so much on my mind

a little background info, i've been legally married for over 6 years now, however we separated 2 years ago when he cheated on me and got another girl pregnant. we still aren't divorced, but ever since we split up he's been in a relationship with the other girl. Well just recently we started sleeping together again. I haven't gotten up the courage to ask him if he has any interest in getting back together or not, or if he just wants the sex. I'm too afraid of the answer. As much as he hurt me before by cheating on me, I love him, I'll always love him, and he's the father of my two kids, he makes me truly happy. I know it's technically wrong for me to be sleeping with him right now since he's cheating on her with me now, but it feels like payback to me, and it keeps my hopes up that there's still a chance for him to leave her and go back to me. Ok well that was for the most part just to be able to write and get it out of my head, it's driving me crazy thinking about him and trying to figure out what he wants. No need to comment, but feel free to leave advice or anything else

Stop making yourself available to him. He hurt you. Why even consider making him feel good again?

I hope it works out for you....but this just doesn't seem like one of those situations that does...

Although you might feel like it's a form of 'payback', I don't really think it's the other woman's fault the your husband cheated, he did that on his own accord.
If he cheated on you, and is now cheating on her, I honestly wouldn't want to take him back.......... How would you trust someone like that ever again? Feelings suck. I'm sorry you are feeling drawn towards him, but I think you should end your relationship with him and try to finalize that divorce.

Quoting Tavi:" Stop making yourself available to him. He hurt you. Why even consider making him feel good again? I hope it works out for you....but this just doesn't seem like one of those situations that does..."

idk i guess I do it bc it makes me feel better about him cheating on me, and the fact that I still love him and want to be with him

Quoting Kimber-Lily:" Although you might feel like it's a form of 'payback', I don't really think it's the other woman's fault ... [snip!] ... you are feeling drawn towards him, but I think you should end your relationship with him and try to finalize that divorce. "

yes I agree with you there, it was definitely both of their fault since they cheated together, i just for some reason have been able to forgive him, and not her

You should just talk to him about it... Especially if it's stirring up old feelings. Either he wants to be with you or he doesn't, and is just getting free sex out of the deal, while he plays house with his girlfriend.

Quoting Twin's Mommy:" You should just talk to him about it... Especially if it's stirring up old feelings. Either he wants ... [snip!] ... he wants to be with you or he doesn't, and is just getting free sex out of the deal, while he plays house with his girlfriend."

Yea I will, I think next time we meet up I'll be asking him, if he has no intentions of us getting back together, then I won't continue to sleep with him

Quoting BG Secrets:" Yea I will, I think next time we meet up I'll be asking him, if he has no intentions of us getting back together, then I won't continue to sleep with him"

Good deal.

If you do get back together, he'll cheat on you. Hes not worth it. He clearly hasn't "learned from his mistakes" if he's willing to do the same thing to another woman he loves. He will do it again, and there won't be any trust in your relationship. You're worth more than that, and can do better.