re: Very depressed & confused!

Quoting TNMOMMA1006:" Still legally married.... we have been split for over a year. he lives with someone else....."

Well then technically you are commiting adultry because you are still legally married but only seperated. He would be too if the other person/woman he is living with is his partner. And it isnt gonna look good for ANYONE in the long run when it comes to you having a child by another man while still married to one. Not trying to judge at all so plz dont think I am but something needs to get sorted out fast as in someone needs to file for divorce ASAP and see if you cant get it like jumped to STAT level or something due to the situation (even if you and BD#3 dont get married)

Quoting Regina Stevenson:" Well then technically you are commiting adultry because you are still legally married but only seperated. ... [snip!] ... and see if you cant get it like jumped to STAT level or something due to the situation (even if you and BD#3 dont get marri

Divorce has been filed.... neither of us have the money to go any further. Here you have to have an attorney when children are involved so no rush on it. According to my lawyer because off all my husband did while we still lived together and i have all the proof what i have done will not weigh badly on me. Wont look good but its me moving on just as he did.... He got his gf pregnant but she lost it twice.... so neither of us is the better person in this situation.

Quoting TNMOMMA1006:" Divorce has been filed.... neither of us have the money to go any further. Here you have to have an attorney ... [snip!] ... on just as he did.... He got his gf pregnant but she lost it twice.... so neither of us is the better person in this situation."

Ok. I dont know much of what else to say except I hope things work out in the end with the divorce and 2 I pray things work out with the BD situation. It is never easy to deal with all this F-ing drama on regular terms but then through in being pregnant and hormones and everything else like raising a kid/s and dealing with appointments and trying to figure out this that and another thing can drive any normal woman to insanity but us pregnant women are supposed to shoulder it all. My BD told me straight up the other night the reaosn he left isnt because of the twins it was because of me. Sure I got on his case about not helping around the house but he never and I mean NEVER took care of his dirty dishes. I always had food ready when he came home in the fridge yet he would wake me up and ask whats for dinner. Always had his clothes clean for work AND would watch his daughter the ENTIRE weekend while taking care of my son while he slept his weekend away because he would stay up till all hours of the morning and to top it off I had MAJOR morning sickness with these guys and felt like crap all the time. I asked for 15 mins a day in help with housework and family time on Saturday where all 4 of us would do something fun as a family but I didnt even get that so of course I got angry and yelled alot (Hello hormones here!!!) but he left so he said everything is my fault. So evedently I climbed on top of myself and got pregnant to give myself morning sickness to use as an excuse to get out of working and doing things. I know he was working but I asked very little of him except the 15 mins of help in housework the family time and to take care of his damn dishes even if its only bringing them to the sink. But I am in the wrong always have been and guess always will be. SO I pray things work out for you and BD in the end if not I am sry and am here to talk because I know how it feels to be so completly frustrated and having very few (if anyone) to turn to.

Quoting TNMOMMA1006:" Im 6 months pregnant, havent spoke to bd since last thursday... we had broken up a week ago sunday because ... [snip!] ... appt that he knows we can be happy again how much he loves me and he wants to be there for me and the baby and now NOTHING :'("

Tell your "husband" that he needs to step up for his children. Also don't get so upset. Your son inside you can tell when you all are fighting and can frighten him when he is born..

Quoting TNMOMMA1006:" Thats exactly it! He knows how to push my buttons   I am losing it! The hormones arent helping.... ... [snip!] ... is mostly BD#3 problem. I swear just put my life on Jerry Springer or make a reality tv show out of it! Its always something  "

well just try to see things from his point of view, he may be jealous, or uncertain of your true intentions. Can you apply for assistance and get out of your dad's house before the baby gets here?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Regina Stevenson:</b>" Ok. I dont know much of what else to say except I hope things work out in the end with the divorce and ... [snip!] ... sry and am here to talk because I know how it feels to be so completly frustrated and having very few (if anyone) to turn to."</blockquote>


So sorry you are going through all this as well and i will pray for you. I kbow everything happens for a reason but i swear its always one thing after another in my life   i sent bd another text just telling him i dont understand why he is doing this im sorry for the stupid smurf ive said and how hurt i am and i never meant to hurt him and that i love him with all my heart..... i know he wont respond but at least he knows. I dont know how to let go if thats what he wants. I lost the love of my life a year ago and never thought i would love anyone again until i met bd.... i smurfed it all up. It was never the same once we got back together  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Big Sister Of Seven:</b>" Tell your "husband" that he needs to step up for his children. Also don't get so upset. Your son inside you can tell when you all are fighting and can frighten him when he is born.."</blockquote>



Husband has been helping since he moved back in town. There is no fighting with husband or bd.....

