re: Family pic with BD's girl and my son

Quoting Jas ♥:" Bam, see? I knew there was more background to this whole story. This woman is not any type of mother ... [snip!] ... your son, you have every right to not want her or your son in the picture (if she still decides to participate in the photos)."

I completely agree. If he's made it clear he'd be with OP if she let him, they arent even remotely close to being a family.

Quoting Jas ♥:" and that's fine but that is his child's mother and he needs to respect her feelings. Period."

Naw. He really doesnt. They arent together. What he does on his time with his child is up to him and his girlfriend. If he tried to control what she did with him, she wouldn't be happy about it either.

Quoting Mommy2Kay:" Well, he has no rights I have sole custody of him. He doesn't even have visitation through court. I let ... [snip!] ... this man has put me through, like the time he walked out of his son's life and wanted to pay me to never speak to him again."

He shouldn't be in the family picture either   What a jackass.

Quoting Jas ♥:" and that's fine but that is his child's mother and he needs to respect her feelings. Period."

If it wasn't for her ex-SIL she would never even know and wouldn't be stressed out about this. It's a picture that to him may be very important. It's not like she has to pose with this other woman, KWIM?

Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" Naw. He really doesnt. They arent together. What he does on his time with his child is up to him and ... [snip!] ... child is up to him and his girlfriend. If he tried to control what she did with him, she wouldn't be happy about it either. "

And? My husband isn't with his BM and he better respect her feelings or that's going to be a problem for not only her but me. I have a real man so. Lucky me.

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" If it wasn't for her ex-SIL she would never even know and wouldn't be stressed out about this. It's ... [snip!] ... out about this. It's a picture that to him may be very important. It's not like she has to pose with this other woman, KWIM? "

You should probably read OPs responses. This dude apparently doesn't do smurf for his kid.

Quoting Mommy2Kay:" Well, he has no rights I have sole custody of him. He doesn't even have visitation through court. I let ... [snip!] ... this man has put me through, like the time he walked out of his son's life and wanted to pay me to never speak to him again."

Why do you keep saying your son? It is both of your son.

If you don't want him doing what he wants with LO when he does visit, then you don't need to let LO go with him. It is unfair to him.

Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" I completely agree. If he's made it clear he'd be with OP if she let him, they arent even remotely close to being a family."

Even if I was in a relationship with a dude for a year, I would not consider him family at that point.

Quoting Mommy2Kay:" Well, he has no rights I have sole custody of him. He doesn't even have visitation through court. I let ... [snip!] ... this man has put me through, like the time he walked out of his son's life and wanted to pay me to never speak to him again."

Ok, that changes things imo.

Please disregard my initial comment

Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" Why do you keep saying your son? It is both of your son. If you don't want him doing what he wants with LO when he does visit, then you don't need to let LO go with him. It is unfair to him. "

Who cares? If everything OP is saying about this dude is true, smurf his feelings. He's a dead beat that likes to play daddy when its convenient to him. He isn't smurf.

Quoting Jas ♥:" You should probably read OPs responses. This dude apparently doesn't do smurf for his kid."

YEah, I'm typing slow today,.... I did read it after I posted my last post. Well, OP has to decide if she wants to let her kid go with his dad at all.

If the dad is to have a relationship with his kid, though, he needs to pay CS and have freedom to take pictures. If not, don't let the kid go.....

Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" ...it is his son, too. "

In my situation it's his son who he has never met in the 13 months he's been alive.
no way in hell would that fly.

Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" Why do you keep saying your son? It is both of your son. If you don't want him doing what he wants with LO when he does visit, then you don't need to let LO go with him. It is unfair to him. "

Because he doesnt do smurf for HER son. He may have fathered him, but he ISNT a father figure unless its convenient for HIM.

Quoting Jas ♥:" And? My husband isn't with his BM and he better respect her feelings or that's going to be a problem for not only her but me. I have a real man so. Lucky me."

There is a difference in respecting each other and just being controlling because you think their family portraits shouldnt be taken yet. It isnt up for her to decide. It is their relationship, not hers to judge.

Your husband probably doesnt have one of those crazy BMs either that try to control your relationship.

I don't understand the "real man" remark...

Quoting Jas ♥:" Who cares? If everything OP is saying about this dude is true, smurf his feelings. He's a dead beat that likes to play daddy when its convenient to him. He isn't smurf."

Exactly what he does! I let him do that because I rather my son know his dad. I would never take a picture with a guy saying we're family unless we were taking family pics with our own child or we were married.