re: words can't describe how pissed & disrespected I feel.

Honestly, how is what you initially said to him 'not rude?'

Quoting Jas ♥:" If she's not feeling appreciated and he thinks that she does nothing all day, yes it is."

 

Quoting Mrs. Nesbitt:" men can be smurfs... personally, I probably wouldn't do smurf for a week, then let him notice how much ... [snip!] ... him down and tell him he really hurt your feelings, and that you don't feel appreciated for the things you're actually doing."

This...because I've done that. Tell me I don't do smurf when I work full time and go to school part time. Smurfer, I'll show you what it looks like to not do smurf around the house. It worked  

My So and I both work full time ... the same job ... and the same number of hours. I work afternoons and he works mornings. The bastard can either make his own lunch or starve ... this isn't 1952.

Quoting The (super kinky) Master:" My So and I both work full time ... the same job ... and the same number of hours. I work afternoons and he works mornings. The bastard can either make his own lunch or starve ... this isn't 1952."

that's how I felt. I worked full time up until I was 7 months pregnant, and no one ever made my lunch or anything for me. I'm a big girl. I'm not his maid OR his wife, it's not my job to look after him. I do ENOUGH for him. All I said was "babe you shouldn't make mommom make lunch all the time she can barely stand up as it is" and he didn't think anything of it. we didn't start fighting until he told me I don't do smurf. So tonight, I did not touch a thing in our apartment, I left everything how it was. Now, when he has no idea where anything is, no dinner ready when he gets home, and no clean work clothes for tomorrow - he'l rethink his statement of I "don't do smurf."

Quoting Rd.:" Honestly, how is what you initially said to him 'not rude?'"

I don't think it was rude... if he sits on his ass and doesn't do smurf and expects his grandmother or wife to heed to his beck and call... yeah he should be called out for it!

Quoting jackie0608:" thats not far from us at all!"

I know! we should have a play date :-D

Quoting flip off:" I know! we should have a play date :-D"

I would so be down for that! As much as I love my BG and FB mommy's, I need some actual in-person momma's to do play dates and such with!!

Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:" I would so be down for that! As much as I love my BG and FB mommy's, I need some actual in-person momma's to do play dates and such with!! "

SWEET!!!! ill inbox you my number  

DH said this to me one day. I dint clean a single inch of the house the next day. No laundry, no dusting i didnt run the sweeper, do the dishes I mean I did nothing. DH came home and was like what the hell it looks like a tornado hit here. I was like ya dont tell me i dont do smurf all day. It worked now he doesnt bitch.  

guys can be smurfs. my SO tells me all the time how my job ant smurf. i stay up late with the kids wake up early go to work come home to cook clean watch the kids take care of him and if i dare say im tired or start to fall alseep because im so tired and just cant keep my eyes open he say wake the smurf up you ant leaving me up with the kids so even if i have to wake up by 7 and its 330am ill havee to be up to they knock out.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ----&&:</b>" Guys are stupid and don't think before they open their mouth. Pick your battles though....is this really something worth fighting over?"</blockquote>




I would say it absolutely is something to fight over....she was trying to take up for his grandmother and tell him he needed to help her because he is a grown man and fully able to. He proceeded to disrespect her and say she doesn't do smurf when clearly she does. Why should she let him disrespect her like that? Just because he works doesn't mean he shouldn't have to lift a finger for himself and their household.

I'm sorry you're going through that :/ That sucks. Men are morons sometimes. How the hell can he think you do nothing?!

I really hate when people think staying home with a baby means you're "on your ass" all day. That's not at all what that means! And you're taking 6 classes on top of that, and cleaning up after him? I know how you feel. It wouldn't kill your SO to be freaking appreciative.

Quoting Blah blah F-U:" guys can be smurfs. my SO tells me all the time how my job ant smurf. i stay up late with the kids wake ... [snip!] ... up you ant leaving me up with the kids so even if i have to wake up by 7 and its 330am ill havee to be up to they knock out. "

If my SO said that, he wouldn't be my SO anymore. I'd be all "See ya, taking a mini vacation" and leave him with the kids, as long as I knew they would be safe with him. Because that is BULLSmurf to say "You aint leaving me with the kids."

thanks for all the support ladies. We didn't speak at all that day and I didn't clean a damn thing or do dinner. But he did come home and apologize multiple times saying he's an idiot for what he said and he just gets aggravated because he hates his job and would rather switch places with me. It doesn't excuse what he said/did but when he saw how dirty the apartment was and he had no clean work clothes or a meal to eat - he realized.