PreSchool help!!!

My SD is in preschool and everyday the teacher tells me that she has not listened in school.. She argues with the teachers when they tell her what to do, she has an attitude she has yelled at them, she does not do what she is told, she just pretty much does whatever she wants. She is the oldest one in her preschool she will be 5 very soon. Everyday i ask the teacher how she was and if she was bad then she has to go to bed early and no TV. Ive tried giving her the expectations on how to behave in class right before we go in as a reminder to be good. but nothing seems to work.. This is completely unacceptable in our family and we just dont know what to do anymore

Have you asked her why she is misbehaving in school?

Personally I don't think the punishment is connected to the behavior. You and the teacher/s need to get to the root of the problem and give your LO the tools to solve it, taking away t.v. and putting her to bed early isn't solving the issue. It might make her even more stubborn and less willing to listen in school. What does she have to say about why she's not listening? Does she do the same at home? If not then I'd be concerned about the preschool atmosphere.

She just say i wasn't listening, because i wanted to, I wasn't supposed to

Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" Personally I don't think the punishment is connected to the behavior. You and the teacher/s need to get ... [snip!] ... say about why she's not listening? Does she do the same at home? If not then I'd be concerned about the preschool atmosphere. "

Yes she does that same at home. She rarely listens to anyone when she doesn't feel like it.. She is capable of being a well behaved child and she chooses not to..even her teacher has commented that she does these things on purpose.

Does she act like that at home? Maybe someone is picking on her or teasing her at school? I know its only pre-k but you never know. Maybe she dislikes the teacher? I would try to have a talk about it with her, it seems as if punishment isnt working.

I could ask if anyone is teasing her but i dont think so.. I think she would say something.. Her behavior has been happening since the very first day.

Quoting Kelly13086:" Yes she does that same at home. She rarely listens to anyone when she doesn't feel like it.. She is ... [snip!] ... of being a well behaved child and she chooses not to..even her teacher has commented that she does these things on purpose."

Doesn't sound like it's going to be an easy fix then. If you're on fb I'd suggest the page positive parenting toddlers and beyond. There's a lot of helpful advice and links on it.

Thanks ill have to check that out

Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" Personally I don't think the punishment is connected to the behavior. You and the teacher/s need to get ... [snip!] ... say about why she's not listening? Does she do the same at home? If not then I'd be concerned about the preschool atmosphere. "

THIS!

Honestly, the punishment your applying is very....broad and is not working. Dig a little deeper and find out why she is really acting that way.

If she is doing it at home too, there is your problem right there. Raise your voice & put her in time out right away when she does it anywhere you are around. My son tries to be bratty and ignores what he is told. I immediately give him a warning & then time out. Since he gets in trouble at home for it at home, he knows better to do it in public. Although it helps that his teacher is really good with them. She reminds the class they are big kids now & if they don't listen, they don't get to join in any of the fun stuff until they do.