thinking im done..... long.

So... Hubby and i have had a rough few years financially. Thank u economy!
Anyways.... I am currently 37 weeks with baby #6 and i always feel so "down". We get along great... Have similar interests... Have good conversation.... Laugh alot.... Everything seems good. Until two things happen:
1. His family is around. Then its about THEM. I was having lower backache and tailbone pain yesterday on top of feeling like i had morning sickness.... And he STILL thought i was being difficult cause i told him i didnt want his mom to come over while he and his brother (who hates me) chop firewood. Long story short... She came over anyways.

2. Kids are in bed and i mention sex. God forbid im almost 30 and have a higher sex drive than my 32 year old husband. I would understand if it were stress or whatever but this has been going on for about a year now. It sucks. I feel like im a maid that cooks and cleans... And a roommate for conversation... But what about physical interaction? I need that too.
It just sucks. I feel like he doesnt find me attractive anymore.... And in the past he couldnt get enough sex while i was pregnant and persued it a week or 2 after i delivered. Now.... Nothing. Hes always too "tired".

End vent. Sorry so long.

I think it's hormones.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~*Mommy of 5*~:</b>" So... Hubby and i have had a rough few years financially. Thank u economy! Anyways.... I am currently ... [snip!] ... pregnant and persued it a week or 2 after i delivered. Now.... Nothing. Hes always too "tired". End vent. Sorry so long."</blockquote>



I'm sorry dear. But I can relate to number two; we've had sex once in the past 9 months (and DD is 5 1/2 months.) Things will get better!

Have you talked to him about it?

Ugh! Everytime I mention sex to my DH he's alwad 'too tired' too. So I got myself a vibrator and stopped asking him for sex. He might ask for sex once a month and complains we never have sex...not my fault! It's his fault his only getting off once or twice a month. I'm getting off atleast 3 times a week  

It probably is horomones.... But who knows at this point..... Yes ive talked to him about it. He said it would get better but it hasnt..... And a vibrator? Ive only SEEN one once. Might have to check into that though LOL....

Quoting ~*Mommy of 5*~:" It probably is horomones.... But who knows at this point..... Yes ive talked to him about it. He said ... [snip!] ... said it would get better but it hasnt..... And a vibrator? Ive only SEEN one once. Might have to check into that though LOL...."

massaging showerheads work too  

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" massaging showerheads work too  "</blockquote>




Oh so true! I'd spen all day in the shower if I had a nice hand held shower head

Sounds like you are going through a rough patch is it possible to get a romantic night away before baby comes or even a romantic dinner sans children wo distractions no phone tv ect a date night where you can talk?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs cree:</b>" Sounds like you are going through a rough patch is it possible to get a romantic night away before baby ... [snip!] ... away before baby comes or even a romantic dinner sans children wo distractions no phone tv ect a date night where you can talk?"</blockquote>




I WISH! I dont wanna ask my SIL to babysit cause shes taking time off of work and everything to help me after the baby... She will be here for about a week. Thank God! My mom is busy cause my little brother whos 12 has hodgkins disease and is undergoing chemo and starting radiation soon. My grandma is too old to keep up with all 5 kids.... And HIS mom would call us a million times while we are out and the kids dont like her babysitting anyways. My Aunt offered to come with my Grandma after i have the baby and stay the night so we can go out and then get some good sleep.... Which will be nice. But before the baby? Probably not.  

Vibrators r excellent. I had never seen one before and my hubby has a way lower sex drive than i do. So i bought one online for like 6 bucks. The packaging was discreet and he didnt even no about it till he noticed i had quit asking him for sex. The less i askdd for it the more he wanted it.