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy☠Kate:</b>" well just try to see things from his point of view, he may be jealous, or uncertain of your true intentions. Can you apply for assistance and get out of your dad's house before the baby gets here?"</blockquote>



I understand how he feels i just dont understand why he cant talk to me about it   he once told me i was his best friend and he could tell me anything now he just ignores me. No i havent been the easiest to talk to at times lately but him not stepping up has had me concerned. I have an appt to see if i qualify for assistance..... last time i made too much money

Quoting TNMOMMA1006:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy☠Kate:</b>" well just try to see things from his ... [snip!] ... not stepping up has had me concerned. I have an appt to see if i qualify for assistance..... last time i made too much money"

I can completly understand where you are coming from on the not stepping up. My Bd only went to the sex revealing appointment and has done nothing but bring drama and tension around me the entire pregnancy. Did I mention he just posted yesterday on the 1st to all his friends on FB that he needs help getting the basics for the twins because he is too lazy to save his own damn money and buy the stuff for them??? He expects everything handed to him because he "has no money" and thats because he wont sit at home to save money (lives back with mommy and daddy) and drives EVERYWHERE has a new gf AND smokes 2 packs of cigs a day. SO of course he has no money but my mom and I have been getting stuff throughout the entire pregnancy and now that there is only 7 weeks till they get here he is SOL and relying on people to give him stuff. I debate whether or not to tell his mom he is resorting to friends on FB for all the stuff he is getting instead of using the money he is working for on getting stuff for them. SO I completly understand where you are coming from on the not stepping up because my BD has done the same damn thing!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Regina Stevenson:</b>" I can completly understand where you are coming from on the not stepping up. My Bd only went to the sex ... [snip!] ... them. SO I completly understand where you are coming from on the not stepping up because my BD has done the same damn thing!!"</blockquote>


Well nevermind this whole post! He finally responsed tonight amd told me to leave him alone he has moved on..... he brought the bitch to my smurfing work a week ago... told me he had his lesbian aunt and her gf in the car.... he had her texting for him tonight how cute you pussy!!! She tried putting me dow. And how im too old for him amd im going to hell cuz im atillarried amd i looked like stewies face from family guy.... seriously?? I was a smurfing idiot messing with a 20yr old at my age but she is stupid as hell! He is a wprthleas smurf! The child im pregnant with is his 2nd and he dont have smurf to do with that one!!! I knew better. Im smurfing stupid! He will get his.... omg i kbow i may be coming off childish and bitter but im pissed! How do you go from.one day love you so much babe to ah found someone i wanted a year ago and wanna see where it goes....... bullsmurf!

Quoting TNMOMMA1006:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Regina Stevenson:</b>" I can completly understand where you ... [snip!] ... you go from.one day love you so much babe to ah found someone i wanted a year ago and wanna see where it goes....... bullsmurf!"

aww what a dick!! I'm sorry   I hope you get things figured out now that you at least know where he stands. Don't waste anymore energy on him, do whats best for you and your family. Good luck!!

Quoting Mommy☠Kate:" aww what a dick!! I'm sorry   I hope you get things figured out now that you at least know where he stands. Don't waste anymore energy on him, do whats best for you and your family. Good luck!!"

Oh there is more, i found out this morning he has also been dating a sophmore in high school the past 4 months...... we have been back together for almost 3.....
I had nice conversation with her this morning!

Quoting TNMOMMA1006:" Oh there is more, i found out this morning he has also been dating a sophmore in high school the past ... [snip!] ... high school the past 4 months...... we have been back together for almost 3..... I had nice conversation with her this morning!"

Geez luise what an ass!!! Sry to hear he has been playing you. He doesnt deserve to have kids. Its men like that that I think need to be forced to get fixed. That way there is less unwanted babies (not saying yours is but unwanted by the man and things like that) because they think that it wont happen to them or they already have one or 2 but have nothing to do with them because they are deadbeat dads. Even if they find someone later in life to spend the rest of their life with and want to have kids I think they should still be fixed and not allowed to try and undo it because they cant even give their previous children the attention they deserve but they want to have more. This would cut back on alot of problems (yes it is the females fault to because it takes 2 to tango but its the sperm that does the job not the egg) like I said with unwanted babies or so many babies being left on door steps or in hospitals by moms that are too young or whatever. OR these guys are just complete ass's and dont deserve to have anymore kids because they cant and wont give the ones they have the time they deserve. My BD should deffinatly be fixed he hardly see his DD from his first marriage let alone takes care of her (mostly his mom when his DD is around) and is behind on his CS and now he has Twin Boys coming in like 6 weeks and thnks he has all sorts of rights and prvledges when he has none. He needs fixed because he doesnt need to go saying he loves a woman and get her pregnant and then "the reson I left isnt because of the baby/ies it's because of you) yes that is what he told me. So Do what is best for you and know that you can always send me a |PM and I will be glad to talk with you. I know it is frustrating my BD wont even admit he has another gf but 3-4 of my friends have seen him with another woman (holding hands then dropping it when he noticed who saw him and looked guilty or by flipping them off)