TTC #3 (with school-age kids)

Until your other child(ren) were in school, how did you like it?

Had a pregnancy scare recently. Got us talking about when a good time would be to actually TRY for another  

On one hand, I feel like once DD is in school (DS already is), I'll want to take advantage of the peace and quiet and adult interaction I could have.

On the other hand, I would love one more and definitely don't want to TTC until DD is in school, I don't want them that close together. DD and DS are nearly 4 years apart and I love the age difference.

But then DS will be 8 or so when we have a newb. I feel like that's an enormous age difference..

IDK, input?!

Haha my oldest half brother is 37 and I'm 18... Then I have another one at 34, a half sister at 30 and another at 28. And another brother at 21....
Age difference doesn't matter too much  

that is a big gap. I have one sister who is 15 years older then me and another that is 9 years older then me. I never had a relationship with them because they were so much older and too busy doing there own thing to want anything to do with me

Our oldest is about to be 7 and our youngest turned 4 in August. Both are in school...and only a few more weeks until this one comes. I honestly love it. I'll get the one on one time with the baby, I am still able to volunteer in both of their classes and in the process get adult time too.

My oldest will be 14 when this baby is born. To each their own, they will have a relationship if you have a close family it will just be a different kind of one.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Andi+Andy=Marley+1:</b>" that is a big gap. I have one sister who is 15 years older then me and another that is 9 years older ... [snip!] ... had a relationship with them because they were so much older and too busy doing there own thing to want anything to do with me"</blockquote>



Yeah I know.. I don't see them too much admittedly. But my and my 21 yr old brother get along great.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jerri _:</b>" Our oldest is about to be 7 and our youngest turned 4 in August. Both are in school...and only a few ... [snip!] ... the one on one time with the baby, I am still able to volunteer in both of their classes and in the process get adult time too."</blockquote>

Right, that's what I want. DS got one on one time. DD does, now that he's started school.
I would want the same for another child. My sister and I are 6 years apart and we're very close, so I'm not worried about that, kwim?

I just don't want to be raising kids foreverrrr, lol.

I am in thesame boat!My daughter is 3 and my son is 6 and its so nice, bc they are old enough to do a lot...no more diapers, etc.They sleep good...they get to enjoy vacations and stuff with us.A baby would ruin the relaxation I have lol.but at the same time, I would love another baby.I;m thinking maybe in 5 yrs.So then Ryan would be 11....in middle school....so it wouldn't be that bad...

Initally I wanted to TTC sooner rather than later, now decided that I would like just about the same age gap between the girls, which is 3 and a half years. I think it's fitting, and I love the idea of the older children being in school and getting time with the newb, and them each getting their own time to be a baby  

I used to say I wanted to 'get it over with' and have them all together, but meh, I am young  

My boys are between 1.5 -2 years apart. I didn't plan it that way. Ok I did with DS1 and DS2, but #3 was a surprise. lol   Me and my baby brother are 11 years apart. IMO, 11 years is a big gap. By the time my brother was grown up enough to interact with, i was moved out and living on my own. My sister is only 2 years younger than I am and I feel like we were siblings.

I'm giving myself until I turn 35 (another 4 years) to decide whether or not I want to have another baby. If i don't have another baby by then, i'm shutting down the baby making factory.   Everyone has different opinions about this though. What works for me and my family isn't going to work for everyone. I also have complicated pregnancies and i don't want to be all that much older if I'm going to go through all of that again.