When you start to feel depressed?

posted 1st Oct
What do you do when you start to feel depressed?.. I'm due in six weeks and I haven't felt this way yet this pregnancy, but because I've been single for the last half everything is just starting to overwhelm me .. I feel partially angry at the baby even though I know that's irrational.

Does anybody else feel like this? I feel like I'm stuck emotionally supporting myself because he 'then-fiance' left me and ignored me. I feel like this is the time I would've needed ANYBODY the most in my entire life. This is the most emotionally overwhelming, being my first pregnancy at 19 yrs old. The fact that we planned her and he's gone makes it worse. I've tried to put on a front and be strong for her.. Now I am just falling apart and feeling alone and hateful that he did this to me. Will I feel like this when baby is here, even though I know I love her?

What do I do.. and am I going to take this out on her emotionally or will these feelings go away when she is here
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I live in Japan
posted 1st Oct
when your baby gets here, and you look into his/her eyes.. you wont be worried about anything but the overwhelming love that comes over you  
your baby is going to love you unconditionally. your going to be #1
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I have 3 kids & live in Longview, Texas
posted 1st Oct
Quoting eur009:" What do you do when you start to feel depressed?.. I'm due in six weeks and I haven't felt this way yet ... [snip!] ... I love her? What do I do.. and am I going to take this out on her emotionally or will these feelings go away when she is here"


to better answer your first question.. take a walk outside. it really helps.
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I have 3 kids & live in Longview, Texas
posted 1st Oct
I went through the same feelings. My ex and I split when I was 6 weeks along. I wasn't sure if I could get through it alone, but I did. Now, I have this precious angel sleeping on my chest and I feel no resentment towards her, or him for that matter. I'm just so thankful to have this amazing little girl that makes my world go round.  

All those feelings you're having now, they definitely went away in my case. Just keep pushing forward, you sound like a very mature 19 year old! You can do it and I promise, it's all worth it in the end. And as hard as it is to do, try to enjoy your pregnancy. You will miss it!  
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I have 1 child & live in Missouri
posted 1st Oct
Should I get help though.. ? Is this going to be postpartum depression, does that start when you're pregnant? I have tried to be so strong and I have bought everything with my money and not his. I'm hateful that he's taken so much from me (emotionally, financially) . But I've been strong whenever it comes to him.
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I live in Japan
posted 1st Oct
Quoting eur009:" What do you do when you start to feel depressed?.. I'm due in six weeks and I haven't felt this way yet ... [snip!] ... I love her? What do I do.. and am I going to take this out on her emotionally or will these feelings go away when she is here"

I am so sorry to hear tht mamma. The same thing happened to me. We didnt plan her but we had been together a long time we were engaged when I was 7 months pregnant he left. Im only 19 as well. I know it hurts and Im not sure if the hurt will ever go away. My DD is 3 1/2 months now and I still hurt everyday. It seems like it will never go away. I feel like it wont because we made something so special together which makes him special to me. But as far as you taking it out on her everyone is different so I cant speak for you but I never took it out on my DD. I still love her more than anything and I love her more and more each day and everyday that passes that he doesnt see her makes me hate him that much more because she is so special to me. So I think you dont have to worry about taking it out on her shell get more than enough love from just you!   And Im here if you need to talk!
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I have 1 child & live in Wartburg, Tennessee
posted 1st Oct
<blockquote><b>Quoting eur009:</b>" Should I get help though.. ? Is this going to be postpartum depression, does that start when you're pregnant? ... [snip!] ... his. I'm hateful that he's taken so much from me (emotionally, financially) . But I've been strong whenever it comes to him."</blockquote>

Nah, I wouldn't seek help yet, but it wouldn't hurt to mention your feelings to your OB. Just make sure you know the signs of PPD, so if it happens when your LO arrives, you'll know to seek help.  
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I have 1 child & live in Missouri
posted 3rd Oct
thank you !! I went to my cousins for a couple nights to get away.

I hope everything will be okay, I'm 34 weeks so not much longer until she's here. Her 'dad' ended up calling and he tried to say that the baby isn't his and I got soo pissed and upset & he tried to say he didn't mean it like that because he knows he shouldn't of said it in the first place. He is just super messed up and i don't know if he's confused or what but I think we're better off not trying to be together, because I am constantly angry with him for leaving in the first place! He claims he is trying but he's not.

& Just all the messed up stuff he does and says I think confuses us both. It needs to be about her and I don't think he's mature enough to even make it about her.
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I live in Japan
posted 3rd Oct
Quoting eur009:" thank you !! I went to my cousins for a couple nights to get away. I hope everything will be okay, ... [snip!] ... and says I think confuses us both. It needs to be about her and I don't think he's mature enough to even make it about her."

this is exactly how it was with me and bd!! and the time werent together when i was pregnant he had sex with a bunch of other girls and i found out about then when she was born he tried to come back to me and we both tried to try but i could just never let the past go i wanted to be with him so bad but i just couldnt let things go so that ruined it and now hes not even in her life not because of me but because he doesnt care he hasnt called in months not to even check on her so im tryin to move past him and just forget about him and just pray she has a real man come into her life one day and be a daddy to her.
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I have 1 child & live in Wartburg, Tennessee
posted 3rd Oct
Quoting eur009:" thank you !! I went to my cousins for a couple nights to get away. I hope everything will be okay, ... [snip!] ... and says I think confuses us both. It needs to be about her and I don't think he's mature enough to even make it about her."

this is exactly how it was with me and bd!! and the time werent together when i was pregnant he had sex with a bunch of other girls and i found out about then when she was born he tried to come back to me and we both tried to try but i could just never let the past go i wanted to be with him so bad but i just couldnt let things go so that ruined it and now hes not even in her life not because of me but because he doesnt care he hasnt called in months not to even check on her so im tryin to move past him and just forget about him and just pray she has a real man come into her life one day and be a daddy to her.
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I have 1 child & live in Wartburg, Tennessee
posted 3rd Oct
I think he's doing that too but he doesn't want to admit it. He is 'trying' to get back with me but I've asked him if he's been with other girls and he says no. He did not call at all today or text me so I'm assuming that's the truth, that is with other people and that he doesn't care.

I'm better than that and I deserve better, than he has the indecency to get mad when he finds out there's other people that like me! Just because I'm pregnant doesn't mean I can't pull games on him if I wanted to, but I don't have the time. He needs a reality check.. but he's already in trouble and in danger so he claims, including being arrested since he left. Idk when he will realise or if ever, or if she's just better off w/o him.

Lol.. if I found out he's been with ANY other girl since he left, WHILE i was pregnant with his child he has another thing coming!!! So he's lucky he hasn't told me yet if that's the case.
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I live in Japan
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