re: Family pic with BD's girl and my son

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" having a picture taken with his new gf involves her, how? "

Her son is gonna be in the picture. Anything involving her son, involves her.

Quoting Jas ♥:" I wouldn't even feel comfortable taking a family picture with my stepson of 4 years. I mean, you can't ... [snip!] ... him from taking the pictures but I would at least talk to him about it. His girlfriend really has no place in a family picture."

I agree. It would be different if they were married, but they aren't.

Quoting Jas ♥:" I wouldn't even feel comfortable taking a family picture with my stepson of 4 years. I mean, you can't ... [snip!] ... him from taking the pictures but I would at least talk to him about it. His girlfriend really has no place in a family picture."

or my son would not be in the picture.

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" It's a picture... "

And? Its a family picture. Not some random quick flick. Family pictures are a huge deal to us, they're symbolic.

Quoting Curlyheadedfck:" or my son would not be in the picture."

...it is his son, too.

That women is not in my son's life, we live in a different state and they barely spend time together. One time BD picked my DS up and she was with him, he threw a tantrum because he didn't want them and they had to leave without him, that was when we lived in NY.

We he is in a real committed relationship, I can accept her being included but really aren't, he is still cheating and if I let him he would be cheating on her with me. How does he expect me to see as family?

Quoting Jas ♥:" And? Its a family picture. Not some random quick flick. Family pictures are a huge deal to us, they're symbolic."

How would that hurt her, though? It won't. She is just being controlling IMO.

I don't think it's a big deal, it's something you have to get use to being a split family.

Quoting Jas ♥:" And? Its a family picture. Not some random quick flick. Family pictures are a huge deal to us, they're symbolic."

Well, I do get that... but, maybe he is in love with her and wants to marry her... who knows, the thing is that's his family. If OP doesn't want to take pictures like that then she doesn't have to.....

KWIM?

It just doesn't seem like something to get upset or stressed about.

Quoting Mommy2Kay:" That women is not in my son's life, we live in a different state and they barely spend time together. ... [snip!] ... aren't, he is still cheating and if I let him he would be cheating on her with me. How does he expect me to see as family?"

Eh, you don't have to like it...but it isnt up to you what he does when your LO is with him.

You're overreacting. They may be more serious than you think.

Quoting Mommy2Kay:" That women is not in my son's life, we live in a different state and they barely spend time together. ... [snip!] ... aren't, he is still cheating and if I let him he would be cheating on her with me. How does he expect me to see as family?"

Bam, see? I knew there was more background to this whole story. This woman is not any type of mother figure to your son, you have every right to not want her or your son in the picture (if she still decides to participate in the photos).

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" Well, I do get that... but, maybe he is in love with her and wants to marry her... who knows, the thing ... [snip!] ... pictures like that then she doesn't have to..... KWIM? It just doesn't seem like something to get upset or stressed about. "

and that's fine but that is his child's mother and he needs to respect her feelings. Period.

Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" How would that hurt her, though? It won't. She is just being controlling IMO. "

Your opinion really doesn't matter. She feels the way she feels.

Well, he has no rights I have sole custody of him. He doesn't even have visitation through court. I let him see him even though the judge didn't' grant him any visitation. Anything that he wants to do with my son he needs to go through me first. If he wants to see him when we go visit, he needs to respect my wishes. If that's controlling, idc. He barely does anything for my son anyways. I sound more like a bitch because I am upset and I am not mentioning all the crap this man has put me through, like the time he walked out of his son's life and wanted to pay me to never speak to him again.