which doesnt necessarily mean i wanna be alone. but my husband works the graveyard shift; 10 pm -6am he gets home and takes my oldest to schoolso me and the lo can sleep longer. but when i wake up hes knockeddd the eff out :\ i do my normal house work. and when he wakes up at 12 -1 he wants breakfast. so i cook. hen hes done he wants to watch tv. or play xbox. which is ok cuz my lo is awake and will be awake til around 3 that i leave to pick my oldest up from school. they both take a nap at 330. awesome right ? i get my alone time with my hubby.. .. NOT cuz his fckn friends are here.every day.. dinner time.. his friends are STILL here. he leaves to work at 9:45 his friends LEAVE WHEN HE LEAVES!! that hurts my feelings. all i want is for him to dedicate some of his time to me :\ but he gets upset when i tell him " ur friends are always here" like right now. argument. didnt even ksis me goodbye :'( am i asking for too much ?

Quoting Lucynda Marie:" which doesnt necessarily mean i wanna be alone. but my husband works the graveyard shift; 10 pm -6am ... [snip!] ... i tell him " ur friends are always here" like right now. argument. didnt even ksis me goodbye :'( am i asking for too much ?"

he works horrible hours and Im assuming he works very hard for your family so i would get over it.

It's one thing to have a busy schedule and not have any free time at all to see each other. It's completely another thing to have free time and dedicate it all to something else at the neglect of your spouse.   I'm sorry he can't see how selfish he is being.

Your SO and my SO have the same exact schedule. Mine works graveyard 10-6 and wakes up at 1 or 2 in the afternoon. We spend time together when he's not working and see's his friend maybe every other week for a few hours.

You need to ask him to take you on a date.

No you're not. His friends shouldn't be over everyday.

My DH would not get away with that... although we only have mutual friends, I still wouldn't want them around every single day. That would drive me nuts.

Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 30:" he works horrible hours and Im assuming he works very hard for your family so i would get over it."

Seriously? He's a married man with a family, he has to devote time to her or their marriage wont last. This isn't high school.

I don't think your being a brat at all. I mean I think it's ok to have your friends over some but not EVERY day... That's a bit much. He should def consider how you feel and at least give you a few evenings a week.

Quoting Mandy and her girls!~:" Seriously? He's a married man with a family, he has to devote time to her or their marriage wont last. This isn't high school."

 

Quoting Mandy and her girls!~:" Seriously? He's a married man with a family, he has to devote time to her or their marriage wont last. This isn't high school."

   

Quoting Mandy and her girls!~:" Seriously? He's a married man with a family, he has to devote time to her or their marriage wont last. This isn't high school."

This!

I also work the graveyard shift, and it sucks, so I can understand that he needs his rest, but his friends shouldn't be there EVERY single day.

Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 30:" he works horrible hours and Im assuming he works very hard for your family so i would get over it."

They're not horrible hours really..my SO used to work swings and that was horrible. He'd go to work at 1pm and get home at 10pm and would go to bed at 2am and wake up an hour before he went to work.
Now it's so much different. He works the same schedule as OP SO and I get to spend time with him from 1pm until 8pm and then on his days off too.


Anyway, OP should NOT get over it.. 

DH works from 8pm to 5am...and if he did that, I would be one pissed wife.

DH does what he can to make sure he spends time with me and the boys.

Priorities.

And I will say, he still gets time to relax and do what he wants...he just knows what should come first.

Quoting Mandy and her girls!~:" Seriously? He's a married man with a family, he has to devote time to her or their marriage wont last. This isn't high school."

   

Quoting Mandy and her girls!~:" Seriously? He's a married man with a family, he has to devote time to her or their marriage wont last. This isn't high school."

i just can't feel any sympathy when he works from 10-6 and comes home and has to leave again to take their child to school when she is right at home. i can imagine how tired that poor man is.

I guess they shouldnt be there every night but its your home too, tell them to leave if you want "alone" time.