Very depressed & confused!

Im 6 months pregnant, havent spoke to bd since last thursday... we had broken up a week ago sunday because he ignored me all weekend said he was helping his uncle so i ended it. we talked about working it out he went to the dr with me he came over that night then again not a word from 9pm until noon the next day. him and his mom got into it and he went to his friends.... why wouldnt he tell me any of this? he lost his job couple weeks ago and just has made no effort i told him i may as well take my friend up on her offer and sign over guardianship to her of this baby.... he hasnt spoke to me since.... ive begged and pleaded for him to talk to me and still nothing   My dad is telling me i need to get ahold of him to let him know i am putting the baby up for adoption. WHO THE Sm**rf does he think he is. This child isnt coming in his house..... I cant afford to live on my own with 3 kids. I just dont know what to do   I dont understand why he would shut me out like this   he had just told me the day of the dr appt that he knows we can be happy again how much he loves me and he wants to be there for me and the baby and now NOTHING :'(

He is clearly showing you how he truely feels.You need to worry about your kids and yourself.He's not worth your time and tears!

confusing post but you broke it off with him. Sounds like he needs some space. He's probably upset or doesn't know how to react to you telling him you want to put the baby up for adoption. I'm not sure what your dad has to do with it, maybe he means you might want to make sure it's what the childs father wants too?

Well telling him that you are going to to allow someone besides him to have custody of the child probably ticked him off. I would apologize for that ONLY if you are sure you want him to be in your unborn child's life. If he doesn't talk to you after you apologize, then give him a few days to cool off. About the dept problem, I would try to find a better job(if possible) and put the children up with a sitter.

You need to give him some space. Unless yall are married hes allowed to go where he wants even if hes a dick and doesnt call. But thats nothing to break up over. I dont know your whole relationship history, but it does sound like your being too impatient with him. You need him if you want to keep this baby, you should try to work it out.

Quoting Mommy☠Kate:" confusing post but you broke it off with him. Sounds like he needs some space. He's probably upset or ... [snip!] ... not sure what your dad has to do with it, maybe he means you might want to make sure it's what the childs father wants too? "

I dont want to put him up for adoption..... i was pretty much telling him i cant do this on my own and he isnt stepping up like he said he was going to. I dont know what i expected from a 20yr old who already has a 2yr old he has never seen..... It just sucks   ANd i just dont understand how he could ignore me like this. He didnt ignore me like this the 1st time we broke up and i had got back with my husband! he was begging for me back then and when he got me back started treating me like crap  

Quoting TNMOMMA1006:" Im 6 months pregnant, havent spoke to bd since last thursday... we had broken up a week ago sunday because ... [snip!] ... appt that he knows we can be happy again how much he loves me and he wants to be there for me and the baby and now NOTHING :'("

I can sympathyze to a degree with you on this. I know its hard and we are all hormonal wrecks right about now and everything seems to be our fault. My BD left me at 10 weeks and I am now 31 weeks with ID Twin Boys and he kept telling me (up until very recently) that he still loves me and he just needs space to clear his head and figure himself out before he takes on the responsibility of a family (well he should of thought about that before he wanted to create the family. Because these guys were planned they just werent planned for a specific time. They were a it happens when it happens). But now all of a sudden I am the biggest bitch in the world because I sent him a message letting him know dont sign up for time off yet because I am having these guys via c-section and I know it is gonna take a bit out of me AND bonding with the boys too. So I told him hold off and maybe do a half days vacation or come in after w full day of work but give me time to deal with everything or maybe come in the next day entirely when I will have had soem time to actually recover. And he got all defensive and said I was being a selfish bitter bitch because I am holding it against him that he left me and that he wont be with me and I am refusing to let him see his boys. I told him if you come and I dont want you yes I can refuse you and he said you cant refuse me being at the hospital and I said no I cant but I can refuse you entrance into my room and seeing the boys because I have full custody until otherwise decided by the courts. And to make this already long story even shorter I am just a self center cold heartless bitter bitch because I wont let him see his kids on the day they are born because all he does is bring drama with him and a smurf ton of stress and I dont want to put up with that after having had major surgery. So.. I can sympathyze with you and I tried telling him how my first born son's father and I do the whole custody thing (which I dont even know why we are fighting about it and he keeps bringing his lawyer into the picture when the twins arent even here yet) but I havent heard back from him and yea. So I can understand your being frustrated. I hope he cools off soon and calls you up to talk to you and figure things out. As for signing your rights off on the baby to your friend he has to as well as far as I know because you know who the father is and everything. I hope things work out for the better which ever way better may be. Good luck mama

Quoting TNMOMMA1006:" I dont want to put him up for adoption..... i was pretty much telling him i cant do this on my own and ... [snip!] ... up and i had got back with my husband! he was begging for me back then and when he got me back started treating me like crap  "

sorry momma, maybe he just needs more space. You two don't have to be a couple to raise a child together, remember that.

