Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" I think too many of the people are replying because they as mothers would not want their children taken. ... [snip!] ... - all expensive. Children need programs like that and even if the mom can pay for that stuff , can she attend the programs?"
There are free programs out there for that kind of stuff...and dad can always help out with the programs if she can't be there...
The step-mother is not the mother. Whether she's there or not is irrelevant because she's not the parent.
Sorry, you're right, if I was the mom, my kids wouldn't go there just b/c he's making more money...no woman is going to think she can take over or step in for me.