Family pic with BD's girl and my son

So, my BD's sister (we are very close) just told me that my BD is planning on taking a "family picture" and that would be with his girl, other son (not hers) and my son. They have probably been together for a year, he has been with other people for longer than that (including me) and nobody has crossed that line.

I feel like this will cause a lot of drama, I don't agree with it and he hasn't even talked to me about it. She is nothing to my son, she is not family! They don't have a child together and they aren't married, what makes them think she is family???

I'm so annoyed and don't know how to go about it. I also don't want to cause issues between him and his sister as they already have enough going on. How would you approach it? Please help.

It is just a picture and to your BD she is his family. I wouldn't think anything of it

I'd leave it, honestly. If they've been together that long, how is she nothing to your son?

It's not really any of your business what BD does. Why stress over it?

I wouldn't have a problem with it, I think it would be a good thing for him to feel like he's part of the family with his dad.

To him those are "his kids".

Quoting Mommy2Kay:" So, my BD's sister (we are very close) just told me that my BD is planning on taking a "family picture" ... [snip!] ... want to cause issues between him and his sister as they already have enough going on. How would you approach it? Please help."

I think you're overreacting.

Who cares if he wants a pic with his kid and current girlfriend?

I mean, thats like him not wanting you to take a pic of the kid and a new boyfriend.

Totally ridiculous.

I wouldn't even feel comfortable taking a family picture with my stepson of 4 years. I mean, you can't really stop him from taking the pictures but I would at least talk to him about it. His girlfriend really has no place in a family picture.

Quoting Cattails:" I wouldn't have a problem with it, I think it would be a good thing for him to feel like he's part of the family with his dad. "

! This.

I would also be happy that she loved my son enough to include him a family picture of them. She isnt going to replace you and he knows your his mommy, but that woman is also in his life right now and she is obviously fond of him. Would you rather have that or a woman that wants nothing to do with him?

Quoting Blythe.:" It is just a picture and to your BD she is his family. I wouldn't think anything of it"

    

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" It's not really any of your business what BD does. Why stress over it? "

If it involves her son, it really IS her business.

Op i do agree with everyone else though. Its only a picture, not like shes trying to take your place.

My Ex took a family picture with his girl when they were together only a few months, with his daughter.

That is "his family" it would be like if he got upset if you did that with your SO. Same concept.

Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" If it involves her son, it really IS her business. Op i do agree with everyone else though. Its only a picture, not like shes trying to take your place."

having a picture taken with his new gf involves her, how?

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" having a picture taken with his new gf involves her, how? "

Having a picture with her son involves her.  

Quoting Jas ♥:" Having a picture with her son involves her.  "

It's a picture...