that."

Eden LOVES watching me play games online. Whether they're just basic Pogo games, or big mmorpg's she loves it.

could you try to put yourself in his shoes? get down to his level, lay like he is and figure out what you could do to stimulate him? that might help you think of more things. But sensory stuff is usually a safe bet, pretty much with any kid. I'm sure you're stressed and not having your license is hard but once you start feeling anxious during the test, take deep breaths and calm yourself down. It's not easier said than done, do it. you're a mom to a special needs kid so you have to just suck it up somedays and find a way to cope. Im not trying to be rude just some "tough love" like a swift kick in the a** might be what you need to get you outta your funk. can you arrange a sitter and get even an hour or two out on your own away from your kid for some breathing room? That way you can relax and go back at it with a less stressful attitude. best of luck to you!

He is going to pick up on your frustrations. We all get frustrated but take a deep breath and relax.
His mind is working its his body that isn't and that is hard for a child his age. I am sure he wants to communicate but can't.

The main thing is to try. Try anything and everything you can until you find something that works. Giving up and putting him in a high chair is only going to make it worse. He is looking for an outlet, he needs and outlet and its your job as his parent to help him...

You said he's imobile and in OT. Are they working on getting him a special stroller? It sounds like he won't be able to have a chair since he ca't sit up...?

I know the girl in my sons group has a special stroller and isn't mobile either. My son is limited in language and so is she, so they do group with aug comm devices just the two of them.

I've seen her mom help her pet stuffed animal with different textures. Hand over hand drawing with crayons. OT has sensory things they help her feel. Running her hands in sand, pouring it over the top, sensory balls.

Cookieskids.com sells stroller suites, but you can also get stroller bunting bag type things so he can be warm and cozy out for a walk or a nice heavy blanket you have on hand, warm hat.

Does your local pool offer special needs swim class? We have one in the next county. Or a baby swim class. You can get assistance to help at the pool.

Dry leaves are fun to crunch and flitter in the wind or rain down and have an interesting texture and sound. Pebbles for a fish tank, rice, noodles, a light projector.

Oh and do you have access to respite services?

Aww feel better  
I'm home all day, everyday unless if my husbands off, doctors appointment, errands etc. My son usually just entertains himself. I have lots of toys for him. Bouncer, swing, jumper, walker, toys, ipad with baby soother apps, TV on, bumbo, playmat, my dogs, crib mobile. I usually just do my own thing since he does his own. I watch tv, eat, computer, play games ( wii, ps3 ) watch movies, nap, play with my dogs, text 24/7, talk on the phone, do my nails, decorate the house, google stuff about babies, I read a lot about it so I learn more and do everything "right" That's what I usually do everyday if I don't go out. Maybe you can do some of those?