What's normal?

Within my marriage, my ex and I wouldn't go a day without talking and that began from day one until the day he left-10 years.

I'm with someone now, we've been dating for 6 months and in a relationship for 4. I'm still adjusting to the differences in this relationship and for the most part, things are incredible.

The one thing I struggle with is communication. Not very often, but there are somedays where we don't talk at all. I know it seems juvenile to ask this but, that's normal, right?

Going from a relationship where we talked every day to one where we'll sometimes go a day without talking IS, unfortunately, a bit of an adjustment.

So..my question to you is...if you're NOT living with your SO/boyfriend, whatever...what's the longest you'll go, or have gone, without talking?

The longest I will go is 12 hours.... unless he is in the army or something like that nad I cant reach him.. I dont have an SO and talking / texting / emailing is something that I need to have. lol I dont find it juvinlae.

I think every stage of the relationship is different. you guys are still in the beginning...it can definitely be a normal thing to not speak for 24 hours. He's probably adjusting to having a gilfriend, and maybe he doesn't realize when a day has gone by...

Ummm, I've been living with my husband for 9 years and even we go days without talking to each other, lmao....and not b/c we're stubborn or its a fight, its b/c we also have our own lives and things can get hectic. So, I honestly wouldn't worry at all.

Quoting Lindsay*J:" Within my marriage, my ex and I wouldn't go a day without talking and that began from day one until the ... [snip!] ... you is...if you're NOT living with your SO/boyfriend, whatever...what's the longest you'll go, or have gone, without talking?"

Never have gone a day, but we were teenagers when we started dating.

I think that's pretty normal. You guys still have separate lives, you know?

And that's what I need to remember-our lives are still seperate and this is how we like it.

Looking back now, I can identify where all the wrong things happened to make my marriage fail and one of the biggest is that we didn't have our own lives. It was the same with my boyfriend and his past relationships so we're ensuring that we still keep our personal lives intact.

It's such an adjustment though lol.

Quoting Lindsay*J:" And that's what I need to remember-our lives are still seperate and this is how we like it. Looking ... [snip!] ... his past relationships so we're ensuring that we still keep our personal lives intact. It's such an adjustment though lol."

To me, I find that really, really important.
With myself, there will always be "us" but I am still me and he is still him, so we also make time for our own interests and such. Basically, instead of making everything a couples thing (which I know toooonnnns of couples who do). For example, if I want to see a movie that I know wouldn't interest him, at this stage in our relationship I wouldn't even bother asking him to go, I would just set a date with my girlfriends to see it, lol. And same goes for him....imo its better to do things separately than to always do things together (b/c you're not always going to like the same things)

Plus, who's kidding who, I'd f-ing strangle my husband if we were always together, or he'd probably push me off a cliff, lmao

And the same goes for talking with one another, if I'm really busy or he's really busy, then stopping to tell the other about our day would just take away from the busy person getting done quicker.....so if we go a day or two without talking with each other, we both know its only to help the other get their smurf done