re: abort a child.. no not me..please not me

<blockquote><b>Quoting bia.:</b>" What about the placenta?"</blockquote>




No. I'm still his secret. And I had an ultrasound last week and my placenta isn't completely attached to my uterine wall.

Maybe I'll miscarry...I don't know... But he was absolutely disgusted by any talk of it.

Quoting **Hanna**:" Its hot then cold. Like last week we talked and I thought we agreed to keep it. But then tonight bam! ... [snip!] ... He said it was gross. And he hoped the baby died to save us money.. He doesn't realize those words strike deep and hard."

Then he should learn about birth control. The fact that he has 3 other kids is not YOUR problem. He needs to learn what a condom is.

Quoting **Hanna**:" Its hot then cold. Like last week we talked and I thought we agreed to keep it. But then tonight bam! ... [snip!] ... He said it was gross. And he hoped the baby died to save us money.. He doesn't realize those words strike deep and hard."

What a piece of smurf.

Quoting **Hanna**:" <blockquote><b>Quoting bia.:</b>" What about the placenta?"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... attached to my uterine wall. Maybe I'll miscarry...I don't know... But he was absolutely disgusted by any talk of it."

Wow that's really sad, I'm so sorry!  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jennybananna:</b>" Then he should learn about birth control. The fact that he has 3 other kids is not YOUR problem. He needs to learn what a condom is."</blockquote>




I was on the pill. And I swear I was taking it correctly and religiously. The doctor thought I was getting a false positive at first. after the hcg counts...he decided that I want getting a high enough dosage. A day late and a dollar short...:/ I never imagined this would happen. Not while using proper BC... I cried and cried. But the worse was yet to come... Because his traction to out all was far more unimagined than anything else.

I think the biggest question you need to ask yourself is are you prepared to go through this pregnancy and raising this child by yourself. He's not going to come around and you aren't going to have a fairy tale ending with this guy. He's a dick and doesn't care about you or that child. I know that is harsh but look at the reality of the situation. Distance yourself from him and prepare to do it on your own or get an abortion. Either way get away from this guy, he's toxic.

<blockquote><b>Quoting **Hanna**:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jennybananna:</b>" Then he should learn about birth control. ... [snip!] ... I cried and cried. But the worse was yet to come... Because his traction to out all was far more unimagined than anything else."</blockquote>




That just sounded really dramatic...I'm sorry. I'm really hurt. I'm crying and kicking myself for not knowing what to do.

<blockquote><b>Quoting 3 little monsters:</b>" I think the biggest question you need to ask yourself is are you prepared to go through this pregnancy ... [snip!] ... Distance yourself from him and prepare to do it on your own or get an abortion. Either way get away from this guy, he's toxic."</blockquote>




I get paid nine bucks an hour and live in his apartment...its Honda take done time to save up... Ya know? we live in a cluster of tiny Towns abs farms...there aren't any women shelters out here..

I looked at your other posts.
Gah, he sounds like a friend of mine's ex.. the guy, Shawn was his name, had twin daughters and basically pulled the same smurf with her (except his mom knew of it all).
Get out and run now. I wouldn't trust that behavior with a 10 ft pole. Especially now that he's threatening you. :/

<blockquote><b>Quoting **Hanna**:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 3 little monsters:</b>" I think the biggest question you need ... [snip!] ... take done time to save up... Ya know? we live in a cluster of tiny Towns abs farms...there aren't any women shelters out here.."</blockquote>




I never said go to a shelter. They were never available in the small towns I lived in either so it's never something I factor in. I'm just saying whatever you decide you need to get away from this guy. Even if you do what he wants and abort its not going to make him a good guy to be dating. I'm saying do what's right for YOU on the pregnancy side but ditch the douche either way.

OP i really feel for you. There has got to some assistance for you out there that you can use. Exhaust any option possible if you really want to keep your baby. He is being a huge jerk for doing this to you.

I went through a similar situation 3 years ago with my ex. He already had one son who was 7 at the time. I too got pregnant on birth control (the pill). When we found out we were both scared out of our minds because we were financialy stable. One day he would want it. Next day he wanted me to have an abortion. He yelled at me for two hour straight telling me i HAD to have an abortion. That we could work on becoming more stable in the future and have another baby down the road. I stupidly believed him and had the abortion. He left me anyways for another woman a month later. Things never got better. Last week was my 3 year anniversary of my abortion. It still sits in the back of my mind everyday how I would have a 2.5 year old right now.

Do whats best for YOU!!!! Thinking of you. <3

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♀NoBoysAllowed:</b>" He can't fire you, and if he tries, go over his head and let them know. If you want your baby, then that is your right."</blockquote>



Can you say major lawsuit! Get rid of him go to his superiors and don't let him bully you into ending your pregnancy if you don't want to you don't need him there are a lot of resources out there for help if you want this baby go for it did you threaten to fire him for having unprotected sex he's an smurf

From your previous posts it sounds like hes just keeping you there so he has someone there, stringing you along and degrading you. no one deserves to be treated like that no matter how much you love the person and for him to even give you an ultimatum with the situation you are in is just insane. Drop that bastard asap!!

You can do it if you want to! Don't let him bully you into anything. I just went through my entire pregnancy alone and now I am raising my baby on my own. I lost my job halfway through my pregnancy and had to work really hard to find something else. It is possible!

I don't want him to lose his job., I don't want child sport. It just bothers me...abortion does.
I love him and want to be with him forever.
I just wish he would accept this baby.
He's now offering me adoption as an option...
That will be hard.
I've been through that...and its hard.
all the decisions...
I would never hurt him. And I don't want his money.
But of we are going to be together forever....what's the difference between now and a year or three years?