So called friends.

So over the last couple years, I have made & lost at least 3 people I considered to be a good friend, for one reason or another.
I feel like there is just something about me that people don't like, but I have no idea what I do to make these people treat me like this.
I feel like I am a good friend to those I care about, I'm always there for them & their kids.
But yet I keep setting myself up to get hurt...

Recently, There was a girl I was mutual friends with, through other family & friends, well her & I started talking more & eventually started to hang out, we were together any chance we got, our kids loved being together, it was always a good time....
Well over the summer, she slowly started to withdraw, stopped calling, stopped texting, only "likes" things on my FB never comments....
I sent her a message to ask how her & her family have been, told her my kids have been asking to come see her kids, that I've tried calling a few times but never got a hold of her, & I would love to get together as soon as we can.
well she just "likes" it, doesn't say a word.
She's getting married in a couple months & had asked me to do her engagement & wedding photos, I was SUPER stoked to have a wedding to shoot & I couldn't wait to do it!
well today I saw on her status that she hired a photographer. She didn't have the decency to tell me herself that she found someone else to do them, I would have been a bit upset but I would have rather heard from her that she wasn't going to have me do her pictures.... idk... Maybe I'm just too sensitive or I've just been stabbed in the back to many times, but I'm just tired of going out of my way to be-friend someone, I let my children get close to them because I think they're for real which is the part that pisses me off most because it's not just me but my children that are effected & then they either talk crap about me behind my back, or just quit talking to me all together.... I just don't get it.
It makes me feel like smurf. Like I'm doing something to deserve this but I can't figure out what....
Am I alone in this?
Does anyone else have these problems with other women?
Do you think I'm over-reacting or would you have been upset about this as well?
I've just had some really bad luck with "friends" these past couple years & it makes me want to just be anti-social.

I am so thankful to have my husband & our children, as well as family & very few friends I can actually trust. At least I do have a few people I can count on.  

I don't think it's you some people are inconsiderate smurfs and if this is how they treat you then you don't want them as friends anyway

i can't really keep friends either.

I am sorry to hear that girl . . . I would be upset too . . . some people just do not value a friendship anymore . .

Im in the same boat! I have a ZERO "real" friends. A few women i know through my Fiance but none of them like me.

This is the story of my life. I've moved around a lot and when I manage to make friends, one thing or another manages to "break us up". It's pathetic, but I've come to the point that I would rather just hang out with my little family than let myself be hurt again. I think my problem is that I get really attached to "friends" when I make them, not that I am clingy attached, but when something happens that we aren't friends anymore, it hurts to lose them that much more. I don't worry about having friends now. I have acquaintances but I would rather skip the whole "friends" thing.

Quoting Mrs cree:" I don't think it's you some people are inconsiderate smurfs and if this is how they treat you then you don't want them as friends anyway"

Oh I totally agree! I mean I pretty much get upset for a little bit & then I'm like "whatever" life goes on! and I do have people in my life that I care about that care for me the same way, so it's not all bad.... It just sucks that it's been so often lately... makes me think it's something I'm doing even though I have no idea what it could be!

Quoting JiLLiAN.:" i can't really keep friends either."

well I'm glad it's not just me!
I feel like I have the plague or something!  

Aww so sorry to hear all that. Ive had alot of expirences also having friends I never was a 50 friend person I always had one close friend to talk to hang out with and text. Dont feel bad though once I had children I have no friends lol. It is just me and my kids and husband. I tried once with a girl who I thought we could have been good friends but she became too involved in my family life and I had to choose someone making things difficult or my husband. Females are never fun. Its rare to find a girl to be good friends with that is trustworthy and doesnt want to be in a friendship for their own agenda but when you do find a good one all the little things wont matter cuz even bestfriends fight argue disagree but will still make up because friends are always suppose to be there for friends

lol sorry long post but Im a friendless person  

Quoting Kenzie Huff:" I am sorry to hear that girl . . . I would be upset too . . . some people just do not value a friendship anymore . ."

I guess that's my problem, I am honest & I give everything my all. When I care about someone, I don't just care a little... I guess I just thought we were better friends than we really were...

I have had problems making friends. I would have been upset too if I were you.

Quoting ♥ Jessi ♥:" well I'm glad it's not just me! I feel like I have the plague or something!  "

IKR. i think my last "best friend" never should have been such a thing though. i was with BD for 2 years, we split.. then he started dating Leah. they were together almost two years. while they were together, he cheated on her with me (one time) - she saw his phone and found out .. FINALLY they broke up and she messaged me on FB about my LO and we became inseperable.. but, not even a year later she started being a two faced bitch! messaging BD's current GF on twitter acting like friends - when just a few months prior BD cheated on his GF with leah. i just couldn't take the drama and wanted nothing to do with a friend like that. but other than that, my "Best" friends ditched me. especially after HS when everyone went to school and parties and i had a kid. *sigh*

now my problem is making friends. i don't know how. i don't work or go to school. am i supposed to make an ad on craigslist?! ugh.

Quoting Jenna + 2 Beauties:" Im in the same boat! I have a ZERO "real" friends. A few women i know through my Fiance but none of them like me."

I have one friend, who is my husband's best friend's woman (they have been together like 16 years but aren't married lol) but her & I have had our ups & downs, not really downs just times we were too busy with life & didn't talk for like months at a time, but I never ONCE worried she would turn around & start telling everyone what I told her...
Her & I had a lot of heart to hearts & I've told her things I have never told anyone else besides my husband, Things about my childhood & such.... and I know no matter what, there are conversations that will always stay between the two of us & I really appreciate her for that.
I've known her since I've been with my husband, so close to 11 years now....
I have one friend that lives in oregon that has been my friend since 7th grade, her & I don't talk much, she's always too busy to talk.... but I know she loves me & I will always love her...
But other than that... I have my mom & my husband.

Quoting ♥ Jessi ♥:" I guess that's my problem, I am honest & I give everything my all. When I care about someone, I don't just care a little... I guess I just thought we were better friends than we really were..."

   

Quoting MyMonkeysNAMEisFINGERS:" This is the story of my life. I've moved around a lot and when I manage to make friends, one thing or ... [snip!] ... that much more. I don't worry about having friends now. I have acquaintances but I would rather skip the whole "friends" thing."

Exactly how I feel.
I'm not like a phsyco calling them constantly type of person, I mean I understand people have lives & families to take care of, but I guess I get attached too easy when I feel like I've found someone I could really enjoy being around... probably cause there aren't many people like that in my life!
I've decided I'm not going out of my way to make friends & I won't allow myself to get too close... I have people in my life that I know I can always count on & I will just love & appreciate them even more!! <3
It still sucks, & it hurts... but I bounce back pretty quick!