words can't describe how pissed & disrespected I feel.

today SO was sitting with me on the couch and I made a comment (not rude) about how he shouldn't make his 70+ year old grandmother make his lunch when he just sits there watching TV and leaving all his other cups dishes everywehre for her to clean. When we got into the kitchen he made a comment saying 'you know you should be in here making my lunch" I was like "uhhh 1. I am not your mtoher 2. you are a big boy and can make it yourself by now and 3. I do enough for you by cleaning your laundry, having a meal warm for you when you get home, and I take care of Logan all day 24/7." he then proceeded to joke around saying I don't do smurf but sit on my ass all day

excuse me ^ !?!?!?!??!!?!?

He tried to get al huggy and smurf thinking we were just joking, but I was so pissed I didn't want him to smurfing give me a hug!? he grabbed me and said "chill out" and I told him "no you think I don't frucking do smurf all day I don't appreciate that."

he told me "smurf you, you sit on your ass all day not doing smurf and complain how tired you are" and thenp proceeded to mock me about how I said I'm tired this morning after studying till 4am for my anatomy exam.

god damnmmmiiitt!! I'm so pissed. He ins't home ALL DAY and when he does come home, logan is already usually asleep. He gets the easy smurf with him, I clean our room and it's always spotless, I do his laundry every 4 days so he ALWAYS has clean clothes, I make sure there is a meal in the microwave when he gets home, and the other morning - I smurfing made him breakfast in bed just to be nice. When the smurf do I ever get that smurf!?

I am a full time studen taking 6 classes (2 of which are my 2 core science classes which determines if I am in nursing school or not). He's the one who told me he doesn't want me working when I was fiunally able to go back to work. He said he'd take care of all my expenses so all I had to do was take care of Logan and school. Now he's throwing it in my face. He has NO CLUE what I do everyday after he leaves work. I bust my ass studying, cleaning, cooking and taking care of the baby.

ugh. I'm just so mad. And another thing, when logan was first born - SO was still in school. Although he only took 3 classes once a week which came very easy to him because they were for his major. He didn't struggle with school or had 6 hard classes. He told me I had to be the one to wake up with the baby since he was in school and he needs sleep so he can be good for school and work. Now that I'm back in school, I thought it would flip and he'd do the same for me occasionally. all I ask is for you to get the early morning feed once in a while for me since I did it for you the 3 months logan was born and you were in school. But no, he does it OCCASIONALLY. Now, he's going onto first shift, and I'm going to be the only one waking up with him at the early morning, when I also have class at 9am. I don't mind waking up with my son, It's my job and I love our early morning bonding. But sheesh, can momma ask for a day or 3 off here and there so I can sleep like you got to!?!?!?!

ugh I just really needed to vent. I'm so pissed at him for saying that to me. Now, becuse hd thinks I don't do smurf. I am not cleaning, cooking or doing laundry for him. Then he can see how "I don't do smurf!".  

Guys are stupid and don't think before they open their mouth. Pick your battles though....is this really something worth fighting over?

Quoting ----&&:" Guys are stupid and don't think before they open their mouth. Pick your battles though....is this really something worth fighting over?"

I just walked out of the house and went to class. I'm just angry and I get no thanks for all the smurf I do for him, and he doesn't realize how hard I work. This isn't the frist time he's said smurf without thinking - and I'm really just tired of the disrespect. Instead of opening my mouth, I just left.

honestly i only read half it was long but i take care of 3 kids all day and have a parttime job and i still make my hubbys lunch. he works 12am-10am so he sleeps all day then i stay up until 11 when he gets up and i have everything ready for him. he works alot so i dont see the problem if he wants me to make lunch.

Quoting jackie0608:" honestly i only read half it was long but i take care of 3 kids all day and have a parttime job and i ... [snip!] ... 11 when he gets up and i have everything ready for him. he works alot so i dont see the problem if he wants me to make lunch."

I've done it here and there for him. But I use my late mornings before class to study or get done homework - I don't have time to make his lunch.. If he were to ask me to make it, I gladly would. But I didn't like how he just expects it. And expects me to take care of him while HE sits on his ass.

and for him to think I just sit on my ass all day doing nothing, was a slap in the face because he knows how much of a struggle my classes are for me and how hard I work to juggle everything. I think the only time I acutally get to sit on my ass is if I take a smurf if my son's taking a 20 minute nap. meh.

Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:" I've done it here and there for him. But I use my late mornings before class to study or get done homework ... [snip!] ... make it, I gladly would. But I didn't like how he just expects it. And expects me to take care of him while HE sits on his ass."

lol yeah they do just expect stuff! i just dont feel like hearing bitching 11 at night if he cant find something and then he will be so loud it wakes the kids up so id rather just do it and get him out! btw where in philly do you live?

Quoting jackie0608:" lol yeah they do just expect stuff! i just dont feel like hearing bitching 11 at night if he cant find ... [snip!] ... and then he will be so loud it wakes the kids up so id rather just do it and get him out! btw where in philly do you live? "

haha then I would understand that. I live in the Northeast. How about you?

Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:" and for him to think I just sit on my ass all day doing nothing, was a slap in the face because he knows ... [snip!] ... everything. I think the only time I acutally get to sit on my ass is if I take a smurf if my son's taking a 20 minute nap. meh."

lol yeah i feel you on that i usually dont get to do smurf. and if i am sitting down its cause im nursing the baby.

Quoting ----&&:" Guys are stupid and don't think before they open their mouth. Pick your battles though....is this really something worth fighting over?"

If she's not feeling appreciated and he thinks that she does nothing all day, yes it is.

Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:" haha then I would understand that. I live in the Northeast. How about you?"

northeast too! lol you kind of look really familar.

men can be smurfs...
personally, I probably wouldn't do smurf for a week, then let him notice how much really gets done by you.
but that's me, haha.

Idk, maybe chill a little bit, and when he gets home tonight sit him down and tell him he really hurt your feelings, and that you don't feel appreciated for the things you're actually doing.

<blockquote><b>Quoting jackie0608:</b>" northeast too! lol you kind of look really familar."</blockquote>

hmmm where did you go to highschool? in the northeast I live right off the boulevard. by the new wawa.

My BD was the same way. I'm planning on letting him watch her today while I go with my mom shopping. lol Maybe after a few hours with no help, he'll see that its not just a walk in the park.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Nesbitt:</b>" men can be smurfs... personally, I probably wouldn't do smurf for a week, then let him notice how much ... [snip!] ... him down and tell him he really hurt your feelings, and that you don't feel appreciated for the things you're actually doing."</blockquote>


haha that is,exactly what I am going to do!!