how did you cope..

With your divirce? How did you get over it? How ling did it taje? Does it ever get easier? Me and DH are on the verge of divorce. Its a long story I dont want to get into right now. How did you handle nights alone. My DD gets ne through the day.. But I havent slept without my hubby in 5 years.. I dont co sleep. So DD cant sleep with me.. Sorry if this, s scattered im typing while crying.

I don't know your situation, so excuse me if i jump to conclusions....
but wouldn't it not make a difference to sleep alone if you two are on the verge of divorce...?
like I said, I'm not sure of your situation.. but when I knew me and ex SO were on the verge of a break up, after 2years... laying in bed next to them wasn't even the same. it was like being alone, because we were both so distant from each other....


Never been thru a divorce. but just know that if you're both not happy, then LO will pick up on it, and divorce is your best option to make everyone happy.
I hope you realize you're a strong momma and can make it! good luck with everything!  

well , my ex packed a bag and left. . . first thing I did was rearrange the place the way " I wanted it " , that could give you a fresh start. Talk to friends as much as you can . . . friends can really help you out just as far as having someone to vent to

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Nesbitt:</b>" I don't know your situation, so excuse me if i jump to conclusions.... but wouldn't it not make a difference ... [snip!] ... best option to make everyone happy. I hope you realize you're a strong momma and can make it! good luck with everything!  "</blockquote>



I still love him so laying beside him was easy. Hes an amazing guy.. Nothing bad to say. Were civil.and agree on everything but its still hard to accept that you failed in a marriage and its over.

Quoting Kylie's Mommy ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Nesbitt:</b>" I don't know your situation, so excuse me ... [snip!] ... Nothing bad to say. Were civil.and agree on everything but its still hard to accept that you failed in a marriage and its over."

is it a one sided relationship then?
that you still care for him, and he doesn't feel the same... or...?  

If you still feel that way about him, maybe it is not over. . . every marriage I have ever seen fail , failed because of 2 people hating eachother , and not being able to stand looking at eachother anymore. . . maybe you guys could work things out ?

Quoting Due Oct 20th ! !:" If you still feel that way about him, maybe it is not over. . . every marriage I have ever seen fail ... [snip!] ... people hating eachother , and not being able to stand looking at eachother anymore. . . maybe you guys could work things out ?"

but if its one sided, and its only her that feels that way.... what is there to save? you cant force the other to want to work things out if they're already over it....   that's why I asked...

but if you both are still in love.. then what is the problem..?

Quoting Mrs. Nesbitt:" but if its one sided, and its only her that feels that way.... what is there to save? you cant force ... [snip!] ... out if they're already over it....   that's why I asked... but if you both are still in love.. then what is the problem..?"

HMM ! now I am curious ! Maybe just getting distant over the years ? But I wanna know !

Quoting Due Oct 20th ! !:" HMM ! now I am curious ! Maybe just getting distant over the years ? But I wanna know !"

me too! ha. but she said she didn't wanna get into it..
so Idk how much more help I can be without knowing what's going on.  
sorry mama, I tried all I know with the situation you've given...

I will briefly tell the story.. Please dont judge.. Well my husband was the 2nd guy I ever been with all ways sexual and serious relationship.. So one day he decided to bring his best friend of 15 years into the bedroom for a 1 time thing.. I kept saying no over & over.. But I eventually just did it bc hes very perswasive (sp?) Well the next couple days I hated myself and couldnt believe what my husband & I done.. Well months went by and for some stupid ass reason we decided to be in a love triangle.. Like my hubby was my husband.. His best friend was my bf. They never touched or did anything.. Clearing that out lol. Well months went by and me and my bf started loving eachother we told my DH.. told him everything he was okay with it.. Well ever since that it messed us,up.. I started falling out,of love with my DH.. He knows,i,told him.. Took time off with the bf and worked,on us.. Well now its like he wants all of me again or none of me.. And I well love my bf too. And cant just leave him.. So I decided to just be single right now till I figure it out..,its nit fair to either one of them . Yes I know what,we did,was stupid.. And its our faults I understand that so please dont remind me.

oh wow...
well.. if you're in love with DH, he is your husband... and if he says he wants all or nothing, then that's where I'd go. I completely understand him wanting you to be 100% with him, or not at all.
would you want DH to have a gf, that he was saying he loved and wanted to be with also?
I wouldn't...

that is a very odd situation.
hopefully you can make a decision, and the other will still be there as a friend. and nothing more.
if you do make a decision on one person, remember this situation, and don't let it happen again. don't let another guy step in enough to give you a chance to fall in love with someone else..

Quoting Kylie's Mommy ♥:" I will briefly tell the story.. Please dont judge.. Well my husband was the 2nd guy I ever been with ... [snip!] ... fair to either one of them . Yes I know what,we did,was stupid.. And its our faults I understand that so please dont remind me."

DUDE ! i love your story ! My ex and I did the same exact thing ! LOL . . . only we had a 4 some with another couple . . . months went by , and I was completely in love with my mans friend . . . I mean in LOVE . . . we have been together for 2 years now, and expecting a kid this month. . . If you fall for someone else. . . yea your marriage is over. . . but if you are not sure about the boyfriend , maybe you should just be single !

<blockquote><b>Quoting Due Oct 20th ! !:</b>" DUDE ! i love your story ! My ex and I did the same exact thing ! LOL . . . only we had a 4 some with ... [snip!] ... else. . . yea your marriage is over. . . but if you are not sure about the boyfriend , maybe you should just be single !"</blockquote>


I do love my bf. Hes great. Ive kbown him for 5 years now. Hes been around since ive been with DH. but never.saw him this way. I was good to my husband never wondered outside the marriage or anything.. He pressured it on me and I broke bc for some reason I ALWAYS listened to me. My DD loves my bf to. Hes been around sinve well before she was concieved lol. I want to be single just to really think things over to make sure I make the right.choice.

woww that's a very crazy situation!! I think you need to follow your heart, there is one you want to be with more than the other...you just have to figure out who that one is.