what the mother smurfing hell

Wow I am so pissed right now. Back story SO cheated on me 5 months pregnant told me like an hour after it happened so I took him back. Well tonight he left his computer on yeah i’m a snooper. It’s the first time I have looked. Well I found loads of smurf on there. I don’t care that I found porn that’s fine but that fact that he get’s mad at me for watching it and tells me porn is stupid he never watches it pisses me off. Ok so I keep strolling I wasn’t mad or anything about the porn I planned on telling him when he got up to never get pissed off at me for watching porn because he is a hypocrit. Well then I come across a MEETING website where he was chatting with some girls in our area. The fact that he has cheated on me of course I come to the worst conclusion. That is bull smurf that he is/or is trying/talking to hook up with girls in our area. Well I went in and trvied giving him a chance to explain and he stuttered and was saying it’s something that pops up. Yeah with his email location name and everything. well I left and he texts me this. “thanks for the surprise attack while i’m tired just so you know paul told me he found an ex on that site and I was concerned you were doing something so i was looking for you. You clear your history all the time so it’s ok just jump to conclusions and the worst possible outcome. I don’t want you if your going to be like that. Everytime i’ve been on my computer in the last week you were right there and thanks we need a new door now” So again more lies. I am sure “mom and daughter get smurfed” is a video I would be in lmao. So anyways this is what I said “dont even try and make me feel like smurf when your the one who lied. I have never lied to you about watching porn and I dont hide it from you and i sure as hell aint on a meeting singles website lookin for dudes. we havent been having sex as much as we used to but I understand you would rather watch porn and masturbate when you have me who asks for sex everyday. and thats cool you dont want to be with me well i dont want to be with someone who hides smurf from me then lies about it and dont blame me for you slamming the door. and oh yeah those titles on the porn videos are really something I would be involved with especially since YOU are the only one who has video taped us and that was only a blowjob.” He replied then leave smurfing bitch. I am lost as to how I am the bitch here lamo.

wow. talk about dysfunctional.

holy smurf. Talk about deflecting guilt onto the other person.
TF is his problem?

A relationship will NEVER work because neither of you are willing to get over trust issues. You snooped, he lied. It's just going to be a never ending cycle. And IMO, if he's calling you a bitch he's extremely immature. SO has never and will never call me that. Name calling is juvenile and doesn't do anything but make smurf worst.

Honestly, I would leave if I were you.

Quoting K. P. Walsh:" holy smurf. Talk about deflecting guilt onto the other person. TF is his problem?"

He’s always been that way. he has a problem with apologies and seeing that anything is his fault. He is an angel and nothing is ever his fault 

I think it's a good idea to take a break. He got
Caught and tried to blame you......

Either forgive him or leave .he sounds like he doesnt really care if you stay or go

Idiot uses deflection ...

Deflection is innefective ....

Yeah seriously I would take a break at least that boy is doing something he's guilty about.

your a bitch because he got caught and until he can think of something else to say you will be more bitches,whores,and everything else in the book. then he will make up some excuse as to why he does it like you make him feel insecure and blah blah to see if you fall for it he will try everything in the book but its up to you . its now a game of chess.

Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 30:" wow. talk about dysfunctional."

   

To say the least dysfunctional, I would leave if it were me in that situation. But I don't put up with that smurf (cheating in the first place). Let alone him telling me that he did it because he thought I was doing something? Yeah, no. Dude screams loser.

Quoting Mj's Crazy Mama♥:" A relationship will NEVER work because neither of you are willing to get over trust issues. You snooped, ... [snip!] ... immature. SO has never and will never call me that. Name calling is juvenile and doesn't do anything but make smurf worst."

I know I keep trying to tell myself that. We hardly ever have problems things are 99% great. I have been getting over the fact he cheated but like you said obviously I have trust issues because I snooped his smurf. But I would really like to make it work he is great with our son. It is so hard to leave =(.

He sounds like an ass who's just mad that he got caught. I couldn't care less if SO looks at porn, we both do, but if I found out he was on a singles site talking to girls in our area I'd lose my smurfing mind. At the very least I'd be taking a break for a while

Quoting ☮ Phuket:" I think it's a good idea to take a break. He got Caught and tried to blame you......"

I think a break is a great idea but where the hell would I go? We have a 3 month old son I have no job or a place to go. My closest friend is his freaking mom that’s where I am at now and he has to go to work in like 30 minutes and we have one car because the battery in my truck is dead which he was supossed to pay for in a week

I'd leave. I understand you wanting to give him that chance to prove he was sorry after he cheated, but hun, he didn't learn. He's lying to you to your face. That shows very little respect for you and honestly, I wouldn't tolerate it. You deserve someone that wouldn't go behind your back and cheat on you, and you definitely don't deserve a liar. You will find someone who treats you better than that, but sadly its not him. Best wishes hun.