re: First time mother

Quoting -Amanda:" im not lien   i was in active labor in my hospital bed trying to straighten my hair while my sister ... [snip!] ... me. but that was before they broke my water after i was laying down telling my mom MIL and sister to leave me the smurf alone. "

and... when you WERE in active labor.. after your water broke... how was it then? were you still straightening your hair?

Quoting Is that still my name?:" Labor with my son felt like someone was peeling my skin off with a cheese grader. There is no way to describe that measure of pain. I thought I was absolutely dying. "

yeah no one can convey the insane amounts of pain that one has in labor. I have found over the years that the first time moms that come in with the" I'm strong i can do this without pain meds" attitude last through about 2 real contrations before begging for the epidural. The ones that say "oh I'm a wuss i need the epidural" or "I'll see how it goes, i'm open to the epidural" have a realistic mind set and usually are able to do it without

Quoting Is that still my name?:" You'll know what's right for you when you are in labor. Everyone's labor and every individual labor is different."

very true! even when you have a natural labor 3 times before, the 4th might be totally different and beyond what you can handle.

I had my first all natural and then was induced for my second but didn't take anything for pain . With my first the pains were very manageable with breathing but the ring of fire hurt like hell . With my second the pains were intense but I managed pretty well with drugs.
my last was a different story we had a prolapsed cord but were doing OK with the pains up to that point ... after that it was an emergency C section.

eh. if you wanna think i'm lying go ahead. my first birth i was writhing in bed and screaming by 4 cm. my second i was walking into the hospital and laughing at my nurse when she checked me and i was 8cm, she had suggested half a minute before that she might be sending me back home because i didn't look like i was in labour heh. baby was born 2o min later, no iv, no epi. no screaming. just two low 'oh my gods' as i tore slightly. tearing hurt like hell, but it was quick pain that faded fast. i do that specific birth over again if i could.

Quoting snglemama:" saying it was easty afterwards, and actually easy.. are not always the same. I've never had a labor ... [snip!] ... heat of the moment.. even SHE wanted meds. no one things it doesn't hurt.. until they are embellishing their story later."

     

Quoting Elizabeth 0315:" I had my first all natural and then was induced for my second but didn't take anything for pain . With ... [snip!] ... story we had a prolapsed cord but were doing OK with the pains up to that point ... after that it was an emergency C section."

oh prolapsed cord rare event and one of those worst nightmare situations for nurses. I'm sorry that happened I bet you were scared smurffless - I would have been

Quoting ~Nimlorel~:" eh. if you wanna think i'm lying go ahead. my first birth i was writhing in bed and screaming by 4 cm. ... [snip!] ... tore slightly. tearing hurt like hell, but it was quick pain that faded fast. i do that specific birth over again if i could. "

Ugh .. Jealous

Quoting Is that still my name?:" Ugh .. Jealous"

my other two births honestly sucked though, i am no stranger to the pain of childbirth

Quoting nursemaya -mommy to 2:" oh prolapsed cord rare event and one of those worst nightmare situations for nurses. I'm sorry that happened I bet you were scared smurffless - I would have been"

Scared is not the word, I was dilated to 4 and all of a sudden I had this one nasty pain .. Like when your ready to push, I said to the nurse, " I think something is wrong" she was just after checking me and went to look at the machines at first, apparently the machines didn't see a problem .Thankfully she came over to recheck me. One look she dropped the blanket and ran from the room yelling for the Dr. They did a crash section using gas to put me out I had the vertical cut and one lengthwise to get him out , they cut his ear on the way . But I can honestly say I've never seen a team of people come together so fast and work as one. I've the most respect for nurses.

Quoting Elizabeth 0315:" Scared is not the word, I was dilated to 4 and all of a sudden I had this one nasty pain .. Like when ... [snip!] ... I can honestly say I've never seen a team of people come together so fast and work as one. I've the most respect for nurses."

I've seen it once so far and wouldn't want to again. sorry you had to go through that

I had a prolapsed chord with my daughter... I thought it was slightly common... but all the hospital staff was freaking out... now I guess I know why. I thought it was something that hospitals saw frequently..

Quoting nursemaya -mommy to 2:" I've seen it once so far and wouldn't want to again. sorry you had to go through that"

thank you   I am actually scared of something like that happening again . I know it's an irrational fear but still I'm worried about that and about uterine rupture .. I think the 2nd worry is from having the c section tho.

Quoting Is that still my name?:" I had a prolapsed chord with my daughter... I thought it was slightly common... but all the hospital ... [snip!] ... all the hospital staff was freaking out... now I guess I know why. I thought it was something that hospitals saw frequently.."

Are you sure that wasn't a nuchal cord. Prolapsed cord is a very rare and a true emergency that requires surgical intervention unles the kid literally comes flying out as the cord is discovered

Quoting Elizabeth 0315:" thank you   I am actually scared of something like that happening again . I know it's an irrational ... [snip!] ... fear but still I'm worried about that and about uterine rupture .. I think the 2nd worry is from having the c section tho."

** hugs**