Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" I think too many of the people are replying because they as mothers would not want their children taken. ... [snip!] ... - all expensive. Children need programs like that and even if the mom can pay for that stuff , can she attend the programs?"
People keep saying that money shouldn't be a factor in custody, but I think it most certainly is.
Would they give a mother joint custody if she were homeless? No. What about if she was on housing assistance and had one bedroom, no job, and multiple kids? No. Money does not equate to love, but when it comes down to one parent struggling and one parent being able to effortless care for the child, I think the whole stigma of "children need to be with their mother" thing needs to be abolished.
I've seen many a good father not have access to their kids in the south because the mother can almost get away with murder,here. It's sickening. There are young women (I know TWO personally) that got married while pregnant just so that the baby's father wouldn't have any rights to them.