Quoting TNMOMMA1006:" I dont want to put him up for adoption..... i was pretty much telling him i cant do this on my own and ... [snip!] ... up and i had got back with my husband! he was begging for me back then and when he got me back started treating me like crap  "

You can do it on your own.... you don't need anyone there especially if he is a craphead!

Quoting Mommy☠Kate:" sorry momma, maybe he just needs more space. You two don't have to be a couple to raise a child together, remember that. "

His biggest complaint lately has been since my husband moved back into town... he said it drives him crazy at the thought of us being alone together and i get that i totally do.. but its to exchange the kids.... im just hoping this wasnt a leave before being left type thing... I just wish he would talk to me..... i was very harsh last time he pulled this ignoring me crap and said things i shouldnt have and we had a huge talk about things we both needed to fix and i thought things were going good until Thrsday.. i know i probably shouldnt have said what i did.... i knew it would make him mad and hurt him and that was childish of me i know... but i have been telling him how much i love him and want to be a family and why wont he talk to me.... today i did send a text that said you never ignored me like this even when we broke up i guess you lied when you said we could be happy again. i guess partying and nasty whores is more important than i ever was to you..... sent another one asking him to meet me today i really wanted to see him.... i am going out of my mind!!!! Its pretty sad that the person who has been there for me lately to talk to is my husband!!!

Quoting TNMOMMA1006:" His biggest complaint lately has been since my husband moved back into town... he said it drives him ... [snip!] ... i am going out of my mind!!!! Its pretty sad that the person who has been there for me lately to talk to is my husband!!!"

ya you need to step back. Stop texting him stuff like that for one, stop texting all together for like a week and then maybe just a short I'm sorry will do. I realize you are stressed and pregnant and feel the need to get things sorted out and planned out but it sounds like you are losing it and he probably knows how much ignoring you is making you crazy. Don't let it!

Quoting Mommy☠Kate:" ya you need to step back. Stop texting him stuff like that for one, stop texting all together for like ... [snip!] ... out but it sounds like you are losing it and he probably knows how much ignoring you is making you crazy. Don't let it! "

Thats exactly it! He knows how to push my buttons   I am losing it! The hormones arent helping.... I am trying to keep it together for my kids but its so hard! my daughter taps my face and says no mama you no cry or give me a hug its ok.... Everything is hitting at once... everyone says to be strong but i cant... i have noone to really talk to. I spent the whole weekend in my room because i cant stand the sight of my father at this time.... my husband is the only person who called or text at all.... i hate to bother people with my problems is why i get on here.... ive effed things pretty good.... my dad keeps reminding me how disgusting i am for having 3 kids with 3 guys and how horrible of a person i am and i better make some arrangements soon because this baby isnt coming in his house. Thats fine because the day i leave i NEVER will step another foot in his home with my children!
My sons donor after 6 yrs has decided to come back in the picture, had to tell him about him. He meets him next weekend and my husband is going with me so i dont have to go alone. My son calls hubby daddy btw. BD #3 was gonna go but ignoring me now im gonna take that as a no..... He was upset when i had told him i had asked my husband which i totally get. He feels whenever we have problems i run to husband. Its not even like that. But i know how it looks. I think that is mostly BD#3 problem. I swear just put my life on Jerry Springer or make a reality tv show out of it! Its always something  

Ok I am a little confused here. Are you married and seeing another guy or is this your ex husband you are referring to??? I get the baby daddy number 3 thing but this husband thing I am not getting. BEcause you left your husband to be with him but then broke up with him and went back to your husband but then started dating Bd#3 while still with your husband??? Just trying to figure out if this husband is an actual husband or an ex husband, Then I think everything will fall into place (atleast for me). Sry to piss anyone off for asking this question but smurf dude I am confused on the husband factor!!!!

Quoting Regina Stevenson:" Ok I am a little confused here. Are you married and seeing another guy or is this your ex husband you ... [snip!] ... place (atleast for me). Sry to piss anyone off for asking this question but smurf dude I am confused on the husband factor!!!!"

Still legally married.... we have been split for over a year. he lives with someone else.....

<blockquote><b>Quoting Regina Stevenson:</b>" Ok I am a little confused here. Are you married and seeing another guy or is this your ex husband you ... [snip!] ... place (atleast for me). Sry to piss anyone off for asking this question but smurf dude I am confused on the husband factor!!!!"</blockquote>




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