Quoting nooch:" thank you, i didn't know how the correct way to word my response but you took it out of my fingertips. ... [snip!] ... go after him since i am on daycare program called families first but they couldn't get in contact with him and he isn't on bc "
Quoting LiveLove2012(::" What is dhs? And if you have him home number, can't you give them that to get a hold of him? He doesn't need to sign the bc, he just needs to submit to a DNA test, which can be court ordered."
Quoting Laneys*Mama:" I don't think she said HE was using his mental illness as an excuse. She said that's why SHE feels he hasn't been there. Not everything is about child support where children are concerned. "
Quoting Laneys*Mama:" I didn't want to give them BD's name, because I didn't want him to have rights to my daughter, but ... [snip!] ... to try. Just prepare yourself for him to not want to talk or not want to be involved. Prepare for the worst, hope for the best."
Quoting LiveLove2012(::" I know not everything is about child support. I grew up without a father. My mom didn't see a penny ... [snip!] ... used this as an excuse, which is probably the reason she uses it as an excuse for him. I might be assuming, but it's logical."
Quoting nooch:" i felt the same way you do, i didn't want to give them his name but i didn't want to mess up my families ... [snip!] ... because i can not afford daycare. thank you for the advice, it really has helped me, i just gotta do a lot of thinking. "
Quoting Laneys*Mama:" It's not at all logical. That would be like my baby's dad saying I'm an unfit mother because I'm bi-polar ... [snip!] ... dad, he's not the same person, it's not the same scenario. She doesn't want his money, she wants her child to have a father."
Quoting LiveLove2012(::" She asked an opinion. I gave it to her. You don't like it, too bad. You know what they say about opinions, ... [snip!] ... about opinions, they are like smurfs. I also didn't see that she wanted him in her daughters life until after my last post."
Quoting Laneys*Mama:" I was too afraid to lie and then them find out that I knew who he was and me get in trouble for fraud ... [snip!] ... because in Ohio, child support and visitation are two completely separate issues. I'm not sure how it works there though."
Quoting nooch:" same here. was he willing to do a dna test? "
Quoting Laneys*Mama:" Yes, because he was convinced that she wasn't his. 99.99999% later..... "
Quoting nooch:" there is no denying that she is his, his sister was like "that is my brothers baby, they look just alike" "