Quoting Hodor(5 weeks):" hey are both terrible, really. I am still healing from the verbal abuse I suffered."

Same here....

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mayhem ♥:</b>" Yes. Even worse, sometimes, IMO. Physical abuse injuries eventually heal. But the scars of verbal abuse can stay with someone forever."</blockquote>




THIS!

I think it's dependant on the extent of the abuse. My mum was verbally abusive and I still suffer from that. MMy ex stepfather was VERY physically abusive and I suffer from that more really.

I actually feel like verbal abuse worse (for me)

IDK, I can still remember physical abuse from an ex more than his emotional bullsmurf.

This might be a little too much to share, but it's the only real example I have that illustrates it.

There have been multiple times in my life where I've suffered physical and sexual abuse from men. However, I'm not afraid of men in general, and for the past few years I've been able to have decent emotional and sexual relationships without thinking about it.

However, I have extreme self-esteem issues, and severe body dysmorphia because of the way I've been talked to by family and exes. Knowing I'll never be good enough for those people hurts a lot worse than being taken advantage of by others... It may be smurfed up and ass-backwards how I'm taking it, but I can't help that.

Funny I was just talking about this.. I would rather be slapped everyday then someone tell me "my father doesnt love me" or " my mom is a whore" I use those examples cause it happens way to much cause to many parents dont care they hurt their children as long as they satisfy their own needs

Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:" Funny I was just talking about this.. I would rather be slapped everyday then someone tell me "my father ... [snip!] ... cause it happens way to much cause to many parents dont care they hurt their children as long as they satisfy their own needs"

To me I could handle hearing my mom is a whore or my dad is a piece of smurf all day long... I couldnt handle hearing that Im a whore, fat, lazy, a piece of smurf, liar, good for nothing, a waste of space, a piece of smurf mom, baby killer, cant keep any of your kids, stepping stone... need I go on... everyday... I was verbally abused as a kid, a teen and as an adult. I think it was worse when it was directed at you rather than your parents. I got told that my mom is a piece of smurf and smurfing spoiled.... And saw my mom cry because she got told all of this smurf by my ex stepdad. I hope you understand what I mean..

Quoting Hodor(5 weeks):" hey are both terrible, really. I am still healing from the verbal abuse I suffered."

I am also. 5 years is a long time and i had to have someone talk me into leaving. my ex still tries to do it knowing it works and im trying to be the bigger person and walk away from it but its hard when that is what your used to hearing every day. things do get better tho it just takes time to heal and move on

Both are bad, but physical wounds can heal (unless severe), but the wounds inflicted by verbal abuse can last for a lifetime.

I think it depends on the person and the case. I would never say a specific PERSONS abuse was worse. To me? I think physical is worse. That is my opinion, for ME. I'd never tell someone "what you suffered isn't as bad," because I find that insulting. I've seen that with other forms of abuse "well, you were only molested, you weren't raped, so it's not as bad." I think any classifying is wrong for other people. So for ME, I could take verbal abuse over physical any day. Also, you have to remember that physical abuse isn't just bruises. It's fear, it's everything else that is PART of that physical abuse.

Again, this does not demean anyone who has had verbal abuse. It's just, for me? I'd prefer verbal so I don't think of it as bad FOR ME.

I wanted to add after reading the thread.

I think there is this idea that physical abuse is just physical. It isn't. It's the fear. It's the breaking of trust. The pain that someone you love would do that. So physical abuse isn't like being in a car crash. It isn't just some bruises or some bones.

I'm not saying it's worse, I'm saying that it's more then the injuries.

I believe verbal can be worse because I think more suicides happen because of verbal abuse wheher through spoken words or cyber bullying. It gives the victum the feeling of being worthless because they have a tendency to believe what the abuser or bully is telling them.