re: I cheated

Quoting kr.r:" How can you be sure of that unless you follow him around all the time?"

Small town... and I just know, I don't have to prove it to you.

I do however believe OP will probably cheat again since she likes the rush of cheating... but that doesn't mean she will cheat again.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" And how did you have the gut to sit and listen to her cry   The way you worded your OP it seems like ... [snip!] ... opposed to facing the music and working on your marriage but I guess that's something you'll have to look back and reflect on."</blockquote>



Out of five years of marriage, he has been deployed for three. I don't know how I was able to listen to her cry, but I have been accused of being emotionless at times. If I hadn't sat there and listened to her, I think she would have known something was happening.

<blockquote><b>Quoting BG Secrets:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" It's good you realize that. Also, do you know ... [snip!] ... a year ago about wanting to have an affair with me. I was still pretty happy in my marriage at the time and quit my job."</blockquote>




I'm glad I don't knowwho you are cuz I already don't like cheaters much. I still had some respect though cuz you are admiring there is no excise for it and such but that respect left is getting smaller and smaller.

Your husband needs to know the truth. How would you feel if he cheated on you and kept it a secret from you? Wouldn't you want to know the truth?

Quoting BG Secrets:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" And how did you have the gut to sit and listen ... [snip!] ... of being emotionless at times. If I hadn't sat there and listened to her, I think she would have known something was happening."

 
That accusation seems pretty spot on. Maybe you need some therapy if you ever want a healthy relationship. Normal people feel guilt in those situations.

You can't string people along like that! You need to do the right thing and come clean!

Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BG Secrets:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" ... [snip!] ... respect though cuz you are admiring there is no excise for it and such but that respect left is getting smaller and smaller."

...then leave this thread.

Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BG Secrets:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" ... [snip!] ... respect though cuz you are admiring there is no excise for it and such but that respect left is getting smaller and smaller."

Better person than I am, my respect was gone right after reading the OP.
Her nonchalant attitude about it all makes me sick.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>"   That accusation seems pretty spot on. Maybe you need some therapy if you ever want a healthy relationship. Normal people feel guilt in those situations."</blockquote>




This! Agree 100%

Quoting BG Secrets:" I don't know how to tell DH that I cheated on him last night and I don't feel bad about it. The only ... [snip!] ... would ruin X's business and that would be the end of us also? Do I continue a quiet affair? Do I not say or continue anything?"

I would worry about the other guy wanting to "win" your affection. I'd break it off if you think you don't love DH. But I wouldn't continue with the other guy either.

Quoting BG Secrets:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" And how did you have the gut to sit and listen ... [snip!] ... of being emotionless at times. If I hadn't sat there and listened to her, I think she would have known something was happening."

In this instance just because of all the personal ties I don't feel like anyone needs to know who did what. I think your Husband needs to know you've cheated but with who should remain anonymous. That's JMO. It's just not worth ruining all of these lives.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" ...then leave this thread."</blockquote>


Interested now..oh well. do hope the OP get any help she needs the emotional issues seem to be there

Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" Better person than I am, my respect was gone right after reading the OP. Her nonchalant attitude about it all makes me sick."

I honestly don't know why you girls torture yourself. If you can't set personal feelings aside why partake in threads such as these? You can't contribute anything positive or helpful. She doesn't care if you or anyone else doesn't respect her. That's not why she is reaching out.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" OK then I assume your kid(s) are under 10 years old. Where will the be when you're off on these lavish ... [snip!] ... down to early and have a glimpse of life without children. I just can't see how they factor into all of this you have going on."</blockquote>




That's one of the things I haven't figured out. I got married way too young and we got married because I was pregnant and his father told him it was the right thing to do. I love LO, but sometimes I want to be that carefree woman I've never had a chance to be. I hate admitting it to myself, but sometimes I feel like my life would have been completely different if I didn't have children.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" Better person than I am, my respect was gone right after reading the OP. Her nonchalant attitude about it all makes me sick."</blockquote>




yeah, well I think it was goods she was being honest about it all butseems to get worse.