Forums > Debate & DiscussPage 1 <by: Irish Mammy*J,R&A*

re: Lower abortion limit

posted 4th Oct
Quoting Reilly and Lila's Mommy:" To you. To some people adopting out would be a lot harder!"


To me.. adoption was much harder than abortion..
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posted 4th Oct
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" To me.. adoption was much harder than abortion.. "

I'm so sorry mamma. You have got to be one of the strongest women I know.... well "know"  
I don't think I could do either. But if I HAD to make a decision I would pick abortion. I seriously don't think I could mentally handle adoption...  
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I have 2 kids & live in Kentucky
posted 4th Oct
Quoting Reilly and Lila's Mommy:" I'm so sorry mamma. You have got to be one of the strongest women I know.... well "know"   I don't ... [snip!] ... either. But if I HAD to make a decision I would pick abortion. I seriously don't think I could mentally handle adoption...  "



Me neither. I really couldn't. It would destroy me mentally and physically.

Abortion, while hard, would be easier on me in the long run.
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I have 1 child & live in Rochester, New York
posted 4th Oct
Quoting Reilly and Lila's Mommy:" I'm so sorry mamma. You have got to be one of the strongest women I know.... well "know"   I don't ... [snip!] ... either. But if I HAD to make a decision I would pick abortion. I seriously don't think I could mentally handle adoption...  "



Thanks. lol. My ex told me that I need to get over what I did. I did what I did.. Yeah want to punch him for saying that. lmao.  

The other day my son and I were doing his homework and it was a family tree... and I asked him if he wanted to put ethan on there. He said no because hes not our family and hes not living with us, well the next day we were finishing it up and he said make a hand for ethan. I said ok. and then he said no. and then he started crying and he was like why cant he be here with us, why cant he live with us instead of ryan and julio.. he was mad at me.   Yeah I would have asked my mom for 20 dollars towards the abortion so I wouldnt have to put my oldest through that.
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posted 4th Oct
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" Me neither. I really couldn't. It would destroy me mentally and physically. Abortion, while hard, would be easier on me in the long run."

    
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I have 2 kids & live in Kentucky
posted 4th Oct
<blockquote><b>Quoting Reilly and Lila's Mommy:</b>" To you. To some people adopting out would be a lot harder!"</blockquote>




Yes, this is why I said "I" and not ever once said anything even implying I thought anyone else should feel the same way.
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I have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in Enfield, Connecticut
posted 4th Oct
Thanks. SO actually just got a really good job and moved in with me after us being split for almost a year so I finally have a second income and can hopefully finally catch up on my bills and save for the baby  
If we break up again I have no idea what I would do though  
Anything to be able to give my kids a good life though.
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I have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in Enfield, Connecticut
posted 4th Oct
<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" Thanks. lol. My ex told me that I need to get over what I did. I did what I did.. Yeah want to punch ... [snip!] ... at me.   Yeah I would have asked my mom for 20 dollars towards the abortion so I wouldnt have to put my oldest through that. "</blockquote>


I'm so sorry your son feels like that  
What you did was very hard and in my opinion courageous.

Honestly though, and I'm really just curious not trying to offend you in any way, but even now that your son is born and adopted out and you've seen him and (possibly) held him you still think the best decision would have been to abort himand not have him alive at all? Or exist I guess you could say?
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I have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in Enfield, Connecticut
posted 4th Oct
Quoting Becky☮Will:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" Thanks. lol. My ex told me that ... [snip!] ... you still think the best decision would have been to abort himand not have him alive at all? Or exist I guess you could say?"
No its not offensive.

Still I would love to go back and get the abortion. To save myself and my son from the heartache.
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posted 4th Oct
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Thanks. lol. My ex told me that I need to get over what I did. I did what I did.. Yeah want to punch ... [snip!] ... at me.   Yeah I would have asked my mom for 20 dollars towards the abortion so I wouldnt have to put my oldest through that. "

I'm so sorry hunny.   I'm sure that has to be sooo hard. But hopefully when he is older and able to understand why you did it he will not be mad anymore.
And just remember that while he is getting older and learning to deal with it that you gave that baby to a wonderful couple that is now a family. You did a wonderful thing. And that may not make it hurt any less but it can at least hopefully help you to feel better about your decision. <3
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I have 2 kids & live in Kentucky
posted 4th Oct
Quoting Reilly and Lila's Mommy:" I'm so sorry hunny.   I'm sure that has to be sooo hard. But hopefully when he is older and able to ... [snip!] ... thing. And that may not make it hurt any less but it can at least hopefully help you to feel better about your decision. <3"


Thanks.   I know I need peace with everything. Its hard. Im going to go see a therapist because I get anixety attacks going anywhere near babies.
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posted 4th Oct
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Thanks.   I know I need peace with everything. Its hard. Im going to go see a therapist because I get anixety attacks going anywhere near babies. "

That's probably a good idea. They may be able to help you to come to terms with it   I'm sure you are much closer to many other people on this site but if you ever want to talk via PM please feel free to do so. I haven't dealt with adoption or abortion but I have dealt with some other things that I have had to have help to overcome.
Just remember when you are down or when you are having an anxiety attack to breath. And once you can breathe that you did what was best for you and your family. You made it easier for your family to thrive and for a new family to begin. You did a wonderful thing and are a wonderful person.
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I have 2 kids & live in Kentucky
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