Quoting she nan igans:" Agreed. OP. Maybe this should be a key that she's too dependent on you. Maybe try and do some "mommy ... [snip!] ... of fun with Dad. If you feel anxious and upset then she'll feed off of that and not feel confident since YOU aren't confident."
The thing is, If I had somewhere to send her for a night, I would. But SOs father, he disabled and just...not someone i would leave DD with for a night..his house is not fit for a child, and he would let her play with anything she wanted to. He would let her get away with EVERYTHING!
his mother works constantly and takes care of her great granddaughter, and anytime we ask just for her to watch DD for a few hours, while we go shopping, she trys to complain a little.
My mom is not alive, my father is a crack head, and I live 5 hours from my home state..so there is not really anyone that she is able to spend time with...SO gets home at all different house because of his job. So really its hard for her to get out and go with other people.