Two best friends, one baby shower, can you say nightmare (Ra

I am sorry but this will be long (and a bit confusing) . I threw a big baby shower for one of my best friends. This was all while my daughter was sick with cancer. During the duration of my daughter's treatment and eventual death, this friend and another best friend were there for me through everything. Now I am pregnant and the friend that I threw the shower for told me that she was throwing me a shower. I gave her the names of people that I thought would like to help her. Everyone (except the second best friend) called her and offered to help. The other friend was waiting for a call from the first. She finally called her today and needless to say, the second friend was a bitch to the one who took the initative to throw the shower to begin with.
Past history... the two freinds don't really care for each other.
The second best friend told the friend giving the shower that she has to travel to another state on the date that she was planning to have my shower. And for what... to get her hair done.
I was verbally attacked by the fiance' of the second friend tonight because the first didn't let her help plan my shower. Which is non of his business or mine because it is technically a surprise shower.
What I thinkmakes me so mad is that I am one of two matrons of honor at the second friend's wedding in October. I have been putting up with more BS from her other MOH andanother bridesmaid for months. Andwhen I hinted to the fact that I was having issues she told me she didn't careif we don't like each other... we just "have" to get along because it is her wedding.
I want to scream. I feel like (and I am sure I sound like) I am in Junior high school again. And I am not even sure who I am more annoyed with!
I am sorry I really just needed to get this off my chest. I am so freaking stressed out.

wow. First I'm sorry about your daughter, and secondly, I'm sorry you're having to go through all of that. It seems very stressful. Have you tried to tell them that they need to put their differences aside, that this is your shower? And if it were me I'd tell them both that if they can't get over their problems and act civil then they can't plan the shower.

That's really heartbreaking about your daughter. It seems like maybe your friends don't have any children of their own...if they did, they would certainly understand that this is a stressful time for you and that a child is reason to celebrate, not fight. I am sorry you have to deal with all that!!

I am 17 and even I can say that's immature!!!
They need to settle their differences!!
I hope the shower works out and goodluck =)