re: 2nd Pregancy and I'm Just 16 years old

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥Mama Constantine:</b>" Ehh... it happens. I have 2 babies (both by the same dad), and am happily married to him. But, for some, ... [snip!] ... before you have sex with someone. Am I judgmental towards you if you feel different? Nope. Let people be. It's their choice."</blockquote>



Oh no i understand. I just know someone with 3 different baby daddies and she is 19 and she cant even take care of the kids. But as for you i don't judge you at all. Your children have the same father and your married. That is great.

Quoting Luz Jimenez:" I pray for all of you who do consider abortion a solution. Anf i hope the young girl makes her minf up . Takr care all"

It is a solution. Maybe not the one you would choose, but it is. Oh well.

Im 18 and im 24 weeks with my first and i honestly cant sit here and say i know how you feel and what not because i cant, but i do get a lot of the "what were you thinking" "are you that stupid" "your to young" "your not ready yet" and "you know there such thing as adoption and abortion" but in all honesty im more excited than anything to meet my son and i dont find him a mistake at all and i stand by the fact im 18 pregnant and am excited to be a mother.

Quoting Veronika Karn:" Im 18 and im 24 weeks with my first and i honestly cant sit here and say i know how you feel and what ... [snip!] ... to meet my son and i dont find him a mistake at all and i stand by the fact im 18 pregnant and am excited to be a mother."

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<blockquote><b>Quoting Veronika Karn:</b>" Im 18 and im 24 weeks with my first and i honestly cant sit here and say i know how you feel and what ... [snip!] ... to meet my son and i dont find him a mistake at all and i stand by the fact im 18 pregnant and am excited to be a mother."</blockquote>

Holy run on sentence, batman!

Quoting Veronika Karn:" Im 18 and im 24 weeks with my first and i honestly cant sit here and say i know how you feel and what ... [snip!] ... to meet my son and i dont find him a mistake at all and i stand by the fact im 18 pregnant and am excited to be a mother."

I am 20 and I'm 19 weeks pregnant with my first (a girl). I also get that "You're stupid" crap. But honestly, if you were on birth control after you had your twins, then you did what you were supposed to and it just happened. Idk how that must feel going through it twice just at 16, but if it's hard at 20 with one, I can only imagine! They aren't mistakes, and I'm sure you will be okay. If you can't talk to your mom, or sister, or anyone I am definitely here if you need me hon.

Quoting Veronika Karn:" Im 18 and im 24 weeks with my first and i honestly cant sit here and say i know how you feel and what ... [snip!] ... to meet my son and i dont find him a mistake at all and i stand by the fact im 18 pregnant and am excited to be a mother."

I am 20 and I'm 19 weeks pregnant with my first (a girl). I also get that "You're stupid" crap. But honestly, if you were on birth control after you had your twins, then you did what you were supposed to and it just happened. Idk how that must feel going through it twice just at 16, but if it's hard at 20 with one, I can only imagine! They aren't mistakes, and I'm sure you will be okay. If you can't talk to your mom, or sister, or anyone I am definitely here if you need me hon.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Devil's Advocate:</b>" You're"</blockquote>




 

<blockquote><b>Quoting Devil's Advocate:</b>" Are you smurfing high?"</blockquote>



In most states the parents can't press charges if the minor had consensual sex with someone over 18, as long as the minor is of a certain age. Not all states are like this, but who are we to judge? Why is it ok for a 10 year age gap between two individuals if one is 30 and the other is 20. It is a 5 year age gap. So it would be no big deal if she was 18 and he was 23? 18 apparently is the magical age when age gaps go out the window?

Quoting HelloMeanie:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Devil's Advocate:</b>" Are you smurfing high?"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... gap. So it would be no big deal if she was 18 and he was 23? 18 apparently is the magical age when age gaps go out the window?"

Because when both people are over 18 you are dealing with consenting ADULTS not children. Im sorry if my 13/14 year old daughter was dating and having sex with a 18/19 year old I would be pressing charges.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Devil's Advocate:</b>" So you're trying to tell me that over there, kids make the rules? I think you don't have a smurfing clue what you're talking about. "</blockquote>




http://www.cga.ct.gov/2003/olrdata/jud/rpt/2003-r-0376.htm

http://age-of-consent.findthedata.org/m
^website outlining statutory rape and age of consent per state.

<blockquote><b>Quoting HelloMeanie:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Devil's Advocate:</b>" Are you smurfing high?"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... gap. So it would be no big deal if she was 18 and he was 23? 18 apparently is the magical age when age gaps go out the window?"</blockquote>



the difference between a 13 / 14 year old and an 18 year old is brain development .you cannot consent for sex as a 13 year old. any man that's having sex with someone that young is taking advantage, weather she says yes or not.

<blockquote><b>Quoting veeoliver06:</b>" To the people who gave me good advice and didnt judge me thank you. it really helped me alot!!!  "</blockquote>



Per your states laws on statutory rape and what age of consent is, your parents may be mad once learning your boyfriends age but can't legally do anything since it was consensual sex. But that isn't what you were inquiring about, my personal opinion is to really think of how hard things would be for you to have 3 kids at your age. Think about how much diapers would cost for three kids, clothes, food, daycare, think about long term too, will you be able to get your diploma/GED, how long until you two can support yourselves meaning living on your own with no financial help/government assistance. It will be rough, life will be even more limited, and could very well add a lot of stress to your relationship. You need to think about what YOU can live with doing! And only what YOU feel is right. Follow your heart, talk to a trusted adult, definitely tell your parents everything, I know you we're my daughter, I would be upset but would want to be there to support you. Idk what your mom is like but I hope she can be there for you.

Best of luck on whatever you decide!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sami&Baby Silas:</b>" That is not true in the states."</blockquote>




Yes it is.
http://age-of-consent.findthedata.org/m

<blockquote><b>Quoting LexrexAndDomorex:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Devil's Advocate:</b>" If you were my daughter, I would have ... [snip!] ... a big difference. If he is supporting her and the children then i dont see a point in jail, especially if it was consensual."</blockquote>




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