re: Family pic with BD's girl and my son

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" Why do you let your kid go? I think no dad would be better than that smurf."

Honestly because my son wants to see him. He came last week for about a week and only saw him once. We went shopping and my son was crying when he walked away to look for clothes for himself. My son misses him and since we live in a different state I guess now, he will think his dad is not always around because h lives far instead of because he is an ass.

Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" It's not up to anyone to decide whether their relationship has issues or not. It is just a picture. It isnt going up in YOUR house. "

Its not up for you to decide a lot of smurf but you still throw your uneducated opinion on it. Pot, meet kettle.

Quoting Mommy2Kay:" Honestly because my son wants to see him. He came last week for about a week and only saw him once. ... [snip!] ... a different state I guess now, he will think his dad is not always around because h lives far instead of because he is an ass."

I'm honestly sorry you have to deal with that.

Quoting Jas ♥:" Its not up for you to decide a lot of smurf but you still throw your uneducated opinion on it. Pot, meet kettle."

...okay.  

Quoting proudlypreggers:" My SO and i have been together for a year and a half. He had his cheating phase in the beginning but ... [snip!] ... is far from the truth. BMs stretch the truth a lot when its not something they want done. Ive experienced this first hand. "

I have to disagree with you. I haven't even said everything about my D here. I have done nothing but try to make him be there for his son. I do know for a fact, that men pretend to be amazing dads but they just talk smurf about their BMs to make themselves look good to their gfs. My BD used to tell me his BM was horrible and a liar and didn't let him see his kid and turns out he was a cheating, abusive man that didn't care for his child, I had to find this out first hand by him cheating on me multiple times, hitting me and not being there for his child.

Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" It's not up to anyone to decide whether their relationship has issues or not. It is just a picture. It isnt going up in YOUR house. "

And I actually much rather come to my house than go behind my back to get "family pics"

Quoting Mommy2Kay:" I have to disagree with you. I haven't even said everything about my D here. I have done nothing but ... [snip!] ... child, I had to find this out first hand by him cheating on me multiple times, hitting me and not being there for his child."

I agree that some men are like this but not all. At the time my SOs bm wanted him back and was tryna get rid of me. She is actually who he cheated with and i guess when she realized we werent breaking up she didnt want the kids around me anymore so she made up lies about me. Not saying this is true in your case. Trust me ive been there with trying to make a my bd be there and he wouldnt but i know some bms stretch the truth sometimes. I am sorry you had to go through this after reading what you wrote.

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I'm honestly sorry you have to deal with that. "

thank you! It really sucks so I'm really just trying to make the best out of this situation but when he goes ahead doing things that can make things worse.

Quoting proudlypreggers:" I agree that some men are like this but not all. At the time my SOs bm wanted him back and was tryna ... [snip!] ... he wouldnt but i know some bms stretch the truth sometimes. I am sorry you had to go through this after reading what you wrote."

Thanks, there will always be people that stretch the truth but not everyone is like that. I don't blame the girl because she is probably very innocent to all of this and he is probably just doing this to gas her up and make her think their relationship is good. I have known BD for way too long and this is just typical of him. I just wish things were different...idk if that will ever happen.

Quoting Mommy2Kay:" Thanks, there will always be people that stretch the truth but not everyone is like that. I don't blame ... [snip!] ... known BD for way too long and this is just typical of him. I just wish things were different...idk if that will ever happen."

Me too but some "men" arent meant to be fathers. Lucky for me someone else actually stepped up and is dad to her now. I hope things get better for you and your LO

Quoting proudlypreggers:" Me too but some "men" arent meant to be fathers. Lucky for me someone else actually stepped up and is dad to her now. I hope things get better for you and your LO"

Thank you.

quiet honestly, if My husband and I were to get a divorce and he move on with another woman, Unless they were married, I would refuse to let my children be in a formal picture with her. Unless they were marries, I wouldn't acknowledge her as family. If they were to split, it would add more confusion to my kids. Maybe I'm weird, but I wouldn't let it happen.

Quoting Devil Duckie:" quiet honestly, if My husband and I were to get a divorce and he move on with another woman, Unless they ... [snip!] ... her as family. If they were to split, it would add more confusion to my kids. Maybe I'm weird, but I wouldn't let it happen. "

Married or would living together work? This doesn't have anything to do with OP, more me! haha... I am not married to SO but we live together and love each other. I don't care if we never get married, we are committed... KWIM? SO, thankfully doesn't have any BMs or other kids out there!

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" Married or would living together work? This doesn't have anything to do with OP, more me! haha... I ... [snip!] ... I don't care if we never get married, we are committed... KWIM? SO, thankfully doesn't have any BMs or other kids out there! "

well, if he did, you would have to consider the child's mother's wishes. Since you would not even technically be their step mother.

I put myself in that situation. If my husband were my ex and he had another companion, It wouldn't matter if they were living together or not. No marriage license, no rights IMO. I would find it highly disrespectful if they took "family" pictures with MY kids. She's just daddy's current toy the way I see it.

Quoting Devil Duckie:" well, if he did, you would have to consider the child's mother's wishes. Since you would not even technically ... [snip!] ... find it highly disrespectful if they took "family" pictures with MY kids. She's just daddy's current toy the way I see it. "

This is why I'm thankful SO has no other kids! 

And, maybe I'm weird, but it just wouldn't phase me. As long as the kids weren't calling her mom, KWIM? It wouldn't bother me at all.

Before my ex went psycho and all, his GF would buy Spawn gifts and even babysat her... I knew he was cheating on her and that it probably wouldn't last, and I know that they took pictures of her daughter with Spawn all the time... Just never bothered me.