Busted...

Okay, I realize that I am in a somewhat fragile state mentally about my appearance being 3wks PP and having had a baby 15mos ago, also. So, that said... My DH has always been adamant that he doesn't watch porn b/c it's not worth it b/c he always thinks of me anyways. I know, naive as hell to believe, but I did... until I caught him watching it 2 nights ago!! I don't care that he watched it, but why lie to me? He doesn't understand that I feel like a gigantic, stretch mark covered whale and he's out here looking at some gorgeous ho as I'm laying in bed all alone.... What bothers me more is that b/c he told me that unprovoked about the not watching it thing I feel betrayed. Like I said, I've got no prob w/ people watching porn( other than the computer viruses). Am I over reacting? We haven't fought over it, but I have brought it up in a teary over emotional moment or 2, ok maybe 3...

I understand how you feel! I don't think you should fight about it but I do think you need to talk about it with him.

It can make you feel a little betrayed . . . but most guys just wont tell you because they dont want you to feel bad about yourself at all . . . they just want a little mind stimulation for the time being . My only advice would be to try watching it with him , or on your own . . . then you wont feel so bad about him watching it when you are checking out 9 inchers . . lol

I think you're overreacting a bit.. He's horny.. I rather my man watch porn and jerk off then bother me while I am healing from birth. lol

You shouldn't be mad about it. Seeing how you're so subconscious about your appearance, he probably didn't want to further hurt your feelings by tell you he is watching porn. He was probably trying to spare your feelings and unlucky for him that he got caught and now looks like a big liar you know.

I don't think your over reacting. If it was my man doing that I would have raised hell but that's just me.
If I'm feeling down about myself and he has the nerve to look at another woman I'm going to make him feel like smurf and mention every man i know.
I know, I'm horrible. don't take any advice from me lol.

The only reason I have ever had a problem with dh watching porn are these reasons.

1. He'll stay up all night watching porn. Wake up late for work, and be a dick the next day cause he's tired.

2. Will sex hes not in the mood then find out he's watching porn and jacking his schlong.

3. Can't control the amount he watches!

well we've been together 8yrs and other than the time or 2 we watched it together I've never even thought he watched it alone since he told me that. I guess I'm just feeling vulnerable- like I swear I've never seen him look at other girls- EVER, other people even make comments on it, but when we went to the zoo Saturday there was this group of girls that were walking around pretty much with us the whole time and he was way to obvious about it... I wanted to feed him to the freakin lions!! lol i understand that he has urges and all that, but to me that's so disrespectful!! You're with your wife and 3 kids at the zoo and you're going to openly check out other girls? Have a bit of discretion for my sake, jeez... I know all people look, but he's never been so obvious about it and it hurts my already low self esteem...

Quoting Heather Jacques:" well we've been together 8yrs and other than the time or 2 we watched it together I've never even thought ... [snip!] ... for my sake, jeez... I know all people look, but he's never been so obvious about it and it hurts my already low self esteem..."

See that's different. I'd feel a bit upset if he was noticeable checking out other chicks.

BTW- SO left his email up and i went to check mine (not knowing it was his inbox not mine) and i found something from a porn sight with his name..clicked on the link and found out he's a registered member to smurf local females in our area... but he registered over a year ago..before we were together.. and the things i read on his profile still made me feel like complete smurf.
And it definitely doesn't help my thoughts when we haven't had sex in 4-5 months... because he was "too afraid i'll go into labor early" and now it's going to be "you're not healed enough from your c-section" or use the baby as an excuse.

Quoting ❤ℛachael+2:" BTW- SO left his email up and i went to check mine (not knowing it was his inbox not mine) and i found ... [snip!] ... go into labor early" and now it's going to be "you're not healed enough from your c-section" or use the baby as an excuse. "

I'd be pissed!!

You're not over reacting. He's not considering your feelings. I'm betting he didn't even ask you for any stimulation? And that you'd probably feel less hurt about it if you had declined helping him out?
Men just don't understand. They are arseholes. It's their nature.
Try to just explain to him that his lying to you about it has made you feel like a bit of a dick and that you would prefer him to be open with you about things than to "spare your feelings", feel free to drop in that he didn't spare your feeling when oggling other women.