re: how to make anal sex not feel like Im being ripped apart

I don't drink, and we don't have to use lube, but I get wet, REALLY wet. The best thing for me is if he goes down on me first. That usually entails a little finger up the ass because that sends my over the edge. Then he usually loosens me up a bit with fingers and playing around. After that he just starts gradually putting it in. If you push out a little it makes it easier for him to go in.

If it still hurts get some anal beads and practice. I used to be totally against anal but because my husband does it right without trying to kill me it is actually enjoyable.

Also make sure after anal he doesn't go back to the vag because that is the ultimate setup for infection.

Quoting Ur Local Frnt Desk Clrk:" I never have to be drunk for vagina sex... wtf... ugh.. so gay guys must have drinking problems then... ... [snip!] ... then... lmao jk But seriously, ok... I am willing to try ONE more time, but if this advice all fails, then smurf that."

I would advise against getting drunk first. Try lube like astro glide or something else water based. On the TMI side of anal sex you should use a warm water douche up there before the act it cleans everything out (gross I know but it helps) & have him go slow at first. I've had 12 inches up me before with no problem.(gross I know)  

<blockquote><b>Quoting JoeyN:</b>" I would advise against getting drunk first. Try lube like astro glide or something else water based. ... [snip!] ... (gross I know but it helps) & have him go slow at first. I've had 12 inches up me before with no problem.(gross I know)  "</blockquote>


O_O

I wouldnt even try 12 inches in my vagina, nevermind my ass...Lol

I would run like hell.  

Quoting Twizzlahs:" <blockquote><b>Quoting JoeyN:</b>" I would advise against getting drunk first. Try ... [snip!] ...  "</blockquote> O_O I wouldnt even try 12 inches in my vagina, nevermind my ass...Lol I would run like hell.  "

I have a small weiner so I like'em big!  

Stand up and bend over.

You have to really relax and be well lubed up. Make sure he is well lubed too.

Quoting Jennybananna:" 1) Get a little drunk 2) Be really smurfing horny and turned on 3) During foreplay have him start with ... [snip!] ... smurf up good, lube your ass up good 5) Have him start nice and slow if it hurts like a bitch then go back to step 3 and repeat."

like, love.... hahahah... this just made my night.... =]

Quoting Leland makes Three =]:" like, love.... hahahah... this just made my night.... =]"

Thats how my momma taught me

Didn't have time to read through the responses, but work your way up. Start with fingers and plenty of lube. The last thing you wanna do is tear cuz that can cause problems.. but if you relax and work your way up then it can be fun.

ge drunk, or drink a bit it will actually help you relax, and you MUST be relaxed.

some lube if you wont be wet enough ( i usually dont need it, but im a kinky one, love anal....love sex haha)

Use lots of lube!!!!. Use a vibrator on your clit. anal hurts every time I do it the only time it didn't hurt and felt good was when I was on ecstasy. My. BD loves it but I can't do x every time. Try having him lick and finger your ass before he does it that usually helps

lmao.
i did it once about 6 years ago and never wanna do it again.
SO has never done it and wants to do it.

I think it's an exit only and not ment for sex, that's why it feels like a huge turd that keeps sucking back up in there after you just about got it pushed out once the pain is gone.
and by golly it's painful even with lube! lol

I guess it's not everyone's thing...

i was totally against anal till i got with my ex. he begged me for MONTHS to let him try it. finally i gave in and told him he could use a FINGER but not his dick. after the initial uncomfortable feeling i realized that i actually liked it when i relaxed. so we ran off to the sex toy store and got this little thing called a "finger banger" and some lube. the "finger banger" was this little finger shaped thing that he could stick his finger into and it had a vibrator. we ran home and started at it. we were doing doggy style, everything was GREAT. until we were done. the dummy didnt realize that he had to keep his finger in it or else my ass would swallow it. so i had a pink vibrating finger banger stuck up my ass and i had NO idea what to do. meanwhile he was laughing his ASS off (im glad HE thought it was funny) i was thinking to myself, OMG, how can i go to the e.r. and explain that i have a vibrating toy stuck in my ass and i need help getting it out? so i locked myself in the bathroom and tried to get it out. finally i figured out i could feel it through my vagainas back wall. so i stuck my fingers up there and pushed it down and out. most horrifying experiance of my LIFE. i cut off all sex for a couple of days because of it (mainly because he thought it was sooooo funny) after that we didnt try anal again until i got an actualy buttplug where the end of it was wide so it wouldnt get sucked up in there.

so, that being said, i recommend starting with toys and work your way up in size, you have to stretch all that out before its comfortable with a dick. unless he has a little dick then by all means go for it. i actually tried to use my plug last night after about 2 months of not using it and it hurt. everything had stretched back after nonuse.

once you start enjoying it, i think it makes orgasms more intense. atleast for me it does.

have fun!

<blockquote><b>Quoting PeanutButter*superkink*:</b>" ANAL EASE And lots of lube The anal ease numbs it so you don't feel the pain,but you still feel the sex."</blockquote>

<blockquote><b>Quoting PeanutButter*superkink*:</b>" ANAL EASE And lots of lube The anal ease numbs it so you don't feel the pain,but you still feel the sex."</blockquote>




I used that smurf once and it numbed my ex so he couldn't get off at all.